Experience different orgasms through self-discipline.
Stop & Go
Get some lube, and begin to masturbate in your favorite position – but right before you ejaculate, STOP! Put your hands down, or put them behind your head, so you don't ejaculate. Let your erection get just a little soft, and then start again, and once again, right before you ejaculate, STOP. If you do this at least four times, not only will it prolong your session greatly, it will make you ejaculate a lot more semen.
Torture Yourself
Try 20 light masturbation strokes, from base to top, followed by 10 quick ones. Keep alternating. Most men can't stand more than 10 minutes if someone else is doing it. This can be considered slow torture masturbation – you want to ejaculate, but you can't. When you do, the orgasm is especially good.
Kegels for Men
There are exercises called Kegels for men that increase orgasm intensity. Kegels for men increase sexual feeling by strengthening the pelvic muscles. To get in touch with your pelvic muscles, pretend you're in danger of urinating or having a bowel movement but that you have to wait until you're near a toilet. The muscles you squeeze to hold it in are your pelvic muscles. To strengthen these muscles, start by holding and releasing them 15 times, twice a day. Don't hold the contraction – just squeeze and let go. You can do this unobserved almost anywhere – while driving a car, reading the paper, watching TV, during a meeting ... wherever. Gradually increase the number of squeezes until you're up to 75, twice a day. When you reach 75 at a sitting, instead of immediately releasing the contraction, hold it for a count of three, and then relax and repeat. Work up slowly to about 50 of these longer Kegels. Continue doing the exercises for six weeks, alternating between the shorter and the longer Kegels. The results should be noticeable in your orgasms after a month or more. Once you have the technique down, you can squeeze your pelvic muscles when you're having an erotic fantasy, when you're being sexually stimulated, or when you're having intercourse. Feel free to experiment and see what methods increase your orgasmic intensity the most.
Beat to the Clock
After you have masturbated for a good, leisurely long time (with many stops and starts!), set some kind of timer, alarm clock, or digital watch to go off in 10 minutes – and don't let yourself ejaculate until the timer goes off. You should also have a digital clock in the room to note the time. (This can be the same clock as the one with the alarm, as long as it doesn't display seconds – you want to know the time to the minute, but not down to the second.) Refrain from looking at the clock for the first few minutes. As the ejaculation time draws near, occasionally glance at it – but don't stare. When there's one minute left on the clock, you'll go crazy with anticipation because the alarm could ring at any second. Try to hover right on the edge so you can orgasm immediately when the alarm rings. It will seem like an eternity!
It's especially good if the alarm has a fairly long ringing cycle. If it continues to ring as you begin ejaculating, it will heighten the sense of urgency and tension relief.
Tiny One-Fingered Circle
Lying on your back, hold the base of your penis with your usual masturbating hand, and using the tip of a finger of the other hand, massage the "sweet spot" under your penis head in a circular motion. Don't use lube – your finger should not be sliding on top of your skin but rather moving the sweet spot around. There's no other motion at all; let your whole body lie perfectly still. The object is to make your penis do all the work during orgasm, and for you to be able to feel every throb and spurt. It's important to maintain a constant rate throughout the entire session, as this will help lengthen the orgasm. Your penis might cry for you to "get busy" for real, but don't give in. It will begin to throb and buck – slowly at first, and then faster and faster. When you finally reach orgasm, you should be able to feel the semen climbing up inside your penis – it's amazing to feel your penis flood as the pressure peaks, like a faucet being slowly turned on. Don't strain, push, or tighten "that muscle" – the one that controls urination – just lie still (except for your finger) and let your semen come out by all by itself. And don't stop massaging – keep going all the way until your orgasm is entirely over and your penis is getting soft. It will take several minutes for your penis to relax and stop being sensitive. You may feel totally drained, like a huge orgasm was pulled out of you. It's quite a feeling.
Hands Off
To keep your erection after ejaculating, stroke to the point that you are ready to ejaculate – but then do not touch your penis and relax all of your muscles. The orgasm will be less intense, but you will stay erect and can continue, and you will not lose the excitement in your body. When you get control, you will be able to do this as many times in one session as you wish.
Don't Touch it
For this technique you need music, and preferably a portable player with earphones. Strip naked and lie on a bed or in any other comfortable place. Put a towel underneath you if you're worried about the mess. Make sure you have nothing touching your penis or any other part of your body apart from what you are lying on. Put on a CD of music that makes you horny – not music to make love to, but music to screw to. Then touch your heels and put your hands behind your head while you listen to the music. Think of sex and lots of it – let your mind go crazy. When you start to get an erection you'll want to touch it, but DON'T! Swing your hips up and masturbate with the air, but whatever you do, don't touch your penis until the music finishes – then, when the CD is over, grab your penis and masturbate wildly.
It Pays to Relax
Tightening your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle – the one that stops urine from coming out – makes your orgasm approach quicker. However, you can control that muscle while you masturbate, and you can keep it relaxed. If you concentrate on keeping it relaxed the whole time while you masturbate, you can go for a very long time without having that sensation of an impending orgasm. But everything still builds up inside you – even if you can't feel it. Masturbating for a long time this way can eventually lead to an explosive orgasm with a lot of semen.
Serious Relaxation
Rub the head of your penis calmly enough so you don't have the urge to contract the muscle that spasms during orgasm. Remain completely relaxed, and release all tension in your muscles, breathing, and anywhere else in your body. Free your mind, and don't dwell on the pleasure or the hardness of your penis. Even when you feel like orgasming, remain relaxed and release the pleasure. Breathe normally. You will continue to build the intense feeling until you reach a point where you simply can't stand it anymore. If you are skillful, you may even experience a kind of momentary blindness. Even when you feel like exploding, stay relaxed, enjoy the intense pleasure, and keep rubbing!
Paralyzed
Lie back, and without moving a single muscle, stroke as slowly and gently as possible. I mean NOT A SINGLE MUSCLE. It takes a lot of self-control to be able to not move – but since it takes so long to reach orgasm, it is much more intense than normal.
