Oh, come on now! You are 26 years old and you don't know what masturbation is, besides "playing with yourself"? Or don't you realize that every guy you have ever made out with has in some way masturbated you? It is a wonderful release from the stresses and pressures of everyday life and a wonderful training tool for your entire sexual being! You can begin using your fingers and if you like, graduate to other "toys and tools"; but you will never regret learning how to give yourself pleasure. I know I have never regretted learning at age 13 — only that I didn't learn earlier in my life!
- age 26, Florida (female)
This Week's Wackiest Response:
Masturbation is the temptation of Satan! And at the end, that's not semen you ejaculate — it's concentrated evil. If you do it even once, you will go to hell and be punished forever. MUAHAHAHAHAA, HAHAHA! (What, my friend is Catholic.)
- age 15, United Kingdom
Masturbation is having sex with yourself. Instead of having intercourse, where you insert your penis into a vagina, you use your hand or something else to stimulate your penis. Just try it; you will love it! Here's a tip: Put a sandwich bag over your penis to catch your semen. It prevents a mess and the need for wiping up after you ejaculate.
- age 35, Netherlands
There is a site called JackinWorld (www.jackinworld.com) that I used to figure out how to masturbate. So, have a go! I'll help you surf the site, if you want. It helped me a lot.
- age 15, Indiana
Masturbation is basically sex for one. You stroke your penis until you reach orgasm. There's nothing much more to it. It feels good (more like awesome). How, and how much, you do it is all up to you. It won't hurt you, and it's your own, private business.
- age 19, Sweden
You have no idea what you're missing! Masturbation is incredible — touching yourself in pleasurable ways, arousing yourself, loving your body, and building to orgasm. It's about exploring what you love and how you enjoy being touched; or using toys, or just having fantasies and not having to worry about pleasing someone else. Masturbation is time for *you* and you alone. It doesn't matter how fast or slow you want things, and there is no guilt from thinking of someone other than your partner. I think it's one of the most important aspects of taking care of yourself, and I strongly recommend it.
- age 29, Ontario, Canada (female)
Masturbation is stimulating yourself for sexual gratification. Once you get an erection, take some lubricant in your right or left hand and lather your penis. Wrap your hand around your penis and slide it up and down along the shaft, taking it to the base every 3 or 4 times. Increase the speed of the movements and tighten your grip to increase the sensation. Take your time and enjoy the pleasure — it's normal. Have some tissue or a face cloth handy to clean up with, because when you reach orgasm, you will ejaculate semen. For added pleasure you may want to stimulate your scrotum and the area just below your scrotum while masturbating.
- age 45, Canada
Dear friend — masturbation is having sex with yourself, usually by rubbing or stroking your genital organs with your hand. One of the best things about sex is that it feels so good and keeps feeling better and better until you have an orgasm, where your body twitches and jerks, you're breathing deeply and perhaps making noise, and you are feeling so good you can hardly stand it. Male orgasm focuses on the penis, and after puberty, involves ejaculation of semen. For females, orgasm isn't quite as focused on one body part, but the vagina and the clitoris are usually rubbed. When they become sexually aroused, some people (both male and female) seep a clear, lubricating fluid from the genitals that prepares for having sex, whether it's through masturbation or sexual intercourse. When people masturbate, they often use fantasies or erotica to enhance their arousal, but this is not necessary. Some people masturbate to orgasm by focusing on their own bodies and how good they can make themselves feel.
- age 61, New Jersey
You should touch yourself, pleasure yourself, and experiment with what feels good to you. It's a stress reliever. It's best because you don't have to worry about how long or short you will take to achieve orgasm or what you look like at climax. If I feel that I need pampering, I'll take my time and slide my hands all over my body, working on a really good fantasy before I begin to touch my genitals or slide my fingers inside. If I've seen or read something very erotic and exciting, I can come to orgasm within minutes.
- age 38, New Mexico (female)
Masturbation is self-stimulation of the sex organs to achieve sexual satisfaction. To do it, start off by lightly fondling and touching your penis and testicles, until you start to get an erection. When your penis is nearly erect, grasp the shaft in your hand and start rubbing up and down. Vary the speed and pressure of your grip, and with your free hand, touch and feel other parts of your body like your chest, thighs, and scrotum to see what feels best for you. As your excitement builds, you may want to back off a little and slow down to prolong the good feelings. Eventually, you will want to take it to completion. Keep stroking your penis and enjoy the awesome feeling as you ejaculate and your semen spurts out onto your stomach and chest!
- age 40, New Hampshire
Masturbation is rubbing your clitoris — or inserting a finger, or two, or more, into your vagina. If you thrust it in and out as fast, as slow, as light, or as hard as you like, the sensations you receive are mind-blowing. By rubbing your clitoris consistently, you enable your vagina to become nice and wet. "The wetter, the better!" I always say — it makes for easier, slicker thrusting. You can even use a household object — I prefer a candlestick. It's long, wide, and has a waxy texture so that it glides in and out quite nicely. When you have an orgasm, this means that you simply cannot take any more — you may see fireworks, or hear music. The feeling is indescribable, so go give it a try and tell me what you think.
- age 17, New Jersey (female)
Masturbation is a harsh-sounding word for the Creator's beautiful gift to people. I think of it as giving yourself a wonderful gift, and I prefer the term "playing with oneself." It is a wonderful way to relax, release tension, and occasionally, enjoy spiritual experiences. It is safe, healthy, and beneficial to your well-being. You can enjoy it whenever you are alone, although some people like to share this pleasure with others. However, it doesn't require anyone's consent or cooperation. You should never stop learning about and enjoying your body; playing with yourself is one of the best ways to do so.
- age 62, Michigan
Masturbation is addictive. Be sure to do it regularly; otherwise, your vagina will pulse with anxiety. Talk with your friends about it, and try to do it with a good friend, because it really helps and gets you horny. And don't worry, you won't be a lesbian. Almost all girls have a secret "masturbation gal pal"!
- age 15, California (female)
"Friend" — You wrote to me asking what masturbation is, and I think you need to know, because you're missing out on a great activity. When we find ourselves sexually excited (or "horny"), we want to be able to release that tension in some way. Sex isn't always possible, so masturbation is another solution. To masturbate, all you have to do is wrap your hand around your penis when it is erect, and begin stroking it up and down. You will begin to feel an amazing sensation, and at the end you will have an orgasm and will ejaculate. As you become more experienced, you can pick up other masturbation techniques, such as using your hands in different ways or using various "objects" to make the experience more enjoyable. For example, many people masturbate in the shower, others use lubricants to simulate the experience of a vagina, and yet others may find it exciting to masturbate in different locations, such as outdoors. I strongly recommend that you try to masturbate, as it will provide unbelievable pleasure and is a way for you to release sexual tension. I'm sure you won't regret it!
- age 19, Virginia
Masturbation is a gift. It is the ultimate pleasure that we can give to ourselves. It is a rewarding act that brings us gratification no matter where we are and no matter what kind of day we have had. It is a means of fulfilling the need we all have for sexual pleasure. It is something we can share and enjoy, or keep all to ourselves. There are no limits, no fantasy taboos, no "wrongs," no incriminations in providing yourself with the most fulfilling orgasm possible while masturbating. We are all sexual animals, yet it is impossible to have a partner every time we desire to have sexual fulfillment. That, therefore, is why we have the wonderful capability of producing our own sexual pleasure through masturbation.
- age 52, Texas
When you're feeling horny and you're alone and feel like trying masturbation, get your penis hard by rubbing it or gently stroking it with your fingers. When it's hard, form your strong hand into a fist to push up and down over your penis. For your first time masturbating, I recommend doing it at a reasonable pace; after a little while, you'll feel some strong pleasure. As the pleasure gets stronger and you start to shake, don't stop! Carry on, feel your first orgasm, and watch your semen squirt out of your penis. You might want to try having your first orgasm in the shower, as you may not be used to the semen creating a mess. But I'm sure you'll be masturbating in many other places in your lifetime — I know I have.
- age 15, United Kingdom
My dear friend, you have been missing a lot of pleasure. As you are aware, constant partner sex is not always available, so we males have a way of taking care of that situation. Take your penis into your hand and rub your finger over the head. Feels good, doesn't it? Now, wrap your fist around the shaft and stroke back and forth. As the feelings get more intense, go faster and faster until you explode with passion and pleasure. Then you can read different methods at JackinWorld and learn to become an expert at self-love. There now — you feel much better, don't you?
- age 68, Texas
Whether you masturbate is not just about whether you reach orgasm by touching your genitalia, it is also an indicator of other, potentially much more important things about you — how comfortable you are with yourself and certain social preconceptions; how adventurous, how hedonistic, or sexual you are. Those are the qualities I find attractive in friends, and although masturbating won't make you a tolerant, party-loving free spirit, if you are one, you are more likely to masturbate and to be a good friend of mine.
- age 20, United Kingdom (female)
Masturbation is the same as wanking — see? You *did* know what it was all the time!
- age 17, United Kingdom
There is absolutely no pleasure so great and fulfilling as that which a male gets from orgasm and the ejaculation of semen from his penis. Start by getting your penis erect; fantasize about or look at whatever turns you on sexually. Next, grasp your penis with the fingers of one hand gently or firmly as you prefer, and begin to use a back-and-forth pumping motion. Don't be so rough that you bruise or scrape your penis; use saliva or another slick substance for lubrication if necessary or if it pleases. Relax and begin to feel the wonderful buildup of pleasure that results as you approach orgasm and ejaculation. As soon as you can after your first ejaculation, visit a website such as JackinWorld to get additional physical and psychological input that will help you in exploring your newfound source of pleasure and sexuality.
- age 70, Texas
Masturbation is one way to make yourself feel good, physically and mentally. It involves playing with your penis and other sensitive parts of your body. If you do this for some time you will get an orgasm. That is where your muscles contract and you shoot sperm out of your penis under pressure. It does not hurt at all. Try it — I guarantee you will love it.
- age 16, Florida
Your penis will start to become excited and get very firm — a normal reaction to sexy thoughts, morning pressure of your bladder, and sometimes apparently to nothing at all. This will cause you to become very curious. You will want to touch it and feel it, which will keep your penis erect. You will discover that as you rub your penis, you will become very excited and semen with sperm in it will be forced from the hole in the end where urine also comes out. This is all normal, and as you engage in sexual relations with a member of the opposite sex, you will realize that you are equipped to be a father. In the meantime, masturbation will give you immense pleasure. This self-pleasuring is normal and is a very safe and sane way to practice safe sex.
- age 63, Georgia
Masturbation is an extremely pleasurable experience where you use your hand to simulate sexual intercourse. The most basic way to masturbate is to grip your erect penis with your dominant hand and start stroking up and down. Fantasize if you want to; it usually makes the experience more pleasurable. If you are over 13, you will probably ejaculate, which can be inconvenient because you need to clean up, so do it somewhere where you can clean up easily. It feels unlike anything you've ever experienced before.
- age 15, Ohio
You should at least know your own anatomy and where your genitals are. Once you have found them, get ready for some fun. Experiment with the many different sensations and feelings that are possible when you touch, feel, and stroke that area of your body. Also, do not hesitate to experiment in similar ways with other parts of your body. Combining any of these actions is considered to be a form of masturbation. Since there are tons of additional methods, tips, and general advice concerning masturbation, be sure to check out well-informed sites like JackinWorld. You will never know how good masturbation can be if you don't try.
- age 22, New Jersey
Hey, friend — want me to tell you how to do something really cool that makes you feel awesome? You need to promise not to tell anyone that I told you, though. Okay, first you need to get some hand lotion and get naked. Now, lie on your back and put the lotion on your penis and start moving it around and kind of feeling your penis until it turns into an erection. Start to pump it up and down and while you are doing that, start feeling your butt with your other hand. Stick one of your fingers in a little bit and move it in and out. Keep doing it until you get this awesome feeling.
- age 14, Ohio
Hey, chick, all you need is some K-Y Liquid, a large taper candle, and some free time. Get yourself all horned up by touching your bits — slowly at first. When you are all wet and ready for some penetration, just tease your clitoris with the large end of the candle, which should be slathered with the K-Y. Push it slowly into the moist hole and wiggle it back and forth. When the first moan escapes your lips, it's time for action. Slide it all the way inside and pull in and out, in and out. Maximum pleasure, girl.
- age 25, Wisconsin (female)
I was just sitting here thinking about what you told me on the Internet last night, that you don't know anything about masturbation. Well, I know it might not be very comfortable for either of us, but I would really like to help you; I mean, I know you would do the same for me. I masturbate regularly. It's quite easy; all you do is rub your erect penis and then do a thing called ejaculate. Just because you don't know about the word masturbation doesn't necessarily mean that you've never done it before. If you have ever been just playing with yourself and you become aware of a sensation all over your body, that is what masturbation is — just a way of pleasure for most guys and for some girls. See you at school tomorrow.
- age 14, Georgia
Of the 5 senses, touch is the sense that masturbation involves to produce what are probably the most intense and pleasurable feelings we can experience. When your penis is erect, hold your penis in a fist-like grip and begin stroking the shaft up and down from the base to the head and back. You will begin to experience a nice sensation in your groin area. Don't stop. Keep going as your feelings become stronger and more widespread in your body. You will reach a point when your pleasure becomes so great that you will think at the same time that you can't bear it and that you want it to last forever. You can and it won't! You have just had an orgasm. Wow! Unbelieveable, huh? Some people may tell you that it's wrong to do this. It most certainly is not. Almost everyone masturbates on a regular basis. For the best support and variations to this initial technique, visit www.jackinworld.com, and have the time of your life, my friend.
- age 60, California
Dear Friend — I'm replying to your question about masturbation. I think that you may already be doing it, but don't actually realize it is called masturbation. I often have times when my penis gets really hard and the erection just won't go away — usually when I've seen something or been thinking about something that gets me horny and feeling sexy. I just make myself comfortable, pull my pants down or get naked, get hold of my penis in my right fist, and then stroke up and down, moving my foreskin backwards and forwards as I pump. The feeling of the skin rolling up and down over the head of my penis is great! I start fairly slowly; then I go faster and faster. Eventually it ends with an amazing sensation when I have an orgasm and I ejaculate semen onto my chest. I do this every day and sometimes more often. If you haven't done it already, you should try it, and then write back to me and tell me what it was like — have fun, mate!
- age 14, United Kingdom
Masturbation is the bedrock proof that we're lucky to be alive. Being able to remember or imagine wonderful sexual experiences however, wherever, and with whomever you choose, as you rub and think yourself into a state of physical and psychic ecstasy, is life's most personal, direct gift to us humans! You can soothe yourself with good feelings pretty much at will and choose how much of this inner self to share with others. It says: "You're capable of so much pleasure, and you're worth every bit of it. Just imagine how you can magnify it by sharing it in a loving relationship!" That's a big part of what you bring to a relationship: your capacity for pleasure. My friend, I believe God, if she exists, approves of our ecstasy, whether alone or together!
- age 60, Massachusetts
Masturbation is just touching yourself wherever and however you like to make yourself feel good. It should be enjoyable and done only if you want to. Generally, you get an erection through thought, and rather than let it go of its own accord, you just "massage yourself" to a pleasurable climax. Try it and find out if you like it.
- age 18, United Kingdom
It's taking your penis and rubbing and moving it so that it feels good and gets big and hard. It's mimicking the age-old experience of mating, moving in and out of a girl's vagina until you ejaculate your sperm. So when you get an erection, put hour hand around it and move it up and down and you'll know without anyone telling you that it's a great feeling. Just keep doing it and go where the feeling leads you, and when you feel like rubbing faster and getting really intense, you are close to ejaculating — it's okay to do that. You're becoming a man, you can't hurt yourself by masturbating, and you are learning about sexual feelings and how your penis responds. Just be a little private about i,t because not everybody wants to know how you do it.
- age 53, Rhode Island
Whether you are in the shower, in bed, or wherever else, if you get an erection, it is so gratifying to start rubbing your penis with your closed hand, working it up and down until you feel a fabulous sensation and you continue until you ejaculate. What a wonderful feeling you will experience — every time.
- age 16, Iowa