However, when I'm with my girlfriend, I can feel "pre-cum" oozing out, even when we're not doing anything sexual. This is kind of embarrassing, because when we do become sexual I always have a big wet spot in my underwear. I think she notices but doesn't say anything about it. Is this normal? How can I make this "pre-cum" stop, or at least decline?
- age 16, Alabama
As far as I know, there's really nothing that can be done about it. You just have to learn to understand, and your girlfriend needs to learn to understand, that Cowper's gland secretion, or "pre-cum," is a natural product of the male body, just as semen is. (Or just as menstrual discharge is for a woman.) While many males never secrete "pre-cum" at all, for others, quite a lot comes out. Perhaps as you and your girlfriend get used to the phenomenon you might even be able to enjoy it or have fun with it. Remember that no natural condition is as bad as an abnormal condition – for instance, being an adult male unable to secrete any seminal fluids at all. Sometimes the fluids and smells of sex seem a little messy – it's never "perfect" like it often is in the movies – but that's nature, and we all have to learn to live with it.
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