If you already know how to masturbate, you might think nobody needs to be told how to do it – but we're amazed how many guys have trouble. They read JackinHow-To, they proceed to masturbate for 15 or 20 minutes, and then they get bored and give up. If this is you, you're doing it wrong! Turn off the TV or the Playstation – sometimes, masturbation demands your full attention if you want to go "all the way" with it. (And as anyone who's ejaculated will tell you, it's the only way to go.)
Masturbation with the intent to orgasm is about building up the stimulation over time until your body can't take it anymore. If you're having trouble, be sure to use some kind of lubrication, and grip fairly hard. A lot of it is mental, too – concentrate on the feelings you're producing. Close your eyes and think of the sexiest person or situation you can imagine. It helps if this "fantasy" of yours corresponds to the physical feelings you're experiencing – for example, you can imagine that your super-sexy person is masturbating you. Also, try moving your hips around; contract your pelvic muscles rhythmically as if you were actually thrusting. Or, hold your hand still while you move your penis in and out with your hips. This helps your body "get into it."
Remember: If you're still in your early teens, you may be too young to ejaculate. If that's the case, you may still have an orgasm – but it probably won't be as intense or well defined as it will be when you're older. If you've done everything mentioned here and you still can't have an orgasm, that too may be because you're too young and your reproductive system just hasn't developed enough to give you an orgasm. If for example you don't yet have any hair growing in your armpits, that means you still have lots of growing to do. In that case, all you can do is be patient and wait for your body to develop more.
For more on the "mental side" of masturbation, go here.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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