She often offers to masturbate me, but I deny her. The thing is, when I take out my penis, I always lose my erection, almost like it's scared of her. My penis is about 7 inches long, so I am not embarrassed about the size. And I know it's not a physical problem, because I masturbate alone with no problems and maintain erections for hours (not fun) when we're making out. What's the problem, and what can I do about it?
This has got to be some kind of psychological block. Maybe your subconscious is telling you you're not ready for sexual play with another person, or you're just nervous. To compound the problem, based on your past history you probably get somewhat anxious each time you reveal your penis, and anxiety and erections don't mix. However, the more experience you have with this kind of situation, the less likely it is to happen. If you're truly comfortable with having an erection around someone and/or playing with them sexually, you should have little problem getting and maintaining an erection. (Most of the time, anyway.)
Another thing to try, when the right time and place are right, is to undress and then continue making out. Eventually you'll forget your nakedness, and your erection will come back.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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