I am seriously not gay – I have already lost my virginity to a girl two years ago, and I enjoyed it a lot. But I always think of guys' penises when I masturbate. What does this mean?
- age 17, Canada
This is very common. Masturbation, unlike intercourse with a female, is a very male-oriented activity: you have your penis in your hand, you're getting intense pleasure from it, you're touching yourself in other places, and you're getting ready to ejaculate. For some, the concept of girls just doesn't fit into the picture at this moment.
Even if you did have a bisexual streak, this too is very common. Rather than getting freaked about it, just consider yourself normal. There's no reason to get upset over something that's shared by most guys – including, probably, most of your friends and family.