When I first started masturbating a year ago, it was a race to the climax. I just stroked away until I got to the finish. Then I started to realize I could really improve my orgasm if I did certain things. It became like a symphony and I am the conductor. I go slowly with pulsing pressure at times – fast and intense at others. And the more perfectly I control the tempo and the intensity, the better the big finish is! Just call me Mozart the Masturbator.
- age 14, California
This Week's Wackiest Response:
My penis just ejaculates every 18 hours and 47 minutes on its own, so I have to make sure I am alone when the scheduled time comes.
- age 20, California
I'm much better at timing my orgasm when masturbating than I am at doing so while having sex. I can definitely bring it on when I want it, sometimes in less than 30 seconds, depending on how aroused I am. The problem is holding it back, but I'm usually successful with that when I'm doing it myself. If I have the time and the privacy, I masturbate very slowly anyway, often using only one finger to caress small areas of my penis at a time. I find that moving the focus around slowly brings different sensations that, while incredibly arousing, do not induce to orgasm if done slowly and lightly enough. Orgasm occurs mostly when I focus on the fleshy part just under the head on the underside of my uncircumcised penis. That's the magic spot for me.
- age 35, Massachusetts
My control is not very good at all – I masturbate for the result. However, I do like to rub myself. I still enjoy the orgasm even more.
- age 25, Pennsylvania
As an avid JackinWorld fan, I have learned that it pays to prevent orgasm for as long as possible, though for me this is not possible! I have no self-control. Even though I intend to keep the session going for as long as possible, I get impatient and want the orgasm straight away. I need to slow down!
- age 16, United Kingdom
I have very good control. Of course, it is easier to "bring it on" when I want to than to hold back. I like to do a lot of edging – starting-and-stopping – and I think this has taught me control. My typical session lasts 10 to 15 minutes of solid stroking; I watch the clock to make sure I last at least 10 minutes. I may have to stop and start a few times, but then I can focus on the pleasure of each stroke, almost forgetting about orgasm until I want it to happen.
- age 55, Illinois
During my early teens, I used the stop-and-go technique often. This helped me identify how close I was to orgasm and how close I was to the point of no return. Now, I can stop the process at any time and restart it, which allows me to have a far better orgasm than just going all the way without stopping. To get a more potent orgasm requires intense concentration. When you get close, focus on the rhythm of your hand; slow it down and make the strokes uniform. Also, coordinate your breathing with the strokes – slow and steady. Relax your muscles as long as you possibly can, and hold on for a wild ride!
- age 16, Louisiana
I used to be better at edging – holding off my climax for a lot of incredible feeling to happen. Recently, I seem to have lost some of that self-control. Maybe it's that I'm afraid of losing my erection. We older guys do sometimes have trouble staying as erect as when we were younger. But not too long ago, I did a session where I took my hands off each time I got to the brink. The first time I oozed some semen; the next 3 or 4 times I just felt mighty good. Then as a finale, I masturbated fully, and the feeling was great! It all amounted to 5 or 6 times the pleasure of a normal orgasm.
- age 50, Massachusetts
I am terrible at control because I always want to let it go. I always tell myself that I will control it next time, but I never do!
- age 14, Ohio
I was not so good at timing my orgasm before I got married. I would get fully aroused and then just go at it all the way to ejaculation within 5 minutes. My wife is on a training program overseas, so now I must take care of myself. I learned to take my time and value the process much more. Practicing the stop-and-go technique, I can now hold back my ejaculation by caressing my testicles and anus instead of rubbing only my penis throughout.
- age 31, China
I use a variation of the stop-and-go method. At first, I start pumping slowly or vibrating with my fist. As soon as I feel that I'm about to ejaculate, I stop for a few seconds and then slowly start vibrating again. I repeat it a couple more times, and if I time it just right, this can go on for hours! When I finally let myself ejaculate, the orgasm is incredible and the semen just comes gushing out.
- age 14, New York
With maturity, I've improved my control. If I want to climax quickly, I simply stroke rapidly with my right hand (the fist method), using my natural secretion and a little water. However, I enjoy long sessions and have the time and privacy to do so. Consequently, I use short, gentle strokes, adding K-Y to my own secretions, and misting my hand and penis with water from a trigger-sprayer. I alternate hands, employing several of Bruce's suggestions, including rolling my erection between my palms, massaging my frenulum and my perineum, and caressing my nipples, thighs, and abdomen. If I feel an ejaculation approaching I simply slow down, or I release my penis for a few minutes until it's safe to start again. By repeated edging, I can prolong my session for an hour or longer – enjoying all the sensations along the way before ending in an explosive orgasm.
- age 61, Michigan
Once I get going, baby, there is no turning back!
- age 17, Florida
It depends – but I'm not quite sure on what. Sometimes, orgasms come easily for me and I can control them well just by thinking about it. So much of female orgasm happens in the mind anyway – you just have to concentrate to get there. Sometimes, though, orgasm totally eludes me. Perhaps it has to do with the time of month, hormone levels, and such, but I'm not entirely sure.
- age 21, Tennessee (female)
Sometimes I am just too into the moment to stop, and at other times, I don't want to let it end. But when I want it to go on, I just keep on doing the stop-and-go technique. I am actually getting quite good at it, too. I remember one time when I stopped, I climaxed right after stopping. I was still horny, so I just kept stroking! Also, I like to switch to a different grip when I feel that I'm almost there, like from the normal fist grip to the 3-finger grip.
- age 16, California
Masturbation is *the* way to time orgasm, whether you want to experience it quickly or keep putting it off until you just can't anymore. There is no form of control quite like your own hand. You can vary the speed, the touch, the position, etc. A vagina simply can't do this.
- age 47, Missouri
I find that squeezing a rolled-up towel between my thighs helps enormously to control my orgasm. By releasing the pressure at just the right moment, I can stop my orgasm even after the so-called point of no return. I can do this repeatedly until ending up with an explosive ejaculation.
- age 17, United Kingdom
Orgasms kind of sneak up on me, and there is no stopping them once they have started.
- age 47, New Jersey (female)
When I feel that I'm about to ejaculate, I squeeze my PC muscle to stop the ejaculation. Then I go again and again until I get bored (it hasn't happened yet). When I feel that I want an orgasm, I let go of the PC muscle and ejaculate. My semen usually shoots farther, and there's more of it.
- age 16, United Kingdom
Learning how to control my breathing is my key to starting and stopping my ejaculation. When I feel the urge, I just remember to take very slow, deep breaths and focus on controlling my orgasm. It took patience, but once I mastered the technique, my orgasms began to last for 10 to 15 minutes. No joke! It's a form of Tantra. Just ask the singer Sting!
- age 27, California
I am good at control to a point, but then it all breaks down. I prefer to give up control.
- age 14, Virginia
I control my orgasms by what I am thinking about at the time.
- age 19, Texas
I saw a movie on Tantric lovemaking, and watching that, I learned how to control and prolong my orgasm and ejaculation. It is simple – when you are about to ejaculate, take a deep breath and relax. Another way is to flex your pelvic muscle. Doing both, you may get small orgasms, but if you hold out and time it well, you get a good orgasm. By doing this I have learned to time it as well as hold back for long periods, if necessary.
- age 25, California
I find it very difficult to control orgasm. Sometimes, even at school, when I see something very sexual, I have an orgasm right then and there.
- age 15, United Kingdom
I used to hear about guys who could hold it. Not until I got to college did some buddies and I try it. I can now have 3 to 5 orgasms a night before ejaculating. Then when I'm done, or halfway through, I can stop, squeeze or hand-drain what is left over, and go at it again with "pre-cum" and all just like I had a minute before. It requires a lot of concentration sometimes to go on multiples.
- age 21, California
I guess I am okay at timing my orgasms. Whenever I get close to orgasm, I just slow down my stroking. When the orgasmic feeling goes away, I start to stroke faster. Sometimes I squeeze the base of my penis to hold off orgasm. When I am ready I stroke fast until i want to climax, and then I just let it go.
- age 18, Texas
When I masturbate, I have to force myself to stop if I want to. Otherwise, I just go and go until orgasm. I don't think I have ever started a masturbation session that I did not finish.
- age 13, Oregon
I'm a pro at control by now. It was never a big problem for me. Having a foreskin was great, because I started masturbating way before my friends ever did. I have done it since I was 5 or 6 years old – and with no mess! I think I was about 14 when the free ride was over. I found then that by softly pinching the end of my overhang, the mess could be contained until I could get to the bathroom.
- age 41, Illinois
I generally can't time my orgasm. If I start to feel that it's coming, it comes fast. Occasionally, there are times when it seems that I can pump for hours and hold back an orgasm.
- age 15, Texas
I don't try to control my orgasm. I tried a few times and could not bring it back – an unpleasant experience. Probably, I should have practiced this "art" when I was younger.
- age 61, California
I am hopeless at timing orgasm. I have no self-control; I just can't hold off when I am about to climax. But I have a slight advantage over other people. After orgasm, I can continue masturbating again within a matter of seconds. I usually have 4 or 5 orgasms in a half-hour session. And I can have quite a few sessions during the day if I have the time. I once had 15 orgasms in one day, and I know that if I had the time, I could break this record easily.
- age 16, Ireland
I can control my orgasms fairly well. Usually, I want masturbation to last as long as possible because it all feels quite good, even before the orgasm. So, if I think I'm going to climax too early, I just stop or slow down for a little while. But I keep breathing heavily to make sure I'll stay aroused. If I want to orgasm quickly, I just rub faster and harder.
- age 18, Australia (female)
I have a pretty good hold over my orgasms. I have been doing Kegel exercises for two years, and that has *greatly* improved my masturbation experience. Sometimes, though, I just give in to absolute ecstasy. That is possibly the best experience I have ever had.
- age 15, Canada
At my age, the object is not so much timing, but simply reaching orgasm at all. Sometimes, I can't. But for about 60 years, I could slow the arrival of orgasm (and increase its intensity) by very slow stroking. I could speed it up by thinking of various sexual activities with favorite people. These were always people I knew – never movie stars or other public figures. Imagining sex with a movie star was, for me, like imagining it with a paper doll.
- age 80, Texas
I'm sure I could hold my orgasm off if I tried, but why would I want to?
- age 13, Canada
Usually, I can control my orgasms. Sometimes, I wait until I am just about to climax, and then I stop. I do that 4 or 5 times, and then I just let myself have an orgasm. When I was younger, I had absolutely no control over it.
- age 18, California
Over the years with a lot of practice, I have learned to have my orgasm when I decide that I want it. I still masturbate almost every day, although I no longer ejaculate every time. I have learned to have orgasms without ejaculating. There *is* sex after retirement! Slowing down, relaxing, and breathing deeply all make it possible.
- age 66, Massachusetts
Over time, I've gotten better at controlling my orgasms. Lately, I can do it very well.
- age 15, Connecticut
I've masturbated two to three times a day since I first got an erection at age 12. It only gets better! My longest session of continuous masturbation was an hour-and-a-half! I have had to learn exactly when to slow down and when to speed up. What most guys don't understand is that the best part of masturbation is the stroking itself, not the release.
- age 25, South Africa
I'm horrible at timing my orgasm. I usually masturbate after looking at porn for hours. By the time I'm ready to masturbate, it all happens too fast. My sessions never last more then a minute, but the orgasm is fantastic nonetheless.
- age 17, New York
I can stop at just the right moment. I feel it getting close and I just don't want that awesome feeling of orgasm to end so soon! All I do is stop rubbing my clitoris, make sure I haven't accidentally gone too far, savor the feeling of closeness, and start rubbing again. But even if I didn't do this, it doesn't make much difference to me because I can have 5 or more orgasms in one session.
- age 20, Australia (female)
I'm quite good at control. I can make my sessions last up to two hours, especially when I surf the Net. If I can keep from ejaculating for that long, the orgasm at the end is amazing. Usually I can feel when I'm getting close, so I may let go of my penis and wait for a bit, just stroking my testicles, and then starting again. Or if I feel really close to ejaculation, I squeeze the head of my penis, which usually stops things. For the first few minutes of a session, I can't ejaculate when I want (the shortest time that I have ever done it is two minutes 30 seconds), but once the ball is rolling, I can ejaculate pretty much to order with a few fast strokes.
- age 15, United Kingdom
After all these years, I've gotten pretty good. I know when my orgasms are coming, so I know when to speed up and slip the dildo in further.
- age 44, California (female)
When masturbating, I can control my orgasm very well. If I have nothing better to do, I masturbate for over an hour sometimes. Each time I get close, I just slow down or stop momentarily. However, this doesn't work with a partner. I cannot seem to control it using the stop-and-go method when I can't stop the other person!
- age 21, New Zealand
Control is all in the way I have my legs positioned. I can get my orgasm to come more quickly if they are spread farther apart. To fend off orgasm, I keep them close together.
- age 13, Minnesota
My first orgasm sneaks up on me. There is no holding back once I have started. I have a few more orgasms shortly after the first one. I am much more sensitive after that first orgasm.
- age 47, New Jersey (female)
I used to have little or no control. However, with a lot of practice I now have the ability to keep myself on the brink for an hour or so, just by varying the speed that I pull my foreskin up and down over my penis head. I have had just a few mutual sessions with a group of school friends, and on one occasion all 5 of us managed to start our ejaculation within one or two seconds of each other. This required an enormous amount of self-control. Afterwards, we were all very proud of our achievement.
- age 15, Florida
At one time, I didn't control timing at all. But when I was 15, my best friend showed me how. I had always just stroked rapidly and furiously to get it over with. However, when my friend and I had sleepovers, I noticed that he stroked slowly over a long period. Sometimes, I fell asleep waiting for him to finish. Finally, one night he told me that I was missing the best part. Then he took over for me, doing it slowly and gently for at least an hour. I had the best orgasm of my life, and afterward, I started doing it myself. It takes a lot of self-control, and sometimes I can't stop myself from ejaculating quickly. But most of the time, I do it slowly and gently. That's much better than a quickie.
- age 26, Maryland
It all depends – if I have been kissing and playing around with my girlfriend, I can hardly control it. And I don't want to. I want that feeling. But if I am practicing self-control (and I do practice), then I'm good at it. Both my older brother and my dad say I should (and do) practice masturbating so I can withhold orgasm at will, as it will make my future sex acts better for both of us. I love to practice!
- age 17, California
I used to be very good at bringing on orgasm when I wanted one, but since I've been taking an anti-depressant I can't do that anymore. I find that it takes much longer to have an orgasm now, and the sensations (while still wonderful) are not as strong. I've never been very good at holding off when I'm close; it's far too tempting to go over the edge. Also, the medication gets in the way again. When I'm that close, I'm a little afraid that I'll lose it if I hold it back.
- age 29, Ontario, Canada (female)
I enjoy total control of my ejaculatory emissions. By employing the stop-and-go method, a typical session can run anywhere between 30 to 120 minutes before I eventually climax. Unfortunately, my ability to reach an orgasm is all down to luck and more of a function of my mood and arousal state. Sometimes I hit a home run; other times the semen flows through my penis without any pleasurable feelings. I never know for sure if I'll achieve an orgasm until the actual moment of release. Hitting the jackpot is an incredible experience, whereas the absence of an orgasm is undeniably frustrating. If only Vegas could offer odds on this activity!
- age 38, New York