What goes on in that steamy swamp you call your brain.
In the last two months, I have looked at a couple of gay porn Web sites.
The pictures I have looked at have aroused me at times, even while filling me with a sense of repulsion and disgust. It's almost as if the taboo of looking at these sort of images, and the anxiety that I feel when doing so, creates a strong arousal. I find that I have powerful orgasms which, of course, make me feel ashamed afterwards for hours, or even days. My girlfriend is profoundly understanding and loving in all of this and is not nearly as disturbed about this as I am. Nevertheless, it bothers me that I find gay pornography arousing at times and even seek it out.
I have always masturbated to thoughts and pictures of male nudity, but I am not homosexual.
I just don't get off well when I think of females. My girlfriend can get me off very easily – but when I masturbate it's much quicker and easier for me to imagine a male rather than a female, even though I do not like guys in that way. I have masturbated with guys, and I have masturbated guys before, and I didn't like it at all. How do I get to where I am more comfortable masturbating while thinking of females? Is it common to think of guys sometimes?
You've said "the jury is still out" on whether it's okay for young people to have access to pornography.
JackinWorld seems to say masturbating while fantasizing about someone is normal and healthy, as long as you realize the difference between fantasy and reality. I agree with that. But how is getting and looking at pornography different from just visualizing it in your mind?
I am in a platonic relationship with a very attractive girl whom I've had a crush on long before we became friends.
But I am worried that if I continue to fantasize about her while masturbating I will not be able to be happy without having sex with her. I could stop fantasizing about her, but I worry about sexual repression – and besides, I find fantasizing about her the easiest. (They're all consenting-sex fantasies, by the way.)
Can I actually draw the line between fantasy and reality? Will my subconscious listen? She knows I want to have sex with her, if that matters.
I like to masturbate while wearing women's clothes.
I enjoy the feeling of dressing up like a woman and pretending to be one. I have no real interest in men, but I would love to be with a female while doing this. Does anyone else do this?
Sometimes when I masturbate I imagine young naked children.
I don't know why, but they just pop into my mind. I feel extremely guilty sometimes after masturbating while thinking about a nude 6-year-old or something. I'm kind of a hypocrite – when I'm not masturbating I'm truly against kiddie porn, but when I masturbate I get those images in my mind. Is there anything I can do to deal with this? Or should I just let these images go through my head and shut up about them?
I've noticed your site hasn't addressed the topic of sexual fetishes.
Personally, I have a fetish for socks of all kinds and colors. They get me so aroused that if I don't masturbate on a regular basis throughout the day, I walk around the whole day with an erection. Is this a normal fetish? I have never found it interesting to fantasize about people when I do my deed – only socks.
I don't know why, but every time I masturbate I can't stop thinking about guys.
I am seriously not gay – I have already lost my virginity to a girl two years ago, and I enjoyed it a lot. But I always think of guys' penises when I masturbate. What does this mean?
- age 17, Canada
This is very common. Masturbation, unlike intercourse with a female, is a very male-oriented activity: you have your penis in your hand, you're getting intense pleasure from it, you're touching yourself in other places, and you're getting ready to ejaculate. For some, the concept of girls just doesn't fit into the picture at this moment.
Whenever I masturbate, I can't help but to think about other guys and their penises.
I sometimes imagine playing truth or dare and having to masturbate somebody else. My friends and I have "shoot the wad" contests, and I find it pleasurable to have some other guy give me a hand job. Does it mean I am gay or bi?
- age 14, New York
I've read a lot of stuff here that says many guys like to masturbate together and play with each other's penises, but only if they don't think what they're doing is being 'gay'.
But isn't that what being gay or bi means – getting turned on by other guys and their penises? When I masturbate, I always think about other guys, and I like it very much. I think I am gay, but ... so what if I am? What happens if I decide I like just being with guys and I don't want to be with girls? Does that mean I'm 'gay', or is there something else involved with that? And If I am gay, what's so wrong about that?
- age 15, New Jersey
