I think that depends on the situation or the person. I have been in situations where each of these situations would apply. Some friends aren't comfortable with touching and I respect that. On the other hand, there have been friends that felt comfortable with masturbating each other. In many of those cases, masturbating each other has led to other things. Then there are others that have done it once and it was never discussed further. There were times where I have pushed a partner into something that I wanted, leaving them embarrassed. I have learned through the years that it is best to do what is comfortable for both. My naive younger self believed it was best go for broke with the idea that if I don't do it all now, I could squander an opportunity. Now, I've learned that if I can keep within my partner's comfort zone, it is likely that he would want to do more with me.
- age 34, Indiana
This Week's Wackiest Response:
If you ask me, I would rather get masturbated by a peanut. They won't complain to you if you leave them for another kind of nut.
- age 15, Texas
I would rather masturbate the person I am with. It's nice to watch their facial expressions and point of climax, as well as feel their body react to my touching different parts. So, it is a reward for me and for them.
- age 52, California
I would prefer masturbating together without touching so both of us could go at our own pace and know what we want. I would also be very aroused knowing my girl was masturbating with me. I'm sure she would, too.
- age 15, Pennsylvania
As do many straight men, I would like to masturbate with another man. I wouldn't want any touching because I'm really not gay. I just think that it would be an experience that would help me bond with another man in a way that is socially taboo.
- age 39, Mississippi
I would want to have my partner masturbate me and then I would most definitely return the favor. That way, we could both experience the pleasure of reaching orgasm without having to do the work. Also, we would be interacting with each other — no one is left out. I think this is the perfect thing to do when you are my age (far too young for sex), because you can still mostly experience it, it is just a little different. If I couldn't do this, I would most likely choose to masturbate together but without touching. Again, no one would be left out, and both could reach orgasm together.
- age 13, Texas
If I were with my fiancée, I would want to masturbate her because I love the precision with which I can manipulate her body to give her pleasure. If I were with a close male friend, I would want to masturbate together with him because I'd like to see his techniques and for him to see mine.
- age 27, Illinois
Of the choices listed, I would probably choose to masturbate him or her because that would be the most fulfilling for me and it would also provide my partner with sexual pleasure. My highest preference, though not listed, would be to masturbate each other at the same time. I think that would be the most fun for both of us — just trying to get into positions to do that would be lots of fun.
- age 15, Tennessee
I would prefer to masturbate the other person. I love to watch their body respond to my actions. If it is someone I love, I like knowing that I am making them feel good. Also, I sometimes feel empowered because I can cause their body to have sexual responses.
- age 24, Indiana
I love being masturbated by someone else. Just the chance to simply lie there and enjoy it makes me have an incredible orgasm and ejaculation. Something about the difference in technique and the "teasing" makes it worthwhile!
- age 43, Vermont
I would prefer to masturbate with someone else. I don't know how to masturbate others to their liking, so I might do something wrong. It would be exciting for someone to masturbate me, because I would probably have an orgasm without touching my penis; however, I know how to get the best feeling out of myself and so it could be less than fulfilling from that viewpoint. However, masturbating with someone else gives me some visual aid, and therefore more arousal. That's why I would love to masturbate with someone else.
- age 15, Virginia
I would want my female sexual partner to masturbate me. After she does me, I would like to masturbate her. I would rather feel her hand around my penis masturbating me and have her tweak my nipples than do it myself. The situation would be much more erotic this way and I would get off much faster with her touching me!
- age 26, California
I love masturbating with another boy or with a group of boys without touching each other. I am straight, but my brother and one of my best friends are gay. It's a way for guys to do great stuff together, which everyone enjoys and it doesn't matter about your sexuality. It's the freedom of being able to do one of the most natural things known to man with another boy and not having to get stressed about it.
- age 15, United Kingdom
While I have enjoyed doing all three, if I had to choose only one, I would pick masturbating together without touching. The combination of stimulating myself while watching someone else doing the same is highly erotic. Also, it's a great way to have a sexual experience with someone without the risk of transmitting sexual diseases. For years, I masturbated with a friend. To us, it was fun and never led to anything else. We could masturbate together then go out and grab a bite to eat. It was just no big thing.
- age 31, Illinois
I'm lucky enough to masturbate regularly with my friend, but we don't ever touch each other. We have both discussed masturbating each other, but we have never gotten that far — perhaps because we think that it is a gay thing to do. Masturbating together is very rewarding and relaxing. We use the bathroom at my house as soon as we get back from school each day and before my parents get home from work. Often, we make it more interesting by having races to ejaculation or trying to synchronize our orgasms to the second. The best thing about it, though, is just describing our feelings as we approach orgasm.
- age 15, Ireland
Although solo masturbation is a wonderful way to explore one's sexuality and to enjoy one's body, masturbation with a friend is another step in greater understanding of human sexuality, and a marvelous way to share a special relationship with a valued friend. Therefore, I would opt for masturbating together with a close friend without touching each other initially. However, if we both become comfortable with that experience, then I would ask my friend if we might consider masturbating each other simultaneously, rather than following the options above. Whatever my friend decided, however, I would abide by, since we are all at different levels of growth and have our own limits of comfort.
- age 62, Michigan
I think mutual masturbation with anyone of either sex is great! My girlfriend wants to abstain from intercourse, so mutual masturbation is all she permits. And, my best male friend and I have masturbated each other since we were 12. For us, it's intense, intimate, and caring. Obviously, it's different, from masturbating with my girlfriend. With her, there's breasts involved, kissing, and I wear a condom just in case. With him, there's no kissing; but we do hug and get very close, and then there is his penis. Having another penis in your hand is quite different from handling your own; and having yours in another person's hand is so different and arousing.
- age 17, California
This isn't an either-or question for me or for my wife — we like a combination of ingredients. We'll start with the usual foreplay, lots of touching and kissing everywhere, until she's stroking my penis and I'm playing gently with her clitoris. But sometimes, instead going on to intercourse when I'm erect and she's moist, we'll switch to masturbating ourselves, each watching, enjoying and learning from the other's self-pleasuring. We'll keep at it, soloing until we both near the point of no return. Then we'll switch again, each of us masturbating the other to and through climax. It's a medley — duet, solo, duet — and it works for us. The orgasms are sometimes quite shattering.
- age 46, New York
Watching each other is awesome! Two or three times a week, my boyfriend and I sit on his parents' sofa after school and get off on watching each other climax.
- age 14, Maine (female)
That's a hard question this week — I've actually masturbated friends and been masturbated by them, so I know which one is better for me. I think it's better to give than receive — I always had more fun stroking my friends, watching their faces, and listening to the sounds they make. I think I'm pretty good at it and it turns me on much more to do it to them than to have them do it to me. If they don't want to masturbate me afterwards, which they usually don't, I can do myself with the thought of them ejaculating all over me still fresh in my mind.
- age 19, Canada
With a sexual partner, masturbating in any form is great. The best is to masturbate each other at the same time. However, I don't think I would masturbate with a friend. For me to masturbate in front of someone, I would need to feel attracted to them or it would repulse me. Masturbating together would lead to more, and then one of us would regret it.
- age 17, Utah
My choice is simple: all three. Much of what makes something so pleasurable is our own mood. Sometimes we want to lie back and receive all the attention. Other times the greatest pleasure we can get is to give pleasure. And yet other times it is most arousing to stimulate yourself while others are doing the same. Which one I would prefer would greatly depend upon my mood at the time.
- age 19, New Jersey
I like masturbation sessions to last as long as possible, but if a friend starts rubbing my penis, I cannot help ejaculating almost immediately. I have a friend who can last quite a long time with me masturbating him, so we both enjoy doing that best.
- age 16, Netherlands
While all the choices are extremely appealing, I guess I'd say it's better to give than receive and go with masturbating her. There is nothing quite like the warm, moist feeling and scent of arousal in the air that comes from masturbating a woman. And, whenever they melt in my hand and climax, I feel absolutely wonderful inside.
- age 29, Ohio
I would do anything just to hold my girlfriend in my arms, and slowly massage and masturbate her. I don't need anything from her; all I want is to make her feel as good as I can with the touch of my fingers.
- age 15, Florida
I would prefer to masturbate together without touching each other because it is always very stimulating to see someone masturbate in front of you. I'm straight, but I have always thought that it would be very interesting to see a male masturbate in front of me. I've never done this, but I think that it would be interesting. Your page is incredible and very informative. Thank you.
- age 22, Mexico
I enjoy all three. I constantly masturbate with my female best friend almost on a daily basis. Although it has never led to sexual intercourse, she might masturbate me one day and then I would do her. Sometimes, we don't even touch each other, but put on little shows for the other one. I'm still waiting for the day this turns into intercourse. Although oral sex has started recently, masturbation is still great for now.
- age 15, Florida
I've done this a lot and I would much rather masturbate together without touching each other. I know how to masturbate myself and I know what I like, so just let me do that on my own. Plus, I really like to watch another guy masturbate. So for me, that's the best way.
- age 33, Nevada
I would rather masturbate him. I say this because you do not always have the chance to masturbate someone, but you always have the chance to do it to yourself; so you might as well masturbate your sexual partner and then you'll have that memory to masturbate to for the rest of your life.
- age 15, New Mexico
I love the feeling of my hardened penis in my hand, and I think I would enjoy feeling somebody else's penis in my hand as well. Therefore, I would like to masturbate another male if I ever had the opportunity. Unfortunately, this has never happened to me. I'd like to see a question that asks JackinWorld readers who have had this type of experience how they initiated it. At my age, it's a little awkward to approach a male friend and ask if I could masturbate him.
- age 34, Massachusetts
With a guy friend, I'd masturbate together without touching each other. But with a girl who's a friend, I'd love for them to masturbate me or let me masturbate them. I've never masturbated with any of my friends, but I wouldn't mind trying with one of my buddies. I just wouldn't want things to get weird.
- age 15, Florida
I most definitely would prefer to be masturbated by someone else than to masturbate him or her, or just watch each other. All the activities are fun, but I adore just lying back and being "attended to" by a lover. I've long fantasized about having the "yoni massage" that I've read about on Tantric Sex websites. The woman (me) is massaged all over, gradually centering on the vulva and vagina and then building to a slow, deep orgasm. This sounds like pure heaven to me.
- age 29, Ontario, Canada (female)
I would prefer to masturbate her, simply because I love the pleasure that I get by pleasing a girl. For me, watching a girl in ecstasy is far more rewarding.
- age 17, Australia
Although I think we all would like to do all three options, I'd prefer just to masturbate together at first to show our openness about it to each other without pressuring the other to do anything that could be uncomfortable. Next, I think I'd let the other person masturbate me. I think it would show me that they were truly comfortable with the experience and that I wasn't being too aggressive about it. It would also show me that they were as curious about mutual masturbation as I am. Once past that hurdle, I'd feel obliged to return the favor.
- age 57, Ohio
I would rather masturbate him. I think making another guy feel good is awesome. To know I am making him tingle inside from my touch makes me happy. I know how I feel when my best friend does mine, and it's *so* good.
- age 17, Indiana
I have had masturbation sessions with a friend who is 20 and lives close to me. Whenever we start, we promise not to touch each other (he's not gay), but it always ends up the same way: he masturbates me and I masturbate him. I love the way he does it to me and I'm sure he loves it when I'm do it to him.
- age 26, Poland
I would rather have a friend masturbate me. I have done this before. When my friend and I were on vacation together, we found this site [JackinWorld] and we saw how many people masturbate with a same-sex friend and yet they're not homosexual. When we saw it, we both decided that it would be cool to do it together — so we did, and still are. We have been doing it together for about a year. I masturbate him and then he does it to me and it's great. But I like it best when he masturbates me. It feels so good because I don't have to do any work — I feel great pleasure and don't even have to do anything!
- age 15, Pennsylvania
Although I would prefer the two of us masturbating each other at the same time, it isn't an option so I would choose masturbating together without touching. This way, both of us could "have a good time." To me, it would seem rather dull if only one of us were to get pleasure at any given moment.
- age 18, Nevada
Based on the options, I would rather masturbate together without touching each other. As much as I would like to masturbate my friend, I also want to have an orgasm. And as much as I would like my friend to masturbate me, I would want my friend to experience an orgasm, too. So if we cannot masturbate each other at the same time, then the next best thing is to masturbate ourselves while being able to look at each other doing it. That would really turn me on.
- age 17, New York
Having done all of the above many times, I would definitely choose to be masturbated by him or her or masturbate her or him. When my partner masturbates me, I concentrate totally on that experience and do not have to think about what I am doing or what to do to myself next. I simply ride the pleasure to orgasm. There is something about surrendering to the sexual control of another that makes the experience spectacular! On the other hand, if I masturbate my partner, he or she is completely in my control and I can bring him or her to orgasm in whatever way I choose.
- age 26, Florida (female)
My little brother, who is two years younger than me, comes on this site a lot and answers these questions. He and I love to masturbate together. We have masturbated each other, but I think the best is to watch each other masturbate. I believe that it gives us a better orgasm to see each other nude and masturbating just about as hard as we can. It's really a great feeling.
- age 14, Michigan
Having a friend or partner masturbate you and you masturbate him is always much better. It's not about the masturbation itself, we can all do that ourselves, and do — often. It's about our desire to be physically close to others. Getting physical pleasure from someone and giving it to them is by far a more sexual and sensual experience than watching each other.
- age 28, Michigan
I have done all three options with my best friend, but I much prefer it when we just lie next to each other on a bed and masturbate together without any touching. This makes me feel really excited and as soon as my friend ejaculates, this sight is always enough to make me reach orgasm as well.
- age 15, Germany
When I was younger, I experimented sexually with another male. Now, that I am older, I have a fiancŽe. In both cases, masturbating together without touching each other was virtually impossible. I think that physical contact, whether sexual or just hugging is hard for people to resist. It is especially hard to resist when sexual. I think that either giving or receiving is fun, but I always like to enjoy the physical contact that comes from being with my partner.
- age 22, Minnesota
My friend sleeps over at my house a lot. I like him to masturbate me, and then when I've exploded, I masturbate him. We have fantastic orgasms and find it very hard not to just scream out with utter joy. We have tried masturbating each other at the same time, but our arms clash sometimes and it generally isn't as enjoyable. As we do each other at separate times, all the energy is focused onto that person. Hey, who can masturbate you better — a male who knows how to masturbate with excitement and joy or a female who tends to get bored after ten seconds of doing it? I know the answer!
- age 16, England
I would prefer to masturbate him. I love the sense of erotic control that comes with making a guy climax. Also, it's just wondrously fun to see.
- age 24, Florida (female)
I think all sexual acts should be reciprocated. I enjoy the simple nature of giving and receiving, even with sex. I don't think it matters who masturbates whom first; but I think there should be concentration on one party at a time, where both of you can learn each other's bodies through touch and exploration, seeing what is best for each partner. So, I am for interacting with another person for an educational, pleasurable, and reciprocal learning session of masturbation and manual stimulation.
- age 15, New Jersey
Anything is great with my wife, but those times when I have masturbated with male friends, I prefer a "just watch, don't touch the other person" session. If a leg or arm is against the other person, that's fine. But while I really get excited watching another guy do it, I'm not into helping him except visually and verbally. I would like more opportunities to share masturbation with male friends, but how does an adult male initiate such a thing? Perhaps this would be a good topic for a future QOW.
- age 37, Hawaii
I think it would be cool either way, as long as you have the right person. I think, if you chose the right person to do it with, it would help you grow together and create a special bond, but then again, if you chose the wrong person, that could destroy the friendship and possibly leave you with a bad reputation. I think most guys (and possibly girls, though I wouldn't know) wouldn't mind doing it, or want to do it, but are too afraid to ask.
- age 13, Nebraska
I've fantasized about masturbating my closest guy friend for a long time now. I guess it's because I've never been satisfied with how guys masturbate me, and I think he would enjoy it a lot more if I did it for him.
- age 16, Canada (female)
I would absolutely prefer to masturbate him or her (I'm bisexual). To me, the most arousing thing in the world is to give another person sexual pleasure, whether by manual manipulation or oral ministration. After bringing someone to orgasm, I'm always so aroused that just touching my penis leads instantly to my own climax. In several cases, I haven't even needed to touch my penis.
- age 19, Pennsylvania