About two-thirds of respondents to this Question said they had masturbated with a member of the same sex, and about four-fifths said they either had or would like to. However, this doesn't take into account the number of readers who were not interested in the Question and didn't participate. More accurate figures can be seen in the results of JackinWorld Survey #2, which indicates almost exactly half of male readers have masturbated in full view of another male.
Many readers took the opportunity to indicate their sexual orientation — often quite vehemently. "Yes...but I'm not gay!" and "No...because I'm not gay!" were very common, with one of these (or something similar) appearing in perhaps a third of the responses. Is masturbating with a member of the same sex "gay"? Yes and no. The question is best answered by the essay "WHAT IS HOMOSEXUALITY?", in the JackinLibrary. Sexual experiences and sexual orientation are very different, and even the same sexual act can have difference significances depending on the participants' ages, their relationship, the events leading up to the act, the culture they live in, etc. In any case, it's interesting how many people mentioned sexual orientation. If we asked, "Have you ever tried broccoli?" it's doubtful many people would say, "Yes — but I'm not a vegetarian!" This analogy may be a stretch, but it still proves a point.
So, what about females? That's very hard to say, especially from these results. Since JackinWorld readers are overwhelmingly male (for good reason, given the preponderance of male-related material), the sample size of females is very small. And in this week's Question, most of the "female" responses seemed made up by fantasy-filled males. Since this is JackinWorld and not Penthouse Forum, they didn't get posted. From my experience I'd say the practice is rare in females; many of them have written in on other occasions saying they rarely even talk about masturbation. We hope someday this and other questions will be answered with a survey.]
As everyone else is bound to say, I'm not gay, but I did masturbate with my best friend once when we were 15. We were playing truth or dare with my friend's stepsister, and she dared both of us to masturbate each other while naked. So we both undressed, he got behind me, and soon he was stroking my penis. I ejaculated right there in front of them and then masturbated my friend. I didn't enjoy it all that much, but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. It actually felt nice, and pretty erotic with both him and his stepsister there.
- age 16, Connecticut
Last summer my friend and I (both 14) were staying alone at our lake cabin for the first time. It was early in the season, so we made up only one bed and both slept in it. We started snapping the elastic on each other's shorts. Then suddenly he grabbed my penis and I grabbed his. We both had erections. I started to masturbate him, and he called me a pud puller. I said, "I suppose you don't do it?" He admitted that he did. We both masturbated each other twice that night and have done so several times since then.
- age 15, Idaho
I was in the process of getting divorced and took a vacation. A friend of some 10 years joined me for part of the time. We were both in our mid 30s and very relaxed, as we knew each other well. After a couple of mornings of waking up with a "morning glory" [erection], we quietly started to play with each other. There were several sessions of mutual masturbation that were fun and relaxing. That was 11 years ago, and we are still friends. What we shared was a special kind of friendship and is not an embarrassment to us. I now share my life with another lady and have only pleasant memories. Would it happen again, either with him or someone else? I cannot guess, but I am not frightened of that possibility. As I say, it was a special friendship.
- age 41, United Kingdom
In middle school my friend and I liked to play "dark" at sleep-overs. We would turn off all the lights, hide each other's clothes in the room, and race to re-dress. The first one done would turn on the light, and then we would play again. The lamp was also plugged into a 5-minute timer. If it came on and we both had no pants, we had a penis war to see who won. That's when we both masturbated the other guy to make him ejaculate and therefore lose. That was my favorite game, of course.
- age 17, Kansas
I masturbated with a friend on the beach when I was 18. It happened because we saw some girls and we got very hard. So we had to go into the water and masturbate together.
- age 26, Brazil
During a Boy Scout camp, my friend and I shared a tent. I awoke during the night to see him lying on top of his sleeping bag and masturbating. After a short time I said to him, "Can I join?" At first he was mad, but then we masturbated together. Now we do it all the time.
- age 14, Nebraska
After my high school prom my best bud and I masturbated in his Mustang when our dates would not have sex in a motel room we had rented. It was about 3 in the morning and we had some beer and were talking about how we didn't get any and how horny we were. One thing led to another, and we both unzipped our tux pants and went for it. We laughed about it weeks later when we realized the tux-rental place probably knew we were losers and had to masturbate.
- age 25, California
A friend and I get together at least once a month and masturbate each other, although we don't otherwise talk together that much. I have a few friends I do this with, but not as often as with this one friend. I am 110% straight and always have a girl, but my friends and I think this is a good way to release tension and experiment at the same time.
- age 16, Florida
I have masturbated with my college roommate. It was as easy as this: The first week of college my roommate was in the shower for a long time, so I said, "What are you doing in there, masturbating?" He said, "Yeah." When he got out, I asked him why he masturbated in the shower. He explained that he and his brother had slept in the same room so he never had any privacy in his house. I told him it would not bother me if he masturbated while I was in the room and hoped it would not bother him if I did. It was a great year. We masturbated many times together and talked about it freely. This took a lot of the stress out of masturbation.
- age 19, Missouri
When I was at school, I slept in a dormitory with about 10 other guys. After "lights out" some of us would masturbate together, seeing who could ejaculate first. Some guys would shine torches [flashlights] on themselves while they did it so everyone could see. And then, on Sunday afternoons, some friends and I would lie in bed and show off our erections to each other. I was about 14 at the time. A few years before that, when I was 11, my best friend and I would masturbate together and also masturbate each other. Orgasms were still strange to us then! I'm now happily married, so these experiences didn't "make" me gay, but rather enhanced friendships that still continue today. (The friendships, not the masturbating!)
- age 22, South Africa
I masturbate with my cousin, who is 14. It started when he spent the night at my house and we were talking about sex and whatnot. We started talking about masturbating and penises. He said his was 8 inches, and I told him to prove it, so he showed me. (It wasn't 8 inches.) Then I showed him mine, and we masturbated. It was a great experience to see another guy masturbate; we share techniques and teach each other. It is something everybody should experience.
- age 15, Minnesota
I have masturbated with my best friend (a girl) when we were really drunk. I liked it very much.
- age 22, Egypt (female)
Does my dog count?
- age 14, Canada
Yes, and it was crap. I was only a little boy and hadn't gone through puberty. The other guy was much more mature. I just remember he had this massive penis, and mine was tiny. I think he had an orgasm, but I only pretended to, as it wasn't turning me on at all. I don't really regret the experience, though.
- age 18, United Kingdom
I've masturbated with a lot of other guys — it's fun to do if you're both bored/horny and it's late at a sleep-over or something. If you're both comfortable with it and don't feel "weird," it's a really cool way to masturbate because it's enhanced by the presence of the other person. Even though we're both straight, the sounds of the other person and their breathing help the stimulation process. It might be uncomfortable the first few times, but after that it's an incredible experience. The biggest problem is who gets up to throw away the wad of used tissues.
- age 16, Pennsylvania
I have masturbated with other males many times. The first was with my older brother and his friends when I was about 13. The lead-in was that if I wanted to hang around with them I had to join in on everything. Since then, even though I am happily married, I have continued to engage in this activity. I have found there isn't a woman on the planet who knows how to touch and stroke me like a man can. Another man knows instinctively how to do it because he's got the same equipment and knows what feels good.
- age 45, Nevada
Yes, and it was a disaster! I was trying to figure out my sexuality, because I was starting to find girls attractive. So a friend and I decided to explore ourselves with each other present. It did nothing for me, but it did for her, and now she is batting for the other side. It's really hard for us to be friends now because she has a crush on me.
- age 14, Canada (female)
My best friend and I would talk about masturbation quite a bit, and then he finally suggested we do it together. I was up for it (excuse the pun), but the it led to other [more sexual] acts. Right now we could call each other best friends, but it's not the same as it used to be. Some advice for people who want to try this: It can be an awesome experience, but be careful who you ask to do this with you.
- age 15, Ontario, Canada
When I was 14 I went camping with a buddy. In the evening we went skinny-dipping and got to splashing around and wrestling. We both got erect, compared penises, and then masturbated each other about six times that night. For the next five years we were masturbation buddies.
- age 44, Minnesota
I've masturbated with a girlfriend from school. We were over at her house and changing out of our bathing suits after a swim, when I commented about how cute her body is — she's very lean and has a small, round little bum. She smiled and gave me the line from the "Austin Powers" movie, "Oh, do I make you horny?" so I threw my suit at her. She came over and started hitting me with it, so I wrapped my arms around her to pretend we were wrestling. I could tell she was really excited. I asked her if she wanted me to touch her, and after a few seconds she said yes. A couple of minutes later we were on her bed holding each other and lightly stroking ourselves.
- age 15, Florida (female)
I masturbated once with a friend at age 14 (which I will chalk up to adolescent hormones), then quite often with my college roommate. What led up to it? I don't remember much about the earlier incident, but with my roommate it happened when we'd been watching an adult video at my mom's. One particular scene had two beautiful women together and prompted repeated viewings. Around the 4th or 5th time through the scene he commented that when he got home, he'd have to "take care of business." I was in the same shape, so we decided, "what the heck." From then on, if one of us felt the need to masturbate, we didn't worry about offending the other, and did so together quite frequently.
- age 27, Texas
Before I start: I am *not* gay and neither is my friend. Last August I was at my best friend's house for a weekend, and he told me about his cousin's stash of Penthouses. I asked him if he ever masturbated to them, and he gave me a blank stare. It was the first time I had ever mentioned masturbation to him. Then I asked if he had wet dreams. I said that if he did, masturbating would help. Then he gave in and confessed that he did masturbate. Eventually I sat on one end of the room while he sat on the other end so we could relieve some sexual tension. We each did it under separate covers, and left semen on the carpet! That was it, though. We have never done it again.
- age 15, Maryland
I once masturbated with another guy who lived in my dorm. He was not my roommate, but he was staying in the room while my roommate was out of town. We were being stupid, playing truth or dare, and he dared me to whip it out and start masturbating. I told him I would if he did, so we both did it! It was really pretty cool. I never did it again, but wish I could. I have a fantasy about masturbating with another guy, even though I am now married and perfectly straight.
- age 25, North Carolina
Last year, my friend and I decided to go swimming in my pool. My parents went out to dinner. We were changing into our bathing suits, and she touched my breasts and said, "I always wanted to do that." Then I touched hers and said, "Now we're even!" Then she rubbed my clitoris area and I did the same. It felt amazing to have another girl do it. Now, when we are home alone, we masturbate together sometimes.
- age 14, New Jersey (female)
I learned how to masturbate by doing it with another male. My brother was a little over a year older than me, and he and a friend of his started masturbating together as we lay side by side on the floor. My brother's friend was in the middle. He offered to masturbate my brother and me if one of us would masturbate him. My brother did him, he did me and my brother. It was the first time I had ever had an orgasm. It surprised me, but I started doing it myself after that. Occasionally I would do it with another guy, but not very often.
- age 19, Indiana
I was about 7 (although I have been masturbating since I can remember) when my sister's friend's brother came to spend the night. We were talking about sex, and ended up on top of each other — although we are both straight — pretending to have sex. (One pretended to be a girl.) About two months later he spent the night again. Wanna guess what we did?
- age 14, Arizona
We were curious and drunk at the same time, so we decided to see who could shoot further. End of story.
- age 22, Oregon
When I was 15 I was sleeping over at a friend's house. It was late at night, and we were on the Net. It was hot, so we had just boxers on. He was just sitting there when he started to play with himself and then said, "Oops!" Later, when we went to bed, he wanted to play truth or dare. He asked if I masturbated and I said yeah, and he dared me to masturbate him. It was cool. We aren't gay and we both have girlfriends.
- age 16, New Jersey
My brother taught me to masturbate, so we spent four years doing it together whenever we could. It was natural for me to assume my peers did it, too, and I always just asked them if they wanted to. After the shock, they always agreed. My wife and I used masturbation as a way to express love without having intercourse before we were married, and as birth control when told she should not have any more children for her health's sake. Even after a vasectomy, we still continued to masturbate as often as we had intercourse. Besides my first 9 years, I have masturbated with someone else as often as I had solo sex.
- age 63, Texas
I masturbated with my nephew a couple years ago. He caught me doing it and wanted to see how I did it. After that we masturbated with each other a few times. He was open about it, but I was kind of uneasy because he was four years younger. I didn't want to seem that I was abusing my power, so to speak.
- age 17, Washington
I am gay and masturbate regularly with members of the same sex — nothing unusual there!
- age 34, Holland
Just mentally a few times. Don't get me wrong — I love the fairer sex, but I'd sure like to try masturbating with a couple of my buddies at least once.
- age 16, Texas
When I was at the university I masturbated with my friend. After sports when we were under the shower, he asked me to masturbate him. I was surprised and refused. A few days later he asked again, and I don't know why, but I accepted. It was the first time I masturbated a member of the same sex — and it was the revelation of my sexual orientation. Paul and I have lived together for almost 3 years now, and we are very happy.
- age 27, Belgium
My friend spent the night last summer. The next morning I woke up before he did. I was really horny and since he was still asleep, I decided to masturbate. He woke up while I was doing it and sat up in bed and said, "Hey, cool, you do that too?" He asked to join in, and I said, "Sure!" We had fun doing it together and still do it whenever we spend the night together.
- age 14, California
When I was 15, two male friends and I had a sleep-over at my house. My entire family was out, and we knew they would be gone until at least 10 o'clock, so we had the house to ourselves. My older brother, about 17, had pornographic movies. We got one and started to watch it. Much to our surprise, in the middle of this otherwise totally straight porno was a group of three guys masturbating while talking about their sexual escapades. We talked about it for a minute and agreed to try our hand at it (pun intended). We started out just sitting around in a circle, masturbating ourselves; but by the time my family returned, we had masturbated each other. All 3 of us are perfectly straight, but we have relived this night more than once.
- age 20, Vermont
I masturbated with a guy in 8th grade pretty often. Since then I have masturbated with cousins and my two brothers and a couple of other friends off and on. The first time we just were looking at each other's erections, and then he felt mine and I felt his, and then we started rubbing. The other times seem to start out when we're lying around at the creek (mostly always naked, so it's easy to start the rest of it) or sleeping over. My brothers and cousins and friends have an easy-going attitude about it — if it feels good, let's do it! So since it always feels good, we do it when we can. I like to see how they tense up right before ejaculation, and my younger cousin gets this dazed look, which we all laugh at. It's just great fun.
- age 18, New Jersey
I have masturbated with male friends when the opportunity was there — that is, we knew no one else would find out, so we went for it. I'm certain more guys would masturbate together if there weren't such a "taboo" associated with it. I think JackinWorld helps a lot in dispelling those taboos, since you can be honest anonymously with the rest of the readers here.
- age 33, California
Two good friends and I had been out on the lake all day without any parents around, and that night we thought what better way to end the day than to masturbate. It wasn't even that awkward, since we had talked about it that day. We just sat down on the couch, pulled off our shorts, and went at it. We all finished about the same time. That was the first time, which lead to many more. And you don't even have to be gay!
- age 17, Alaska
No, I have never masturbated with a guy — I am a heterosexual male. Yet I do think about what it would be like. I think it would be just great!
- age 14, Iowa
When I was 16, my 13-year-old cousin came to visit in the summertime. Shortly after we had turned the lights out to go to sleep on the first night of his visit, I heard a rhythmic sound coming from the floor next to my bed where he was sleeping. I pretty much knew what he was doing down there, but I was *really* surprised to feel a hand come out of the dark and smear some warm fluid all over my face — with him laughing his ass off! Naturally, I had to retaliate, so I sat on his chest and masturbated until I ejaculated all over his face (and up his nose). The next day, and the rest of the summer, we masturbated together, and occasionally did each other, every place and time we could. I think it is an acceptable thing for horny boys with no other sexual outlets to do — good memories, and no regrets.
- age 26, Georgia
We were watching "Baywatch" and were real horny, so we decided to play truth or dare. Each time, he would dare me to masturbate him and I would do likewise. After a while we both had a little "pre-cum" ooze out and we got grossed out and stopped.
- age 13, Texas
One time I masturbated in front of my best friend as part of a dare. He dared me to hump one of my stuffed animals until I ejaculated. I did it while he laughed.
- age 23, Oregon
When I was 9 my brother, who was 14, asked me if I masturbated. I didn't know what he meant, because I had never done it. So he told me to do what he did. He took out his penis and started to stroke it. I did the same thing, and it felt great. He ejaculated. I didn't, but he explained that someday I would. Since then, we have masturbated together many times. He is in college now, so I don't see him much, although I have visited him there on weekends. It has brought us closer as brothers.
- age 14, Alabama
I masturbate with another male frequently. It started when I was 14 and a buddy who was on my hockey team spent the night at my house. We were getting undressed for bed and both in our underwear when we started talking about girls and stuff. Before long, we both had erections. I was pretty embarrassed, but my friend stood up, took off his briefs, and said, "What the...who are we kidding? Let's do it." That was more than 10 years ago, but we still get together a couple of times a year. We both act very straight and no one suspects our secret; that's part of the thrill.
- age 25, Massachusetts
When my friend and I were younger, we would sleep in the same bed when I spent the night at his house. Once he rolled over and accidentally touched my penis. It felt good, so we took it from there. Now the guy is a jerk and denies the whole thing. I'd love to masturbate with my new best friend, but I'm not sure how to bring it up.
- age 18, Michigan
Absolutely not! Why would anyone be possessed to do something like that? I have good friends, but the most we ever do is watch TV and play video games.
- age 23, California
For quite some time now, whenever I go over to my dad's house, I masturbate with my nephew. It originally started with watching the adult movies on HBO and "Skin-emax" (Cinemax), but then I taught him how to masturbate. We have watched each other masturbate but only for a few seconds at a time. I get too embarrassed. I have never ejaculated in front of him. I feel extremely bad because I get the feeling that somehow I'm sexually molesting him.
- age 15, Missouri
Definitely not. I have never masturbated with another male, nor have I ever wanted to. I am totally straight. When I perform a sexual act with another person or fantasize about someone during masturbation, that individual must always be a woman. There are infinite degrees of "gayness" between those of us who are completely straight and those who are devotedly homosexual. Someone who masturbates with a member of the same sex or who fantasizes about doing so has to be at least a little gay, even if they claim to "consider" themselves straight. Some people think of solitary masturbation as a homosexual act because it involves sex with oneself, but that is just plain silly.
- age 39, Pennsylvania
I recently invited my friend to stay over. We had masturbated together several times before, but always under our covers. I consider myself straight, but I really wanted us to try masturbating each other. So, after we had been doing it under our covers, I asked if we could compare penis sizes. I was amazed at the size of his penis — it was almost eight inches. I asked him if I could masturbate him, and he said it was okay. It sure was a lot of fun handling such a big penis.
- age 15, New York
No! I would never do that. I think that to masturbate with another boy is a gay behavior, which is nasty for me. I can't bear the idea of being seen or touched by someone else during masturbation. That's something very private and personal for me. I started masturbating when I was 12, and I've always felt ashamed and guilty. So I never talk with my friends about this (nor with my father of course!). As I've read now that there are many people who also masturbate, I feel better — but I would feel like a pervert to masturbate with someone of my own sex.
- age 14, Chile
As a teen, I very much enjoyed sharing the experience with my best friend (male). By the time we were 20 we had moved on to more mature activities.
- age 74, Virginia
When a 14-year-old friend of mine was over, I asked if he ever masturbated. He said he didn't even know how. So we visited the JackinWorld site and looked at the "Fun for Two" section [JackinExpert Collection]. Later that night I asked him if he wanted to masturbate, and we tried several different methods. Top-Bottom Vagina and One-Way Mutual were our favorites. Even though I consider myself straight, I would have to say honestly this was the best session I've ever had. I remember it fondly whenever I'm alone.
- age 17, New York
Sure — I've masturbated a number of times with my brother and some friends. My brother is older, and the circumstances were very straightforward. We shared a bedroom, and I walked in on him once while he was masturbating. Once the shock was over, we both admitted to masturbating frequently, and we decided there was no point in hiding it. The result was that we openly masturbated whenever we felt like it (almost every night). We got as far as helping each other out, but that was it. I think it was a positive and enjoyable experience. We're both married now with children.
- age 29, California
My best friend and I decided to go streaking. We went out in the country, took off all our clothes, and streaked around. After a while, we got to talking about girls, got horny, and I couldn't take it anymore — I started to masturbate. He got an erection and joined in. We've done it together several times since then, but we've never touched each other.
- age 18, Iowa
No, I am very sorry to say that I haven't. My brother is a definite no, and with my friends — well, we wouldn't even be naked in front of each other. I know they all do it, and just once I'd love to have somebody masturbate with me.
- age 15, Nova Scotia, Canada
Being a straight, horny dude I have never contemplated masturbating or having sex of any type with another male. I ponder my penis in private and masturbate to ejaculation with great pleasure strictly solo. I would like to get my new girlfriend to masturbate me when I get the nerve to ask her, though.
- age 25, California
I was at my house watching a movie with my old friend from junior high school, and...well, it just happened. We didn't really say anything or make much noise. Nobody was home. I never mentioned it to anyone, because I don't want to be a lesbian and my parents and friends would kill me! I wish I could do it again.
- age 15, California (female)
One of my good friends and I decided to masturbate one night. At first I thought it was gay but then decided it's something everyone does. However we never saw each other while we were doing it. We had our backs facing each other. It was a cool experience.
- age 21, North Dakota
One time when I was spending the night at my friend's house, I woke up late and had to go to the bathroom. When I walked in, my friend was sitting there whacking away. At first I was shocked, but then he told me to take a seat. Soon I, too, was masturbating. All of a sudden he reached over, grabbed my penis, and started to masturbate me. This was the weirdest thing, and I was quite shocked — but I soon forgot about that. Later I had a chance to masturbate him. His penis was smaller than mine and it felt very different.
- age 15, Texas
My friend and I were in Las Vegas at a hotel where we gambled, drank, and then went to our room. He commented how horny he was, so just joking, I suggested he buy one of the porno movies on TV and just masturbate. He didn't laugh and asked me, "That'd be okay with you?" I was somewhat stunned by his reply, but said, "Why not?" Needless to say, we both masturbated and did other things we had never thought of before. That was a sort of sex weekend — different, a "one-time" thing, but still pleasurable.
- age 34, California
When I was 10 and my sister was 12, I walked in on her masturbating. She got me to do it, too, so I wouldn't tell our mom. I didn't get much out of it that first time. But about two weeks later she asked me to do it with her again. This time, with her help, I had my first orgasm. We have masturbated together ever since.
- age 16, New Hampshire (female)
No, and I don't think I'd ever do it, either. It seems awkward — I know I'm not gay, but it would just seem as if I were. I think it's different for girls.
- age 15, Massachusetts
Not directly — when I was 13 or 14, a friend whose dad owned a liquor store where spank magazines were sold, slept over. He brought some of his dad's merchandise, and we checked it out. After about 20 minutes we were both obviously horny, and we both used the "I gotta go to the bathroom" excuse, in order to masturbate. It worked out fine, since his parents had two bathrooms. Once we were done, we just sat down and watched a movie. Not a word was said about what we had just done.
- age 28, Michigan
I have masturbated with quite a few of my friends. It's a kind of trust thing. If I can trust them not to share that secret, then they must be honorable. I always try to keep the conversation around women so it doesn't feel like a gay activity, but these excursions have led me to question my sexuality. I'm still not sure about the answer to that.
- age 14, Kansas
We are roommates and we have talked many nights about masturbation and heterosexual sex. One night we both got that "hard-to-control" feeling of hormonal overload that made us shake and shiver like we had the chills. It was the worst hormonal charge that either of us had ever had. So I, being the more open of the two, pulled my pants down a bit. He followed suit shortly after. We both ejaculated rather quickly, and it has happened many nights since then. The whole experience has made us more open about ourselves, our feelings, and our same-sex feelings, even though neither of us is gay. We never would have thought it would have happened, but now we are both glad it did.
- age 18, North Carolina
A close friend whom I met during my freshman year of college talked with me about everything you can imagine — including sex and masturbation. He used to divulge private information about the various sexual acts he and his girlfriend had experimented with. I had a room with a private bath, and we were getting ready to go out one evening. He was explaining the grip his girlfriend used on him when she masturbated him, and then he showed me. Well, immediately I had an erection, which was noticeable since we were changing into our clothes. He said, "I'll show you." That's when he masturbated me, and I masturbated him. I was very nervous, but we continued this for several more years until we were both out of college and moved away.
- age 28, Florida
I have never had the opportunity to do such a thing, although I think I regret it now — but it would not be the same thing anymore. So my hint for all you who are still in your teens is: If you have the wish to go at it with a friend of the same sex, do it while you're young and are still kind of free to experiment. You may not have anyone left to ask if you wait too long.
- age 21, Germany