Do you think he might be gay, and that when he masturbates it's like he's having sex with a guy? Or is there something mentally wrong with him? I know it feels good to masturbate, but it feels good to have sex with a woman every once in a while as well. I really need a man's point of view on this.
We couldn't possibly tell you what your boyfriend's sexual orientation is – even he might not be certain of it right now. But understand that it's extremely common for a male to masturbate fairly frequently even when two-person sex is readily available. It's hard to explain why; it's just something guys do, something they enjoy, a private time for themselves and their fantasies, which for many men are very important and enjoyable, even if they have no intentions of ever acting on them. He also might be very used to doing this as a part of his daily routine ("like shaving," as Jerry Seinfeld said). If you're sexually unsatisfied you should talk to him about that, because it's an important part of your relationship (at least for you) – but in terms of him masturbating without you, the best thing you could do is just accept it and let him have his pleasure.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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