Let's say you get a massage from two people who are equally skilled. One has large, strong hands, and the other has skinny, boney, pointy fingers. Will one feel better than the other? Of course. This doesn't mean you would not like the person with boney hands; since they're skilled, you will still enjoy the massage. But the bigger hands will simply feel better. Hey, that's life. I don't think we make people feel better by lying to them and saying physical characteristics don't make a difference. If I'm 5 feet tall and weigh 100 pounds, I might as well accept the fact that I probably won't be a great linebacker. And if I'm 7 feet tall and weigh 300 pounds I probably won't be a very good jockey. And I have to learn to deal with it.
- age 26, New Jersey
As a female, I have had to give a lot of thought to this question over the years. After much field research (hahaha), I have developed the following treatise regarding size and sex: (1) Size does matter. A bigger penis stimulates a larger area at once. (2) Too much size, however, matters as well. Attempting to give oral pleasure to a monstrosity of a penis puts the focus on not barfing rather than having fun. Also, an extra-long ramming up against a woman's cervix quickly turns coupling into something reminiscent of a sadistic pap smear. (3) Size doesn't *necessarily* matter. It takes more skill to develop oral and manual abilities than it does to mindlessly jackhammer, and good fine-motor skills will make most women forgive and forget quite readily for other areas. (4) If you're in love, it's totally irrelevant.
- age 20, Tennessee (female)
This Week's Wackiest Response:
Penis size is most important for fending off the Martians that will attack us in the year 2460. I plan to start a breeding program using only men with massive penises to ensure us an army of giant "penis-warriors" and allow us to reign supreme over those lowly space creatures. I only hope we don't end up with penis-men so large, they kill us all with their gigantic penises. And just in case I haven't ensured being the most wacky response, purple monkey dishwasher swallows a green tugboat and spits out, get this, death, in tugboat form.
- age 14, Illinois
In truth, no; however, you are going to have a very difficult time convincing 98% of the male population of that. The penis is only one of many sexual organs, albeit one that is usually the center of attention. There are erogenous zones all over the body. The most neglected sex organ is probably the imagination (and the untrained brain that is imaginationally deficient). Keep that one stoked and everything is ecstasy! Naturally!
- age 45, Virginia
Penis size does matter. Every guy on this planet wants a big penis (I'm about 6 1/2 inches), and it is fun to have one. Who wants to masturbate or have sex with a small penis? I am happy with the size of my penis and I hope he continues to grow. It's a guy thing, man.
- age 14, Pennsylvania
I wouldn't think so — but then again, I haven't been sticking multiple sizes of my penis in vaginas lately. GirlsI have been with have told me they like how wide around I am and the like, but that's likely only pillow talk. I imagine, depending on one's particular tastes, that size matters to *someone* during intercourse; you hear too much about it to be otherwise. That said, if I were masturbating, I would like mine smaller so my hand could touch the base of my penis without leaving the head. (Maybe I just want bigger hands.)
- age 22, Missouri
Yes. I would rather have a V-8 in my truck, in case I might have to tow something, than have a V-4 and know I can't.
- age 44, Illinois
Penis size does not really matter in intercourse, a woman's vagina can contract or expand to fit most penis sizes. As for masturbation, it probably affects sensation somewhat but I don't think it is any better or worse with a certain size penis. A large penis may have more skin surface that's being stimulated, but a small penis means the sensation is more local or intense — so it evens out. Guys should stop worrying so much about this issue and enjoy their penis for how it is (except for serious deformations of course) and use it to its potential whether it's big, small, average, long, short, thick, thin, bent downward or upward, pointing left or right, or perfectly straight. Just enjoy it for how it is!
- age 17, Minnesota
Size does not matter at all, and there is no reason for guys — or women — to get all hung up about it. Maturity is accepting yourself the way you are. If you have a penis, you can have the most fantastic times with it, with your wife/lover or solo, regardless of its size!
- age 51, Texas
Guys would never admit this, but a big penis is better than a small one, for self confidence and performance. It's the truth.
- age 16, Tennessee
Objectively, I can say I have an average size. Subjectively, I have over average pleasure. That's the measurement that counts. So, feel good about yourself!
- age 31, Israel
Very much so. I'm lucky enough to have developed a large penis over the last 12 months or so, and I now get a lot more satisfaction by masturbating with both hands. I have also just started having sex with my girlfriend, and I feel that I am giving her absolutely maximum stimulation with every stroke.
- age 14, Sweden
Visually, yes; sexually, no. A big penis looks good, but it is not necessarily a great thing for sex. Most guys with large penises seem to think that's enough — it's big, so that makes them a good lover — when it fact, the opposite is true. Also, there are drawbacks to having a large penis. During oral sex, big can be too big. As for intercourse, thickness matters more than length. 9 inches and medium thickness is not nearly as uncomfortable as 5 inches and thick, especially during anal intercourse.
- age 29, Indiana
Penis size matters in masturbation, simply because having a bigger penis opens the door to a whole new world of techniques and stimulations. Having a smaller penis will probably limit you to some extent. Sex, on the other hand, is a more touchy subject. Some say penis size matters because the deeper it goes, the better it feels, etc. It all depends on the person and the level of comfort and acceptance they are at with their bodies and their partners.
- age 15, Canada
I don't think it matters at all. However, in masturbation, it is probably nice to have more to play with. In intercourse, it's best to have enough to please, yet not enough to be painful. Overall, I'd say average is best all around. It only matters in your head.
- age 19, United Kingdom
Well I can't tell you! I don't have an adjustable penis, now do I?
- age 14, Oregon
With a penis of 8 inches in length and 6.25 around I have personally experienced that size does matter. In masturbation sessions, mutual or not, size is a visual stimulant. In intercourse it depends mostly on the partner. Can she accommodate me or not? With a longer penis you are able to try more positions, but you also have to be careful not to go too deep.
- age 25, Netherlands
Penis size probably does not matter, other than in the minds of people. It has always been *bigger is better.* If you kill a bigger deer, you are a better hunter. If you kill a bigger lion, you are braver. If you have a bigger penis (or testicles, or scrotum, or all three), you are a better man/lover. As to being actually better for the sensations, who can say? It's all subjective. It is also probably important as to the erotic thoughts of the person/people involved.
- age 51, South Africa
I feel that penis size matters. I don't know about sex, but in the locker room, would you want a small penis to hide or a huge one to show off?
- age 14, Wisconsin
Whether or not it should, of course size matters, to a degree. There's two components to it: physical and mental. Physically, a very large or very small penis can add challenges for proper stimulation for you and/or a partner. Mentally, a very small or very large penis can generate feelings of embarrassment, which could affect self-esteem and how a potential partner will perceive you — as much because of how it colors your personality as their own expectations based on size. Until I met my girlfriend, I always thought I was small at just under 6", and that affected the fantasies I had while masturbating. But I'm big enough to satisfy my partner and myself, and *that* is the only size that really matters.
- age 26, Illinois
I think it does matter for masturbation. I think the bigger the penis the more fun you will have playing with it, especially if you could do a self-suck. I don't know anyone who doesn't like having a big penis in their hands. Also, size does matter for sex — not so much length but girth. The fatter the better. Me, I'd like a long and fat penis, around 7 inches long, for me to have fun with as well as my partner. But I'm still happy with my 6-inch penis.
- age 17, Canada
There are two different ideas going around about penis size according to women. Either "bigger is better," or "size doesn't matter when they use it right." It's hard for me to agree with either one. I tend to find that for intercourse, it's nice for your partner to have a decent-size penis, and it's made even better if he knows what he's doing. I don't think size plays too large of a part in the big picture, but don't be fooled into thinking it doesn't matter at all.
- age 15, Montana (female)
No. My boyfriend is about 6 inches, which is average, and sex with him is great. I wouldn't want him to be any bigger. And even if he were smaller, I doubt it'd make a difference. I haven't been with any other guys, so I can't compare, but I think many factors influence the level of sexual satisfaction you attain with someone — and I dare say penis size isn't one of them. In fact, I know that if a guy is *too* big, certain positions can be painful for the woman. Plus keep in mind that the vaginal canal varies in its elasticity and depth as well.
- age 18, Spain (female)
Size matters only if you're in a competition for the biggest penis!
- age 16, Canada
No, but we're guys. Guys are competitive by nature, so it's only natural that our favorite body part is subject to so much size scrutiny. Yeah, I'm glad I'm a bit larger than average, but I also got made fun of a bit when I was a kid because it was bigger than most. Now it's a bragging right. Big deal. That said, size really doesn't matter for anything else. If it works, it's fine. It might be a problem for heterosexual intercourse if it's really small. And many of the really big ones tend to look grotesque when erect, and they point in funny directions!
- age 41, Georgia
I would have to say yes. I don't mean that a guy has to be well endowed to be a good partner, though. Using your penis is definitely not the only way to please a woman. I do like the feeling of being "filled up" during intercourse, though, and I don't want my hand to be larger than the penis I'm masturbating. But a large penis doesn't impress me — it's how you use it that really counts.
- age 16, Illinois (female)
Size matters. A large one makes the owner feel good to show it off to his partner and mates. During intercourse a tight fit adds to the erotic sensation, and the vaginal lips pull on the loose shaft-skin, enhancing sensation at the corona of the glans.
- age 59, United Kingdom
It doesn't matter how big your penis is. The sad thing is, if you *do* have an "acceptable" penis, your peers will find something else about you to make fun of. People live to conquer and strive to gain hegemony over others. This is the reason some teenagers have such a hard time fitting into cliques. These teenagers are the ones who don't care about other people's physical appearance, but rather the appearance of their personality and morals. These are the people who *should* be the leaders of the schools.
- age 14, Arkansas
It sort of matters. If a penis is too big it's hard to masturbate, hard to get your hand around. I like them smaller than average. It's cute when a guy's not a star.
- age 44, New York
Yes — it's mind over matter. If a girl sees it small, she will feel it small. If a girl gasps at it, she will have the ride of her life
- age 17, Pennsylvania
God, I hope not!
- age 19, Florida
As Yoda once said in "Star Wars," "Size matters not."
- age 14, Kansas
To me, penis size is very important for intercourse, but I desperately want a *smaller* penis. When I started having sex with my girlfriend two years ago, we both found it extremely pleasurable. However, since then, I have experienced significant increase to both the length and diameter of my erect penis. This now makes full penetration rather uncomfortable for my girlfriend, even though we use a lubricant. We now try to achieve penetration when I'm slightly limp, but within seconds I'm fully erect again and causing discomfort. When I look at my school friends in the showers, some with very small penises, I envy them enormously because they remind me how good sex used to be before my genitals had fully developed.
- age 16, Netherlands
Penis size doesn't matter when I masturbate. I had sex with a guy once who was really tall, and I looked forward to see him packing a big one. To my disappointment this 6'4" guy had a 4-inch erect penis, and the contrast of big man/small penis was disappointing. Conversely a really big penis is difficult during oral sex because the mouth can stretch only so far, and having a penis head banging hard on the back of your throat can choke you a little.
- age 28, Virginia
I *know* it does — from bitter experience. Peyronie's disease has shrunk my erect penis from 7" to 5 1/2". I guarantee you things were better before — for masturbation and intercourse.
- age 48, Texas
Within reason, penis size absolutely does NOT matter in either case. I have masturbated with quite a few of my guy friends and seen immense variety in penis size, from extremely large (long and wide) to very small (short as well as narrow). As I have witnessed, we all were able to take the same amount of pleasure from the act. I have a fairly average penis lengthwise but perhaps a little narrower than most — and not one aspect of it has ever kept me from absolutely relishing both masturbation and sex. Penis size varies enormously, and everyone has a unique situation on their hands, to deal with and to exploit with as much gusto as each man can. I say, go to it, boys!
- age 18, Illinois
Size definitely matters in intercourse — not as much for the actual sex than it is before sex. Trust me, when a girl says how big your penis is, it makes you feel really good about yourself. It's just as good with masturbation. I have a large penis for my age (its bigger than my dad's and my older brother's), and it feels good to make those really long strokes and try to wrap my hand around my penis. Bigger is always better — for men and women.
- age 15, Mississippi
Penis size does matter. I am an Asian, and I have a small penis — only 3 inches erect. I don't think it matters much when I am masturbating, but I always like to fantasize that I have a huge 12-inch penis when I masturbate. I feel that during intercourse it has great importance. My ex girlfriend dumped me when she found out that I had such a small penis, and she told everyone I knew about my lack of manhood. I just don't know what to do.
- age 20, New York
Yes, penis size does matter. I know of girls who won't have sex unless the guy's penis is at least 6 inches long. In fact, the girl I'm dating now had to know my penis size before she even agreed to date me. To get ladies, penis size definitely matters.
- age 15, Idaho
Hell no! Not in my opinion, anyway. My penis is about 5 1/2 inches, and although it seems like this may be an inconvenience, far from it! Sexual therapists believe the best-size penis for providing multiple orgasms to females are about 6 inches. Some females like it bigger, but for many that only hurts. Besides, what I can't provide in this department...well, let's just say I don't have my tongue pierced for nothing!
- age 21, Australia
No, penis size does not matter. I have an unusually small penis, but I can live with it very well. I can masturbate just like my friend who I think has a really long one. We have to use different techniques, but it still works for both of us!
- age 18, Germany
No, If you know what you are doing and how to use it. At any size the penis is a wonderful part of the human body.
- age 25, Georgia
It does for me, but that might be because I am really big compared to my friends. It turns me on that I can put both of my hands on my penis when I masturbate, and my friends are also impressed by the size and the thickness. That is a huge turn-on, and just to see the look on a girl's face when she sees it hard makes me almost ejaculate. Even my mom said she was impressed when she saw me get out of the shower. So I guess the answer for me is: YES!
- age 17, Florida
Of course. Guys who say it doesn't have a small penis. Girls who say it doesn't have a boyfriend with a small penis.
- age 17, North Carolina
All the jocks are wrong — size doesn't matter. I'll admit it: I have a small penis. Does that make me any less proud of myself? I think not.
- age 15, New Jersey
Size for sex? No. As long as it gets in there, and it doesn't tear anything, size doesn't matter. Any woman who tells you otherwise is just being greedy.
- age 30, New York (female)
Size doesn't matter, and I am not just saying that because I am small. But what does matter is how you use what you were blessed with. My ex-girlfriend stated that if a guy is too big, it is disgusting. I think the best thing to say here is just let your lover decide.
- age 18, Iowa
Size does matter, at least for intercourse — perhaps not so much for masturbation. Despite what women often say, I think visual appeal is important, especially when you're doing it the first time. Women often use the term "chemistry" as being very important if not necessary. Isn't that another term for visual stimulation? Women know the difference between "small" and "large," and I think small is less attractive visually and tactile-wise . On the other hand, too large is probably also less attractive, if not downright frightening!
- age 32, Washington
Unless you're a porn star or you get with a girl who has a loose vagina, penis size does not matter. All girls really want is a guy who can last long.
- age 20, Wisconsin
Sorry, guys out there, but not only is fighting for a larger penis a losing battle, even if you could win, you would be very disappointed. I myself am very near average at 5 3/4 inches erect, but I still miss those days when I could get an erection without my pants "holding" it in, and when I didn't need to "hide" if my parents walked in on me. So even though I am average, if anything, I wish I were a bit smaller. I can't imagine wanting to have a bigger one!
- age 15, Arkansas
In gay sex, not at all. Sometimes I prefer a smaller penis. It is still considered a good thing to be big, but I have my preferences. In masturbation, size doesn't matter at all. Hell, if you're masturbating, who's going to care what size you are?
- age 18, Wisconsin
Define "matter" — for the purpose of reproduction, not at all. If it can produce semen, you can become a father. For personal physical pleasure, not at all. Even with my 4 3/4 incher, I feel really, really good when I masturbate and/or have sex. I have also been assured by all 3 of my life's sexual partners that my penis did a good job of stimulating their vaginas and pleasing them. However, it does matter if you want to star in a porno film. It does matter if you are mentally turned on by seeing a large penis. It also would matter if you had a sex partner who preferred (for whatever reason) a large penis.
- age 23, Indiana
Scientists say that pain and pleasure exist in your brain, not in your thumb when you hit it with a hammer or in your penis when you reach orgasm. (That's how people can feel "phantom" pain in a leg that has been amputated.) So a small penis can deliver as much sensation as a large one. The advantages of a large penis are pretty much a social construct-- that is, invented or imagined by society.
- age 39, Texas
It does *not* matter in masturbation for sure — you can pleasure yourself no matter your penis size. As for intercourse, I have never had a complaint, and I'm not the longest guy by any means. I take great care in pleasing well with my tongue and having everything made well ready by the time we have actual intercourse. I take a great deal of pride in pleasing myself *and* my female partners with what I have been given!
- age 51, Missouri
I think penis size matters, but it's not (pardon the expression) a "big" deal. I have engaged in mutual masturbation sessions with a few guys who were so short it was hard to get much "back and forth" motion going, and I have been with guys so large that masturbating them was the only sexual behavior we could engage in. I have really had more difficulty, on the intercourse side, with a penis that was too large than too small. Also, something most guys longing for a big penis never know: Really large penises often don't get very hard. It takes too much effort to fill them up with blood when aroused. I'd rather have a smaller but rock-hard penis than a penis that was big but never very firm. As it is, I am statistically average — so I guess that means I have the perfect penis!
- age 38, Texas