Lying on your back, hold the base of your penis with your usual masturbating hand, and using the tip of a finger of the other hand, massage the "sweet spot" under your penis head in a circular motion. Don't use lube – your finger should not be sliding on top of your skin but rather moving the sweet spot around. There's no other motion at all; let your whole body lie perfectly still. The object is to make your penis do all the work during orgasm, and for you to be able to feel every throb and spurt. It's important to maintain a constant rate throughout the entire session, as this will help lengthen the orgasm. Your penis might cry for you to "get busy" for real, but don't give in. It will begin to throb and buck – slowly at first, and then faster and faster. When you finally reach orgasm, you should be able to feel the semen climbing up inside your penis – it's amazing to feel your penis flood as the pressure peaks, like a faucet being slowly turned on. Don't strain, push, or tighten "that muscle" – the one that controls urination – just lie still (except for your finger) and let your semen come out by all by itself. And don't stop massaging – keep going all the way until your orgasm is entirely over and your penis is getting soft. It will take several minutes for your penis to relax and stop being sensitive. You may feel totally drained, like a huge orgasm was pulled out of you. It's quite a feeling.