I think most masturbation is wonderful and erotic, whether male or female. To me, the sight of people with their hands on their bodies, genitals aroused, and pleasure on their faces, is beautiful. I love the idea of my lady masturbating, but I only think about it occasionally. She tells me she much prefers my touching her body to her touching herself. And while I love that she wants my hands on her, I also love watching her hand drift between her legs and tease at the very parts that make her female. There's something just very sexy about that – especially when her eyes are on me as she does it.
- age 26, Illinois
This Week's Wackiest Response:
When I think of female masturbation, I just don't get it. I mean, how do girls stick these large vibrating things in their belly button anyway?
- age 36, Nebraska
I think female masturbation is erotic and awesome. I think about it often when I masturbate. My girlfriend and I also sometimes watch each other masturbate. It is a great turn-on, and it particularly helps me discover what she likes and doesn't like.
- age 18, Australia
I find female masturbation very erotic and I dislike the way so many women seem so closed about it. Whenever guys talk about it around women, many of them act disgusted and don't want to talk about it. I know very few women who admit to masturbating; yet I know that several who deny that they masturbate, actually do. Why can't they talk about it comfortably around guys who are willing to talk about themselves masturbating? In general, I think that masturbating is a good for everyone and that more women should do it. It is a great way to relax, and it makes you feel better about yourself.
- age 16, Oregon
The best way to tease me, especially if I can only watch and not touch, is to watch or fantasize a woman masturbating. It would give me an instant erection and I would love it if the woman I love would do this for me. Then she could remove my clothes and masturbate me for a while. I am very curious if women find a guy masturbating to be as erotic as I would find them doing it. For that matter, even though I have led a straight sexual life, I admit that I would be interested and even aroused to see another guy masturbating.
- age 24, Washington
I'm gay, so female masturbation just makes me think kind of... bleh. I'm not really interested in it. But hey, to each his (or her) own. Likewise, I doubt that lesbians would be very interested in watching me masturbate.
- age 15, Australia
As a dedicated advocate of gender equality, I think females are entitled to the same masturbatory pleasures as males. Masturbation is erotic for everyone, so why shouldn't both genders enjoy one of the Creator's greatest gifts to us? Do I think about female masturbation often? I think about masturbation all the time, whether male or female. I'd love to have a masturbation buddy, male or female; that would be one more sign of gender equality.
- age 61, Michigan
I think female masturbation is very sexy, but I think about it infrequently (less than once a week).
- age 24, New York
I'd rather think about having sex with a female than think about her masturbating; but when I see a girl masturbate in front of me, I usually want to help her.
- age 16, Ohio
I find female masturbation very erotic to think about – almost more erotic than thinking about regular sex. Just the simple mental image of a masturbating woman's facial expression arouses me. Therefore, I naturally think about it often while masturbating myself.
- age 18, Alabama
I think mostly about male masturbation.
- age 16, Michigan
The hottest sexual act between my wife and me is mutual masturbation. Giving each other a helping hand is *so* satisfying.
- age 36, New York
I can't imagine guys *not* masturbating, so to answer your question, when I think of male masturbation, nothing out of the ordinary comes to mind. Thinking about guys in general masturbating doesn't seem erotic to me; but it turns me on when I think about my boyfriend masturbating or when he does it in front of me. I'm always joking around with my guy friends about male masturbation, so I guess I think about it a lot. I especially think about how often guys masturbate, how long it takes them, and what they think about. I think it's great that so many people nowadays consider male masturbation to be normal and healthy, but I wish there was the same sort of widespread acceptance and acknowledgement for female masturbation!
- age 16, Australia (female)
I think female masturbation is *very* erotic and denotes a sexually empowered woman who knows what she likes. It is especially hot when she does it during intercourse.
- age 31, Ohio
I am 18 years old and quite turned on by male masturbation. Just the idea gets me excited. I recently asked my boyfriend to masturbate in front of me. He has stroked it before, but never brought himself to orgasm. I like to see my boyfriend, or any nice looking male, touch himself and enjoy it. I think about it often when I am in the mood to have sex.
- age 18, Kansas (female)
I always enjoyed watching my wife masturbate. My favorite was when we would sit opposite each other, with her knees atop mine, so we could see each other's genitals as we masturbated. I found the wet sounds as she rubbed the lips of her vagina highly arousing. In short, it felt good, looked good, sounded good, and taught me better how to please her.
- age 40, Florida
I think female masturbation is highly erotic and it turns me on big time! I fantasize quite often about watching women masturbate and love to read stories or hear them talk about it as well. Women are very intimate and emotional when they touch themselves or each other. I wish that just once I could experience how they feel. It's a thing of beauty to watch a woman masturbate and I will never take it for granted. It makes me melt with complete desire.
- age 22, New York
I used to think that watching a guy masturbate was the most erotic thing ever! That was when I was still a virgin and really had no experience with guys, except for "cyber sex" and phone sex and looking at porn online (yes, females do it too – a lot!). Then I met the man who is now my fiancé and in the first few months of our relationship, I loved to watch him masturbate and I loved having sex with him. We've been together for three years now and seeing him masturbate doesn't excite me as it once did. Honestly, neither does sex, and I'm only 21! I'd prefer that we watch each other masturbate rather than have sex, because he's quite large and sex is very painful for me!
- age 21, Australia (female)
Female masturbation is usually involved in my erotic fantasies when I masturbate. My wife and I have always enjoyed mutual masturbation as our primary method of sex. When we do have intercourse, it is only foreplay to our orgasms. Typically, I'll masturbate her to several orgasms, and then when she's satisfied, she does me.
- age 62, Texas
Given the fact that I spend so much time thinking about my own masturbation, I don't spend much time at all thinking about female masturbation. Although I have never talked with a female about it, my general impression is that females don't masturbate nearly as much as males. I don't find the idea erotic; however, I find the idea of male masturbation quite erotic – kind of a "brotherhood" thing.
- age 49, California
I think male masturbation is very erotic. I often think of guys masturbating while I masturbate. If I were a guy, I would masturbate constantly.
- age 15, South Carolina (female)
Female bodies and masturbation both stoke my mental fires like nothing else in the world. When I masturbate, I love the mental image of a woman tenderly exciting herself by touching those personal areas that I long for. In real life though, a woman masturbates for her pleasure, not for mine; so I've accepted that even an intimate girlfriend (now my wife) sometimes wants to masturbate alone. Sometimes she touches herself one way and sometimes another. Or, she wants me to hold her a certain way while she masturbates, and can't always tell me why. So it's fine if all she wants is for me to hold her breasts even when I want to touch her somewhere else, or to focus on her clitoris instead of her vagina, or if she just wants to masturbate next to me in bed or when I'm out of the house. It's worth it all just to hear her happy and singing and satisfied.
- age 51, Wisconsin
I find men masturbating the biggest turn-on in the world. I love to look at a guy masturbating, especially if he is standing and I am looking at him from a side view. I think about it every time I masturbate!
- age 55, United Kingdom (female)
I think female masturbation is very erotic. If nothing else, it makes us men more comfortable with our own masturbation, and let's face it – nothing is more arousing then an aroused woman.
- age 30, Ohio
I had a crush on a friend. She was beautiful and we could talk to each other about a lot of things. One day we got into a conversation about sex and masturbation, and of course, I got really nervous because I was practically in love with her. She finally got me to admit that I masturbate and she said that often she did too, and that she thought everyone should do it. By her admitting that, I got very turned on and it made me like her ten times more. From that point on, I had a lot more confidence and felt a lot more comfortable with masturbating. Even though I have a different girlfriend now, I still talk with my other friend and still have a small crush on her.
- age 14, South Carolina
I was hoping you'd ask that! My most erotic fantasies always involve male masturbation. I love to envision exactly what guys do to themselves, what it must feel like, and what fantasies they have. Whenever I get the chance to watch a guy masturbate, it drives me crazy! I love to make my boyfriend to it for me while I watch. He thinks it's a little out-of-the-ordinary, but he's happy because, unlike girls who get jealous of their boyfriends masturbating when they're not there, I encourage it (as long as he tells me the details later!). I guess it's a fetish for me.
- age 21, Tennessee (female)
I often fantasize about feeling a woman's clitoris for a while as a prelude to having sex but rarely think just about female masturbation. As a child, I was abused by my biological mother who was very open about "adjusting her underwear" in public. Thus, the thought of female masturbation can be somewhat disturbing. I am getting over this gradually, but it is still not as erotic a thought for me as other sexual acts are. I hope that this will change in time.
- age 18, Minnesota
Okay, of course men masturbate. I mean, does the sun rise in the east? I think it's very sensual. It means that men know what they want and they know how to achieve it. I think it's very erotic if a woman can help a man... and get a little attention for herself as well. Do I think about it? Not really, I would rather think about sex with a man!
- age 19, Illinois (female)
I find female masturbation erotic in the extreme! Apart from anything else, I think female sexuality is even more enticing when it isn't directed towards attracting or pleasing a partner, but just IS. Female masturbation seems like the ultimate expression of that. This idea comes back to me quite often. That said, my partner doesn't like to masturbate, but always prefers the touch of another. She does, however, love to play with her breasts, which she often does casually, without thinking – she often dips her hand into her blouse while reading a newspaper or watching TV. This seems like part of the same process – and has the same effect on me!
- age 45, United Kingdom
I think female masturbation is just as normal as male masturbation, and they shouldn't be ashamed to admit it. Yes, I do find it erotic; but I don't think about it that often.
- age 13, Arizona
I think it's very healthy for a woman to masturbate. If men can do it, and openly admit to it, why can't women? I usually think about masturbating in the evening after a long day at work and think about when I'm going to get into the privacy of my room to just enjoy my body and being a woman.
- age 19, Pennsylvania (female)
The thought of females masturbating somewhat confuses me. What is there to masturbate with? Maybe someday when I'm married I'll fully understand!
- age 16, California
After 44 years, my wife and I still masturbate. I love watching her work on her area. Most of the time we do it together, but I love to watch her, and I get close so that I can see everything. She tells me she masturbates seven or eight times a week. When I watch, I love to see her genitals turn bright red as she goes off.
- age 64, Iowa
I think female masturbation is a wonderful thing. I didn't really think this until recently when my girlfriend began to share some of her stories and techniques. It really helps out in trying to pleasure her, because she knows her body better than I do. And, it's definitely something to think about when I'm not with her (*very erotic*).
- age 16, New Jersey
I masturbate. I wrote a paper for school. I think it is healthy and there is nothing wrong with it. You can't get pregnant or get an STD from masturbation. I also don't want a guy knowing my body better than I do.
- age 18, Minnesota (female)
Many don't usually associate masturbation with women. For me, it isn't much of a turn-on to watch a woman masturbate. It seems so much more dynamic with men to arouse women by actually fondling an erect penis, while women appear to simply rub their clitoris. There's also the impact of ejaculation that is an obvious climax for men.
- age 20, Washington
I have always loved to watch men masturbate. For me, this is the ultimate turn on! To watch a man stroke himself to orgasm is an amazingly erotic experience and watching sexy films of men masturbating is also hugely arousing. I have never had a lover who did not oblige me when I encouraged him to let me watch him masturbate and I, of course, participated in any way I could, including masturbating myself. I was delighted when I read in JackinWorld about all of the diverse ways that this can be done and I was also thrilled to find that this is such a frequent and normal part of a man's sex life.
- age 35, California (female)
I would love to masturbate my wife, but she won't let me. She doesn't even want to talk about the subject. I guess she is old fashioned.
- age 52, Michigan
When I was 13, my best gal-pal/neighbor and I discovered her dad's cache of pornos. We loved them and were fascinated by everything, especially men masturbating or being masturbated. A year later, a willing, year-older lad tutored me in the fine art. Since then, masturbation, mutual or solitary, has been an important part of my sex life in any serious relationship with a guy. I love watching him pleasure himself as only he knows how – his facial expressions as he get closer to orgasm and his reaction to a generous ejaculation. Yes! Watching a guy masturbate or masturbating him is seriously erotic for me.
- age 26, Florida (female)
When I was in high school, two girls asked me how I masturbate. I was a little surprised by the question, but answered them without going into much detail. Then they told me about the various ways that they masturbate, which was a real eye-opener for me. It was very arousing to hear them talk about it. The things they told me helped to make me a better lover after that because I had a better understanding of what was erotic to women. So to answer the question, I almost always think about female masturbation when I am making love to a woman, but not so much when I am masturbating.
- age 49, New Jersey
Okay, I know guys think about sex frequently, and that as soon as I start to show interest in a boy (if not earlier) he's thinking about my body, maybe even while he masturbates. But in general, I don't want to be there when he does it. If he knew how it changes the way I view him he would probably agree. The exception is if we get to the stage of a really special relationship where I am willing to touch his penis and masturbate him, then I love to watch him masturbate, too, and I feel excited when he ejaculates. I've done this before, but only in a relationship of friendship and trust.
- age 19, Ohio (female)
Masturbating my wife is an awesome thought for me! I don't know if she's masturbated herself (although I would suspect so), but we will do mutual masturbation as foreplay to intercourse. Rather than just "wham, bam, thank you, ma'am!" It allows both of us to enjoy the experience.
- age 31, Maine
As a female, I have to say it's nice to hear the topic discussed finally. Most women do it, they're just not willing to talk about it because attitudes haven't progressed to the point that we can feel not just normal, as it should be, but comfortable with the subject.
- age 26, Canada (female)
I love it although I don't think about it that often. But I wish I saw it more, because it still is a sensitive thing and you don't see it in non-porn movies so much. It really turns me on then, and it's great to mix that in your relationship by having your girlfriend masturbate for you. And it's great because I can also masturbate while my girlfriend is touching her nipples and vagina. Nothing beats my girl gasping and putting a dildo in her tight vagina. Then it all culminates when we both have orgasms at the same time.
- age 20, Holland
I think that female masturbation is very sexy. My girlfriend and I are very open for our age – I taught her how to masturbate. We often masturbate together, and it is a huge turn-on. She often laughs because of how quickly I climax when we do it together. Sometimes, I'll orgasm twice before she does once! She also finds watching me masturbate very erotic.
- age 15, Pennsylvania
This is a great question for me. When I was ten, a girl who lived next door taught me about sex and she would masturbate as I watched. She did this for about a year-and-a-half and then she moved away. I have been married almost 30 years and that's the one sexual thing that my wife will not do. If I could find a woman who would masturbate for me, it would be a dream come true. Even thinking about the question and writing this answer arouses me.
- age 56, Canada
As a male, it's quite natural to masturbate. I'm not ashamed of it, I don't really "hide" it, and if someone asks me about it I won't deny it. It's fun, it's healthy and it's harmless! However, when it comes to females, and I talk to girls (in my class, for example) about it, they say they find it repulsive and that it's disgusting. Only a few girls are comfortable with the subject. I think most of them do it, but are ashamed of it. I think more attention should be given to it in biology lessons about sex. Everybody must be able to enjoy masturbation, not just boys!
- age 19, The Netherlands
I find the idea of female masturbation extremely erotic. I often wonder if women I'm attracted to masturbate, and I fantasize about it. Also, discussing masturbation with my female friends is a huge turn-on for me. The next time I masturbate, I usually think about what they told me.
- age 22, Kentucky (female)
For some reason, the idea of a female masturbating turns me off. On the other hand, thinking about another guy masturbating is a complete turn-on for me. I'm not gay, but in order for me to get completely in the mood, there needs to be a penis involved in some way. If I look at pictures or videos on the computer, they always need to have a guy in them because the thought of *just* girls doesn't do anything for me. I'm at that age where I'm practically always horny, so I guess that means I never really think of girls masturbating!
- age 16, Massachusetts
I find female masturbation to be highly erotic, but also a source for new ideas. I have read female masturbation guides in various places on the web, most of which accentuate that the clitoris is basically analogous to the glans penis of the male – this is a similarity that works both ways. One of my favorite ways to masturbate is to lube one finger and use it to rub only my head the same way a woman would rub her clitoris. It's very nice.
- age 22, Indiana
I have watched my ex-wife masturbate herself with a vibrator or her fingers a few times. I cannot remember ever getting as aroused as I did by watching her and then masturbating myself. We were in the same room and watched each other. These memories are frequent fantasies that I use now when I masturbate alone. On the other hand, I do not find pictures of women masturbating particularly erotic at all.
- age 55, Illinois