Give it a try — it's a great experience. I felt very guilty for a long time that this practice was going to cause me to be gay, but I am happily married and my wife and I have two beautiful daughters. I still think back to the times that I masturbated with my buddy. We saw each other the other day, and both of us had the urge to go "rub one out" for old time's sake.
- age 33, New York
Talk sex with him first, and gradually bring up the subject of masturbating. I bet one friend I was bigger then him, and told him if I wasn't I would jack him off. I lost the bet and started to do it, but he joined in and did me. Another way is to look at magazines and just whip it out in front of him. Say, "I'm horny," start masturbating, and invite him to join in — that works well.
- age 15, Canada
Masturbation is a huge part of male existence, and if a guy feels he wants to try masturbating with a friend, he should do it. It's a male-bonding thing, not a gay thing. Try it out — it could end up being pretty fun. Turn it into a contest to see who can ejaculate farther ... this may help to ease any anxiety that may be present. Have fun with it, and remember that there is nothing wrong with experimenting.
- age 19, New Hampshire
My friend and I were talking about it and we knew each of us was hard, so I just asked him if he minded if I masturbated (I was at his house), and he just said, "Okay, I will too."
- age 14, Illinois
Tell your friend you are bored masturbating the same way each time, and then ask him if he'll show you how he does it if you do the same!
- age 37, Texas
Talk about it carefully with your friend. Make sure he isn't narrow-minded about such things. Start out by seeing if he does masturbate. If he does, start talking to him about it. You might be surprised.
- age 16, New Jersey
When I do it with friends, we normally have a video or a magazine, which helps us to get started. It's a great feeling if the guy is willing to masturbate you.
- age 15, Canada
My advice is to be careful. You don't know what other guys are going to say when you approach the subject of masturbating together. It's best to just let it happen if it does. I did it with a couple of guys in high school when we were reading old Playboys; I didn't plan it, and we never touched each other.
- age 19, Canada
Find a friend whom you're comfortable talking to. It would probably help if you've talked about masturbation before. Sleepovers are definitely the best opportunity — or when you're both looking at magazines or a video — then it seems less "gay" and there's more chance the other guy will say yes. Just say you're feeling really horny, and ask if he'd like to masturbate. Do some gentle persuading; if he says no, but don't push it too far, or all the rest of your friends will find out. If you don't get anywhere, try someone else. If it's a sleepover, try doing it together under bed covers and suggest they take the covers up to make it more exciting. If they agree, be prepared for one of the best times ever! Masturbating each other is almost certainly going to follow — but that's another story.
- age 17, United Kingdom
Bring up the topic of masturbation, maybe while watching a video or looking at pictures. Say you need to beat it and ask if he would mind. He'll probably join in.
- age 15, Florida
Just take the first step! Chances are, the other guy will want to masturbate too. Almost every guy masturbates, and after a while, it can get boring. Group masturbation is a great thing to keep things fresh!
- age 15, Canada
Just ask him if he's ever masturbated before, and ask him if he will teach you.
- age 13, California
I started off masturbating with my older brother, so it was only natural to be with someone. I can't think of a time that my friends would come over that we didn't end up masturbating together. All through high school and college, too. I would just introduce the subject of sex, and eventually, when we had talked awhile, I would say I had an erection and wanted to masturbate. If I led the action, they always followed. I never knew any boys who didn't want to join in and enjoy themselves. I can't remember ever touching any of them, but I enjoyed the camaraderie and look back on it as a wonderful way to extend the period of waiting to start sex with females.
- age 62, Texas
Well, the first thing to do is to bring up the subject. Do this while reading magazines, watching videos, surfing the Net — whatever. Get him to admit he does it (you might have to admit first). Then tell him you could use a good spank right about now, and see his response. If he has a positive response, then all you have left to do is ask if he would like to join you. From there you can do as you please — maybe even masturbate each other. If you get a negative response, try beating around the bush by saying something different. Be creative. If you still get a negative response, you'd better leave it alone. A friendship is a terrible thing to lose — I almost lost my friendship from doing the same thing. Luckily, we saved it. I have masturbated with other people, but have not tried doing it to them.
- age 15, Georgia
Watch a video, or read a Playboy with him so it's not like a gay experience ... that way you're both focusing on the girl thing.
- age 15, South Carolina
Be careful whom you approach and whom you do it with. I did it with someone I never met before, so no one would know — but if you're meeting someone new, do it in a neutral place, so you can always get away. If you want to masturbate with someone you know, make sure he's ready to do the same thing. Start asking him about sex and masturbating, and then get more specific.
- age 16, Arizona
It depends on how old you are. When you first begin to masturbate, you are usually learning at the same time as your friends. It is possible that you are curious about other guys' penises, and whether or not they masturbate. It's okay, I suppose, to masturbate with another guy and maybe even masturbate him, just as long as it's innocent and that is all that happens. It's all part of being curious and learning. Just don't make a habit out of it.
- age 17, Kentucky
Try it if the opportunity presents itself and you feel like you want to do it. I had the chance to do it when I was in my early teens, but did not. I have wondered ever since what I missed. I am happily married now, and would not change a thing, but this is just something I wish I had tried. I remember discussing this with my friends back then, and most of them tried it (I was just too shy).
- age 39, Pennsylvania
Truth or dare always seems to work. Just play the game and dare him to do it.
- age 17, Indiana
Find out if he masturbates, and if he does, just start doing it and say he should join in. I give it a 99% rate that you and he will be masturbating in no time.
- age 16, Canada
When the topic comes up in conversation, or a "good" movie comes on TV when you are both watching, say you can't help yourself and that you really want to masturbate. You'll have to be the one to take the first step, so begin. Say it's okay if he wants to do it too. If he doesn't want to, finish by yourself. If he wants to, well, there's the answer to your question. The point is, treat it as a casual thing. Everyone does it, so don't treat it like a big deal — something that requires talking about first. If you build it up too much in conversation, it's unlikely anyone would want to join you, because it will require too much thinking.
- age 17, Oklahoma
I suggest having him go to this Web page and read all the stuff. Then ask him about the guys who masturbate together. Remind him that you don't have to touch the other guy, and that lots of heterosexual guys have done it — and if they enjoy it, why can't we?
- age 15, Washington
First, make sure he's comfortable talking about it. I would always start a conversation I knew would get my friend horny, like about some girls he liked or something, or show him pictures I got off the Net. Once I knew he was reasonably horny, I would ask him about masturbating, and we'd talk about it for a while. After a few nights of this, I would start playing with myself a little in front of him, through clothing or something. After he was more used to that, I'd ask him if he wanted to do it one night. Once you get beyond this, it's easy. Ask him to show you how he does it or some such thing. If your friendship before this was a good and trusting one, you can move on to masturbating each other. And if he doesn't get into it like you think he would, just make an excuse that you were horny for the moment. Then you can try again some other night, if you want.
- age 15, Pennsylvania
The best thing to do is probably to look at something stimulating (i.e. magazines or videos). If you notice he's excited, then say you're really getting aroused as well, and would he mind if you masturbated? Don't be too forceful or act all weird about it. Just be casual, and chances are that if he's aroused enough and is comfortable around you, it'll work out.
- age 20, Pennsylvania
First, get on the subject of masturbation. Then make sure he can see that you have an erection, and then ask if he has ever masturbated with another guy. Depending on the reaction, judge whether or not to proceed. It works — I do it at least once a week, usually with a different person.
- age 15, New York
Be careful. Make sure the person you want to masturbate with is a true friend — one you can be sure won't get mad after you ask and then run around telling everybody horrible things about you. I masturbate with a friend of mine who's a great guy, and who would do anything for me (almost) — and when I approached him about this it was after I had known him for quite some time.
- age 16, Oklahoma
If you're still in school, whatever you do, don't ask him in school. The best thing to do is get him after school or invite him over to your house. You might try the good game of truth or dare, or what I did once that worked really well: You bring him to a place on the Web like JackinWorld, and let him read it. Afterwards, ask him if he masturbates. If he says something like, "Do you" or "Maybe," it means yes. After that, don't ask him right away — ask him something like, "I'll show you mine if you show me yours," and then just carry on from there.
- age 13, Michigan
Don't force the situation. If you and a friend are looking at a magazine or watching a video, you'll probably have erections. If the subject comes up, go with the flow. If someone like your brother or a friend walks in on you or you walk in on him, go with that flow, too. If he yells, get lost. If he covers up but doesn't say to leave, make a joke and don't act like it's a big deal. You can always say it looks like fun and join in.
- age 25, Georgia
A lot depends on where you are. If its a sleepover, it's probably easier. I have found that if we look at sexy pictures and I get an erection, I pull it out of my pants and ask the guy if he wants to feel it. If he immediately clams up, then that doesn't work too well. Some of the guys will feel it and go right to town. Sometimes you have to suggest that you will do it for him. It also seems easier if there are at least three of you.
- age 16, New Jersey
Bring up the subject, test the waters, and see what happens. Don't just ask, or you may be in for trouble.
- age 25, Florida
Talk about how you do it — he'll share his techniques with you, too. By now both of you should be getting pretty horn-doggish and developing at least a "semi." Mention that you see his large one through his pants and that you'd like him to whip it out for you. If he does, you're probably on the road to success — but if he doesn't, you might as well forget about it. After he yanks his member out of his drawers, go ahead and pull out yours. Since the both of you are fully erect by now, you may begin the process of masturbation. If you both agree, it should be easy and you might even get a chance to trade spanks with each other later on.
- age 17, Ohio
If you or your friend has any hot videos, put them in and masturbate under your pants, pretending you're trying to do it so he won't notice. If he sees you, he will probably either start doing it with you or ask you what you are doing. If he asks, tell him, and ask if he would like to try. If he starts, take it out of your pants and do it in the open, and he will do it with you. That's how I started to masturbate with my best friend.
- age 14, California
Make sure you are both comfortable with it and are willing to respect what each other wants.
- age 15, Illinois
Don't let him get you in a situation where he can narc on you. Let him make the first move, but don't be aloof, either. Let him know you're open-minded and you're willing to do lots. Talk about how horny you get, and see if he talks about his horniness. If you both say you're horny, you can take the next step. Ask him how often he masturbates. Tell him you do it a lot too, and that you think it's normal. Look and see if he's got an erection. If he does, suggest masturbating. If he doesn't, hold on and let him make the next move.
- age 31, Louisiana
I think there is nothing as wonderful as being close enough with one's peers and friends to be able to masturbate together. There is nothing inherently homosexual about it, and there are many things you can learn from each other! Even if you do go on to live a homosexual lifestyle, you should never feel you are homosexual because you masturbated with another person as a youth! I have masturbated with many other guys in my lifetime, all while I was in my early years of puberty, and some into my teens. I found many things that I enjoy now alone or with the women in my life that I might never have discovered, had it not been for the mutual masturbatory practices of my youth. As a quick message to all the young guys out there ... keep jackin' it. It's better to masturbate, alone or with others, than to risk the sad effects of unprotected sexual intercourse — heterosexual or homosexual. Save the thrills of intercourse for the very personal bonds of marriage!
- age 31, Georgia
1. You guys ought to be about the same age.
2. It ought to be by mutual agreement.
3. No violence, threats of violence, force, put-downs, or making anyone do anything they don't want to.
This is something I never did as a kid. As an adult, I think about it every once in a while, feel a little like I missed out on something, but ... Well, you're only young once. Enjoy it, kids.
- age 44, Arkansas
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