She has told me she doesn't masturbate, and I believe her. I have gotten her to touch herself but not actually masturbate. I think she is just embarrassed about doing it – not only in front of me but by herself. Is there some way I could convince her there's no reason to be embarrassed?
This is very common. Unfortunately many girls do not get the chance to explore their bodies and their sexuality at as young an age as do boys. So she may still have hang-ups about touching herself "down there," perhaps because she has the idea it isn't "ladylike" or "nice."
First, explore her attitudes about masturbation. If she's open to the idea or curious, things will be relatively easy. Start by masturbating her, or having her watch you masturbate – whatever she wants. Ask her what feels good to her. Enjoy the process together, be very communicative and loving, and take your time. Losing sexual hang-ups is a process of unlearning that can take months or even years – and she may not be ready to tackle it just yet. If that's the case, you're probably better off not pushing the idea until she feels a little more comfortable. Until then, tell her (and show her!) how wonderful masturbation really is!
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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