He just lies there like he's asleep. I ask him, "Are you sleeping?" and he tells me he isn't and that it feels so good – but I mean, if it feels good then why doesn't he do anything to make it more obvious? Why do girls often moan or breathe harder than guys in these kinds of situations?
Great question – and it's true, most men and women do react differently. There are probably several factors at play here. My guess is that although he says it feels "so good," it may not feel quite good enough to cause him to involuntarily react the way you'd like him to. Understand that he touches his penis every day – boy, does he touch it! – so even if someone else is providing the pleasure it's probably not different enough a sensation to send him over the top. But if you did some exploring of his body, you'd probably find some very pleasurable regions where he's less accustomed to being touched. Areas to try are his scrotum, crotch, inner thighs, hands, feet, nipples, armpits, ears...there are dozens of erogenous zones on a male's body. As you explore around during your playtime, you might touch a region that causes him to gasp suddenly – in a good way! Then you'll know you're on to something. If you can combine masturbation with tantalizingly delicate stimulation of this region, your boyfriend will be very happy. And I bet he'll make more noise.
Other likely factors: You might not realize how inward and fantasy-oriented male sexuality is. When you're masturbating him he may be so deeply involved in a fantasy that he has no energy for outward expression. Also, many women feel more responsible than men for feeding the sexual ego of their partner through vocal and physical expression – unfortunately he may not feel he needs to do this for you.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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