Of the women I've asked, most disagree with the popular theory that size makes no difference to a woman. Too large is simply too large, and too small is too small. And most women admit that all else being equal, a slightly larger-than-average penis feels better in the vagina than one that's slightly smaller than average. But they also agree with the many JackinWorld readers who point out that what you do with your penis is more important than your size.
It's important not to take the responses below too seriously. I specifically asked the intercourse question knowing a large number of responses would come from boys who hadn't yet experienced intercourse — just to get an idea of their preconceptions.
One more thing: This week's responses are ordered by the writers' ages. I thought it was interesting to see how males' opinions on this subject varied with age.]
I don't think it matters except in your own mind. Everyone always wants to have a huge penis, but no one needs one.
- age 14, Arizona (5 3/4")
Yes, of course it matters. Because when you're masturbating, you can have more length to go up and down on. And when you're having sex, you can go in more. Mine is 6.5" and I think it is pretty big. I've asked other people about the normal size, and they said mine was pretty big. Bigger than most of them.
- age 14, California (6 1/2")
Yes, I think the longer your penis is, the better feelings you will get, but that's just my opinion. I've always been quite big, so I don't know what it feels like to be smaller — but I think it would be more enjoyable if I were, say, 9" or more. It just seems their would be more to stroke.
- age 14, California (7 1/2")
No, I don't think it matters any more than someone's sexual preference does. I mean, as long as they are doing something to themselves, why should anyone else care what they are thinking about? The same applies to penis size. It doesn't matter how big you are. As long as you have fun, who cares?
- age 14, California (6 1/2")
I've noticed in the locker room that there's every size, from the tiniest to the biggest. Mine is somewhere in the middle; I don't know if it will grow anymore or not. I haven't had sex with a girl yet, but I masturbate all the time, and I can't believe it could feel any better if it were any other size. I felt a friend's really big one and couldn't really get a good grip on it. I also felt my younger brother's little one, and it didn't feel right, either. I like the size mine is. It fits my hand.
- age 14, Texas (6")
Yes, in masturbation, because if you have a long one you can suck yourself — it's the best sensation.
- age 14, Canada (7")
I do think it matters while having intercourse, since you can thrust it in deeper when it's bigger — but while masturbating, as long as you can get great pleasure, it doesn't matter.
- age 15, Georgia (8 1/2")
NO! It's quality, not quantity!
- age 15, California (6")
To me, penis size does not really matter, either in masturbation or in intercourse. It does not matter if it's 3" or 12" long, as long as you can get an erection, orgasm, and ejaculate. Of course, there are some ladies who like bigger penises, so to them it matters. But actually, any penis can sufficiently stimulate a vagina, So it's just in their minds.
- age 15, Philippines (5.7")
In masturbation — definitely not. But I often wonder if my penis is really big enough to please the girl, although I guess there aren't really many girls who care about the size.
- age 15, Norway (6 1/2")
I've never had sex, but I think it does matter in masturbation. I think it should be longer than the width of your hand (for better sliding), and be wide enough for a comfortable grip.
- age 15, Florida (6")
I think it only really matters to the guy it's attached to. I'm not huge by any means, but my penis is big enough to have fun with. All the guys I know think girls won't be interested in them if they have smaller penises. Girls don't really care! It's not the penis they're having sex with, it's YOU! If they just wanted the pleasure of the penis, they'd buy a dildo!
- age 16, Utah (6 1/2")
Yes — if you are too big the girls will be afraid, and if you are too small the girls will laugh. In masturbation it does not matter, because if you are comfortable with the size, you don't have to worry about anything.
- age 16, Arizona (6")
Yes, I believe size matters, because my friend is several inches larger than myself. We have been masturbating each other regularly for several years, and his penis is definitely more fun to play with than mine simply because of its size.
- age 16, Washington (5")
Unless your penis is 2 inches long, I don't think it matters at all. When masturbating, the most sensitive part of the penis is the head, and unless you were in some kind of horrible disfiguring accident, you have that. Also, the most sensitive part of a woman is her clitoris, which is near the top of her vagina — so you don't really have to have a snake in your pants to satisfy her. The main penis-size thing comes from guys feeling insecure about their bodies. What's important is to be happy with what you've got; no matter what size you are, I'm sure it works fine.
- age 16, Washington (6 1/2")
It doesn't make a difference. A friend and I masturbate together all the time; his is a lot smaller than mine, but it doesn't matter to me. He likes to masturbate me after he has ejaculated, because he likes the feel of a big penis.
- age 17, Nevada (7 1/2")
I don't think it really matters, but I do like it big. I am big and I get no complaints from any of my girlfriends. They all like it big — it gives them more pleasure and more to do.
- age 17, Wisconsin (9.5")
No, I don't think so. Sex and masturbation feel great to me, so I don't see how it would feel any different if I were smaller or larger.
- age 17, North Carolina (6")
I've never tried a girl, but I would like to. I masturbate all the time, and my penis is certainly right for that. I'm told my penis is small, but I don't know — I haven't seen but two or three others, and they were the size of mine. Four of my friends were over and we decided to try a circle jerk. First we just stood in a circle, pulled our penises out and began to masturbate. Then one guy reached next to him and started masturbating his friend. Soon we were all doing someone else. It felt good, but a little strange. Mine was as big as anybody else's there.
- age 17, Oklahoma (6")
Not in masturbation, unless you get a kick out of thinking you're huge. From what I've heard about sex, it's a more visual turn-on than anything else, and I've also heard thickness matters more than length.
- age 17, New Jersey (5 1/2")
I personally find a longer penis more fun and attractive to look at — there is more to look at, you know. I have had experience masturbating with 3 other guys in my life, and one of them with a bigger penis was more fun to masturbate with.
- age 19, Michigan (7 1/2")
Sure it matters! Every girl I've ever been with has told me it matters. If it's too big, it hurts, and it can actually be a turn-off. According to an experienced friend of mine, there are VERY few guys who are so small that they are useless. The best size to be is average. Don't run around thinking a 12-incher is any better than yours is. It's probably worse.
- age 19, California (6 1/2")
I don't think it matters in masturbation, but it does in intercourse. If you are too big you can easily hurt the girl you are with, especially if you get really excited and start slamming away into a hole that is shallower than your penis is long. On the other hand, if you are too small, many positions won't work, and possibly you will not be able to give much stimulation to the woman. I've been told by several women that 5 to 7 inches is a good size for intercourse and oral sex, although a bigger or smaller penis doesn't mean you and your partner won't have fun.
- age 20, Arkansas (6")
I don't think it really has anything to do with masturbating. But I would like to have at least another inch or two for sex. My girlfriend has never complained. I would also like a few more inches when I'm flaccid [soft], just for when I'm walking around the dorm showers.
- age 20, Alabama (6")
No. Masturbation and the feeling when you climax have nothing to do with size. It's all about being comfortable with yourself. If you treat your women right in bed, and give her oral pleasure, foreplay, and whatever else she needs, it won't matter if you're 4 inches or 10 inches. Your partner will still get enjoyment out of being with you and sharing the pleasures of wonderful sex.
- age 22, Oregon (7")
As a virgin, I cannot comment on whether or not size matters during intercourse. However, I do not believe size makes any difference when masturbating. A guy with an 8" penis is going to feel the same pleasure as a guy with a 4" one.
- age 24, Australia (6 1/2")
Yes. Women feel more if it is bigger. It's logical, since the pleasure comes from the rubbing. Try a Q-Tip on your girlfriend, and then tell me if she feels anything! I believe diameter is more important than length, since only the part that can go in is useful. As long as you are long enough to get to the bottom, the additional inches are kind of useless.
- age 25, Canada (7 1/2")
Actually, I wish mine were smaller — say, about 6" or even a little less. Women and men complain about my penis being too large (I'm bisexual), for it is very thick in addition to being long. I thoroughly enjoy "handing" it — a double-fisted pleasuring — but in intercourse, I find large is not always better.
- age 28, Connecticut (9")
I think it matters during both. I believe the ideal penis size would be about 7 1/2". This would be plenty of length to enjoy complete satisfaction. - age 30, Tennessee (6 1/2")
Yes — when you're smaller, size does matter! You and your partner are limited to some positions. But I still get great pleasure, and I wouldn't want it any other way. I enjoy my size. age 31, Canada (3 3/4")
No — when you're masturbating, you don't have anything bigger or smaller to compare with, unless you're doing it with other guys and notice the other sizes. You make do with what you have. You guys who maybe aren't that big yet, don't sweat it. When you finally are able to make love to a girl, the most important thing to remember is technique — not size. Trust me!
- age 34, California (6 1/2")
I think some women like the visual aspect of a large penis. However, I don't think a large penis is necessary to physically please a woman. I am not huge and I've had several women screaming under me. I think your ability to last is more important.
- age 34, Tennessee (6 1/2")
Penis size doesn't matter in terms of giving yourself pleasure or having sex. Your size won't reduce the pleasure of either. I think men who worry about the size of their penises are wasting their time about something unimportant, rather than focusing on how to give themselves and their partners pleasure.
- age 35, Illinois (5")
Penis size does not matter, either in masturbation or intercourse. Try not to get too hung up on this issue, and you will enjoy both activities even more.
- age 35, Maryland (6")
There are enough different ways to masturbate that size probably doesn't matter. In intercourse, a short penis can fall out during normal thrusting, according to a woman whose friend had a 5" penis. I've had a complaint that I was thrusting too deeply, and I'm about average in length — so I wouldn't want to be much longer. Women claim that girth is important; they like 'em thick.
- age 49, New York (6")
Penis size has nothing to do with masturbation. Neither does age. As long as it feels good and doesn't harm anyone and you are having fun — why not?
- age 50, Colorado (6-7")
No, penis size doesn't matter. What matters is in your mind: your interest and your motivation to use the most pleasurable techniques.
- age 58, California (6.5")
My dad had the tiniest little thing I ever saw, and he was having sex the week he died at age 83. I don't believe it held him back any. Guess it doesn't matter.
- age 60, California (6")
Actually, it doesn't make any difference — but as a young man growing up, I thought it did. I was afraid I didn't "measure" up to the rest of the world. I always masturbated regularly, and of course it didn't matter to my hand. When I got married, it didn't matter to my wife. I had a love affair for a couple of years and it didn't matter to her. Now, I still enjoy my penis a lot — almost every day — and the size hasn't mattered in the last 40 years. I find I'm a lot more sexually active than a lot of men with big penises who are younger than me. I think the thing that matters is what's inside my head. I love and enjoy sex, and my penis is my tool toward that end. It feels as good to me as a bigger one would.
- age 62, Texas (5 3/4")
I don't anymore. When I was a young man, size meant everything to me. I kept accurate measurements all through my development years and grew to a very satisfying 8 inches. I don't know why, but my penis seems to have shrunk as I grew older. It is fatter now, so it is still satisfying to me and my wife. Although she is not as sexually active as I am, I still like to masturbate almost every day. My advice to young JackinWorld readers is keep wacking — don't ever think you are too old to do it. Masturbation is not just for kids; it will get better as you grow older and become more experienced.
- age 63, Washington (6")