I am proud to say that I am a Southern Baptist deacon, and I feel that similar input from other men of faith would be good for your site.
Let me say first that I do not masturbate, the term masturbation indicates something that society has made ugly. Personally, I jack off. The first time that I jacked off was with my best friend Allen. He and I were 12 or 13 at that time, and we were best friends. Allen had gone to his cousin's for the weekend, and the next time that we got together he showed me what he had learned from his cousin. Well, that was the first time I jacked off and I have enjoyed the act ever since.
From that time until I went away to college, Allen and I spent a couple of weekends a month together, either at his house or at mine, and we jacked off together every time we were together. That would have been for about 8 years (I lived at home my first two years of college). We went to church together, sang in the choir together, and spent the night at each other's house. We created many pregnant socks during these years. I never thought anything about us jacking off together; it just seemed perfectly natural. We were best friends and we were sharing a good time together.
We also slept in the same bed, totally naked. Once again, this did not seem the least bit strange, just something we did. Allen and I never jacked each other off; we just jacked off together. It was always fun, and it normally centered around us talking about who we would like to have sex with. Allen and I are both happily married and fathers of wonderful children. I have two sons, and Allen has a son and a daughter. We are not gay, and we never were gay — but if Allen had broken both of his arms and could not jack off, I guess I would have jacked him off, and I feel like he would have done the same for me.
After I went to college I roomed with another friend, Paul. Paul and I knew each other before we went to a conservative Baptist university; however, we had never visited in either one's home. I am not sure how things worked out at college, but once again, jacking off was never a problem for me or Paul. The first night we were in our rooms together, we stripped and got into our beds. I almost immediately got an erection and began to wonder what I was going to do if Paul was not a "jacker." Well, it wasn't long before he got an erection, threw back his sheets, and began jacking off just like I was. He and I both slept naked and we both jacked off and there was not much said about it. We jacked off together and we jacked off separately, but neither of us had to worry about the other coming in on the other and being afraid of being "caught." I cannot imagine how bad it must be to constantly worry about this.
I remember a time when there was a revival at the university, and the guy who was preaching had sessions each evening after the sermon with those who wanted to listen to him some more. He was in his late 20s and a great speaker. One of the evening topics was about masturbation. He was all for it and explained that it was a gift from God. Well, I already knew that, but it was nice to hear it from another guy who was also a preacher. There was a lot of talk in the dorm that night; some of the guys actually thought the preacher was wrong and said they "never jacked off." Well, I think they all did it about as much as Paul and I did (just about every night); they just lied about it. To me, a guy who does not jack off is someone who is missing a great pleasure provided to us by a great and merciful God. Looking back on those college years it is sometimes fun to remember how much talk there was about it.
I guess I have a healthy attitude about jacking off. I have now been out of college, and married, for 20-plus years. My wife and I have sex once or twice a week, and I jack off 3 or 4 times a week. I have explained to my sons that there is nothing wrong with jacking off and that it is just something that is natural about being a guy. I hope both of them have had the same pleasure with a good friend as I have.
God gave jacking off to men to enjoy. I was a virgin on my wedding night, and I am very proud to say that jacking off is a way to help young people be true to their wedding beds. There is a movement in this country called "True Love Waits," and to me it is criminal to expect young men to wait until marriage for sex if we are not going to teach them that jacking off is truly a gift from God, and something that should be truly enjoyed.
Religious leaders across this country should encourage jacking off, and every youth pastor in the nation should help spread the word. And to those religious leaders who teach that jacking off is a sin, what about (1) "wet dreams," (2) a wife jacking off her husband, or (3) even the use of a condom during sex — all of these are spilling of the seed, and not one of them is a sin. The sin is in not teaching our young people the pleasures of jacking off and its importance to a healthy sex life.
Dave, age 45+
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