I won't go into the details, but I have been masturbated to orgasm against my will. It was not difficult; in fact, it was difficult trying to force my body *not* to respond to the stimulation. If the person doing it knows what they are doing and hits the right buttons, you have no control. I am 40, so the only thing that might help me out now is that my body doesn't respond as consistently as it once did. But I imagine that younger people with their raging hormones (which contributed to my experience) would find it impossible to resist, unless a physical condition existed that would prevent them even from having a decent masturbation session by themselves in the first place. I can't imagine how different circumstances would make any difference — "against your will" is "against your will."
- age 40, Florida
This Week's Wackiest Response:
Why would I put masturbating in my will?
- age 15, Texas
I believe it would be possible, but I don't think it could happen if I felt extremely uncomfortable when somebody was doing it. First, I would have to have not masturbated for a day or so. Second, it would have to be somebody that I felt attracted to. A possible scenario would be if I was at my girlfriend's house and I was handcuffed to her bed and lying there naked waiting for her to return. Her friend would walk in, who I knew was attracted to me, and would straddle me while masturbating me, thinking that I would enjoy it. Obviously I would want to preserve my relationship with my girlfriend, so I would try not to ejaculate, but the whole idea of domination would be too much for me and I would give in fairly easily.
- age 20, Scotland
Getting an erection and ejaculating are the result of physical action, while orgasm requires emotional involvement. Yes, I think another person could masturbate me and bring me to orgasm against my will. I can speak from experience. My first experience was with a friend of my mother. We were traveling and stopped for the night. There was only one bed in the room, so we all had to share. I got an erection and she masturbated me, even though I had no desire to have any kind of sex with her. I ejaculated without any emotion.
- age 42, California
It might be hard to find someone to masturbate me where it would be against my will. If so, I think I probably could be brought to orgasm unless I was really scared or in pain. However, I've never experienced masturbation or anything else sexual in a situation where I was in pain or afraid, so it's kind of hard to tell.
- age 14, Florida
Ever since I took antidepressant medications five years ago, it has been very difficult for me to achieve orgasm. My partner has tried and tried to masturbate me to orgasm, but alas, I always have to finish the job.
- age 39, California
Actually, the thought of someone taking control over me like that turns me on, so I think someone could easily masturbate me to orgasm against my will. The only way it probably would make it difficult is if they were being violent and hateful — that would probably scare me and I wouldn't even be able to get an erection.
- age 21, Indiana
I have a hard enough time getting to orgasm when my girlfriend masturbates me. I've only succeeded once with her, and that is *with* my will. Without my will, I think it would almost be impossible.
- age 17, Indiana
There's no way! My orgasms are brought on by my will alone. If I'm not into it, it isn't going to happen, regardless of any romantic candlelight or diligent vibrator. After coping with childhood sexual abuse, I found that an orgasm is mainly a product of thought: If I really want one, I'll probably have one. But if I were not aroused in a situation for whatever reason, it would be impossible to derive physical pleasure if I'm not satisfied emotionally with what's going on.
- age 22, Tennessee (female)
My friend and I were in his room wrestling in our boxers at a sleepover at his house. He pinned me down and sat on my chest. His erection popped out of his fly and I laughed, so he spun around still sitting on my chest so he was facing my feet. Then he pulled my boxers off and laughed at me because I had an erection, too. He's like 30 pounds heavier than me and he was crushing me and I wanted him to get off, but he wouldn't. Then he started to masturbate me. I kept laughing and telling him to get off me, but he wouldn't. He just kept stroking me and laughing. I was calling him "gay boy" and other things, and cracking up laughing. I finally ejaculated all over him and he yelled out, "Gross!" and finally got off me. It was funny, but I wished he wouldn't have done it, because he didn't talk to me for a couple of weeks after that.
- age 13, Nebraska
If it were against my will, I doubt if the right thoughts could develop to obtain an orgasm. I would be thinking, "How the hell can I get out of this situation?"
- age 66, Oregon
I don't think I could ever have an orgasm against my will — I am all for it all the time. It would depend on the circumstances. If a complete stranger pulled me out into a private place and tied me up — or a peer or maybe even an attractive female teacher — then I might find it arousing.
- age 15, Louisiana
My ex-girlfriend was masturbated against her will after being tied up. She had an orgasm due to the masturbating and to this day refuses to have an orgasm with anybody. For her, it is a loss-of-control issue.
- age 23, Indiana
Probably not — I've been masturbating for quite a while and I've gotten so used to my own technique (speed, rhythm, etc.) that it's very hard for me to get off any other way. My girlfriend hasn't even succeeded in masturbating me to orgasm.
- age 17, Canada
Absolutely! My penis misbehaves so much already, the darn thing would probably go along with it just to spite me.
- age 19, Australia
Yes, I probably could achieve orgasm because, being a teen, I'm always horny, so anyone masturbating me could get me to ejaculate. It may take longer to achieve orgasm, but it definitely would happen. The circumstances would matter. If I hadn't masturbated for a few days, I'd reach my climax earlier. A lot depends on mood and such, too. A question for you, though — Why *wouldn't* you want someone to masturbate you?
- age 18, Michigan
I think it would be practically impossible for someone to masturbate me against my will, since I would need to be aroused for my penis to be erect enough to masturbate, and in a situation in which I did not will it, my penis would be unlikely to become at all erect. I can't imagine any circumstances in which this would not be true.
- age 47, Tennessee
Even if I weren't willing to be masturbated, I think the sole fact of having someone else masturbate me would turn me on so much that I would reach orgasm and ejaculate within a few minutes. Differing circumstances wouldn't matter, and by the way — if someone were willing to give me pleasure, I would never refuse.
- age 15, Belgium
I know of one guy in his 20s who could not be masturbated to orgasm against his will. It was our last night in barracks at a Navy training school and we were to ship out the next day. On final nights of that sort, rules could be broken safely; however, I didn't expect them to be broken in just this way. Four sailors pinned a guy to his lower bunk while a fifth masturbated him and a dozen watched. The kid was wearing only his Navy boxers, was only about half erect, and did not like what was being done to him. The guy masturbating him was using a handkerchief to avoid actually touching his penis. No one laughed; it was humorless and unpleasant. I have no idea what it was all about and I didn't stay to see how it ended — but I bet it didn't end with orgasm.
- age 39, Texas
As soon as a hand touches my penis, I automatically have an orgasm. So anybody doing it would make me have an orgasm. Whether it was man or woman, I think it would happen! Well, I suppose that's what you get when you are a teenager with raging hormones!
- age 14, United Kingdom
This has not worked for me. My wife "caught" me masturbating and was furious that I would do this without her. So she proceeded to take over and nothing she did would bring me to orgasm. This was the only exposure I have had to this question. She blamed me for not letting her finish me off, but that was not the case. I usually don't care how I achieve orgasm; it just did not work for me.
- age 52, California
Oh yeah, definitely — that's one of my favorite fantasies.
- age 16, New Jersey
A kinky variation on the old Jack Benny joke immediately comes to mind: "Your money [semen] or your life!" My response would be, "I'm thinking; I'm thinking!" If someone were pointing a gun at me with one hand and demanding my penis to stroke with his other hand, I could probably manage something, although it wouldn't be one of my prize-winning orgasms. Of course, if my masturbation pal were naked, pointing his erect penis at me, and requesting a performance, it would be one of my prize-winning orgasms. (Somehow, I don't think this question is going to garner outstanding responses, although some should be highly imaginative.)
- age 62, Michigan
I know it's possible because it happened to me. I had a sleepover with my friend, who was going to move to Colorado in a couple of weeks; so we spent some time together. We talked for a while and then we lay down to sleep. A few minutes later, just as I was about to fall asleep, I felt a hot sensation in my loins, and looked up to see my friend masturbating me. I was about to protest when I ejaculated. He didn't notice that I saw, so I just pretended to stay asleep. We never talked about it.
- age 14, Texas
That's an excellent question. Yes, it has happened. My husband and I had been fighting for almost a month. He knew I was getting horny and decided to wait until I was sound asleep and then start "playing." As I began to wake, I realized I was very aroused, but still didn't want him to get the better of me. I squirmed and moved as much as I could to avoid the touch, but in a few minutes I couldn't take it any longer. I climaxed for what seemed like hours and hated myself for letting it happen against my will. My husband laughed and said he knows how to get me now. I guess if I hadn't been so horny it wouldn't have mattered and I could have stopped it.
- age 42, New Jersey (female)
It would be impossible. If you were being raped there would be too much fear to enjoy it. The only people who would even try and argue that they climaxed against their will are the same types of homophobes who post comments on here like, "I'm not gay, *but* I do masturbate once a week with my roommate, who's not gay, either — we just like to masturbate each other, that's all." I'm sorry... If you enjoy masturbating even in the presence of another man, then you are at the very least bisexual, which shockingly, is even less socially acceptable than being gay. Get over it!
- age 28, Canada
The only circumstance in which I could be masturbated against my will would be if I were attracted to whoever was doing the masturbating, but I didn't want that person to do it because I was in a relationship with someone else. I wouldn't want to cheat on the person I was with; otherwise, it wouldn't be against my will.
- age 16, Wisconsin
Yes, it is possible to be masturbated to orgasm by someone else against your will. When I was around 11 years old, I was sent to a boarding school and the first week of school was the initiation week. During this week, I was held down by some of the boarders while others pulled down my sleeping shorts and proceeded to stimulate me. This caused an erection and then within a while, my first orgasm, which came as a total surprise. I was not emotionally scarred by this and put it down to just being part of growing up.
- age 42, South Africa
I think it would be impossible to masturbate another person against his will. A friend tried to do it while I was sleeping and I awoke as I started to feel it coming on. I just acted as though I were sleeping until he was done and then said thanks. He darn near died right there. He had thought I was asleep all along.
- age 15, Minnesota
To me, masturbating is the ultimate bond between friends. Attempting unwilling masturbation would completely destroy a friendship. And being gay, I respect my friends and their wishes — even those that are gay. No, I would not let that happen to me — only if we both agreed to it.
- age 39, Rhode Island
When I was 17, I ran away from home (long story) and ended up in Miami with no place to live. A "kind gentleman" with other intentions unknown to me took me in and on the first night, he climbed into bed with me naked and fully erect expecting "repayment" for his kindness. He wanted me to masturbate him. Reluctantly, I did so; the next night, he raped me, tearing my rectum to pieces and putting me in the hospital. After that episode, I would never let another person touch me without my consent nor will I touch another without their consent. It's rape, plain and simple. This question asks someone if they would mind getting raped!
- age 24, Florida
A neighborhood bully forced himself on me when I was 14 and he was 17. He took me into his garage, tied my hands, pulled down my pants, and started to fondle me. I got erect and did have an orgasm, but this just encouraged him into thinking that I enjoyed it, at which point he forced his penis in my mouth and ejaculated. I was scared to death. He was later arrested for doing the same thing to a 12-year-old kid when he was 18. Nothing would make the circumstances any different. That kid raped me and another kid along with who knows how many other kids.
- age 62, Tennessee
I know it can be done. One night after heavy drinking, a very repulsive girl crawled into my bed and got on me. I was wasted, but still didn't want anything to do with her. She started rubbing and playing with me, telling me it was going to be fun. Well, even though I didn't want it, I still ended up ejaculating all over her hand after about 30 minutes. So yeah, it's quite possible.
- age 29, Utah
The answer for me is yes, because it has happened. When I was 14 and at boarding school, some older guys decided to punish me for being smart to them. They took me to the prefect's room, stripped me, and then took turns at masturbating me. I didn't like it because it seemed gay, but eventually, I had an orgasm as the other guys cheered. They didn't really hurt me, but I was worried for a long time that I might be gay.
- age 17, New Zealand
It would be real easy to get masturbated to orgasm against my will. It's kinky and would make it even hotter. The circumstances really wouldn't matter, guy or girl, in public or not, a nice hand job is a nice hand job!
- age 21, New York
I've had this experience. One time I did not have a strong will to say no. One of my friends asked to masturbate me and I let him, even though I didn't want him to. I could not get to orgasm. He eventually gave up because nothing was happening. I was so relieved. The moral of the story is: If you're not comfortable in any sexual situation, just say no!
- age 16, Illinois
This is a common fantasy of mine. In my case, it would be easy to masturbate me like this since my penis will betray me because it tends to have a mind of its own. I get an erection easily when I'm stimulated in the right places, even if I'm not in the mood for sex. The term I've seen used for this is "forced milking." In reality, this type of thing could be considered rape if the guy is truly being masturbated against his will.
- age 22, Washington
I think it would be pretty easy for someone to masturbate me against my will, since my mind and my penis are two different things altogether. My mind would say, "No! Someone is stroking my penis and I don't want them to!" But then my penis would just say, "Hey, sweet! A hand job!"
- age 16, Ohio
Unfortunately, I do believe that males can be masturbated "against" a will that just will not succumb to the penis' reaction to touch; that is, young men doing their best to resist stimulation and orgasm by another. I am not talking about circle jerks with "drunk" friends, or silent sex between two guys on an overnight while supposedly asleep. That, whether gay or straight, seems to be between "willing" partners. But to feel an erection, ejaculate, and deal with a penis that feels good while screaming internally to have it stop can and does happen. The joy of masturbation — even straight or gay sex — evaporates when a man has ejaculated physically to a humiliating partnership and he feels only *shame.* Thank God I have not faced this issue. As a minister I feel for the profound loss of these men and women, their anger, and their need for an accounting. Masturbate all you want with whomever is "willing," but whether it is a minister, teacher, or your uncle, scream your head off if this is not your will.
- age 54, Michigan