Phone sex

Masturbation — what a wonderful thing! I probably started masturbating late in life. I was 15 the first time I did it. I had experimented quite a bit with girls by that age, feeling their breasts and and even masturbating them, although not to climax I don't believe. I always got erections during this petting phase but never thought about masturbating.

My first masturbation session was kind of scary. I was alone in bed and had thought about (and discussed with friends) "jacking off," although I never had done the deed. I don't recall why I began that first session, but it was fairly intense. I remember I had a quite a bit of stomach pain just prior to ejaculating and thought, I'll never do this again — but just at ejaculation the pain went away and I felt all tingly, and then I ejaculated. I remember thinking a lot of fluid had just come out but it really felt good. Over the next few days I probably masturbated two or three times a day; I couldn't get enough of it, and it seems I still can't.

Oddly enough, my masturbation really fell off for the next few years, until age 22. From ages 16-22 I probably masturbated only once or twice a month. After college, I rediscovered the joys of masturbation. As I got older I also discovered more about my own body and the things that make me enjoy myself. I found areas that were either taboo (the anus), or never discovered previously (nipples). I now incorporate those areas quite a bit in my masturbation sessions. It seems with enough visual stimuli — porno movies — I can orgasm almost by just stimulating my nipples. And playing with them always leads to an erection. I have also found that touching and even inserting things into my anus is quite a turn on. I am not sure how many men enjoy this, but I am one who does. Having a dildo sliding in and out of my anus during masturbation brings about incredible orgasms.

Being married for over 12 years, my masturbation frequency goes up and down. I still masturbate, as I think all men do. There are weeks when I masturbate 3 or 4 times a week and other weeks not at all. It is not dependent on my sex life, either; at times I masturbate more often even if I am having sex 3 or 4 times week. It is not uncommon for me to masturbate in the shower the morning after having sex with my wife. My masturbation sessions are very fantasy-related, and as my interest in some fantasies goes up, so does my masturbation frequency. Masturbation is the ideal way to live out fantasies in your head.

Being married does make the timing of a good masturbation session more difficult. I have never been caught "red handed," but I've had two close calls. The first was when I was 19 and home from college. A group of friends was planning to go out that evening, and I was home alone lying on my bed stroking myself. I was expecting a phone call from my girlfriend but not for another hour. Well, I was in the middle of masturbating and the phone rang. Not wanting to miss the call (this was before everyone had an answering machine), I answered it. Knowing this was going to be a short talk and not wanting to lose my erection, I continued to stroke myself while talking. She must have heard my breathing being different or something — she asked what I was doing and said I sounded funny. I said I was shivering from being cold and just getting out of the shower. I don't know if she bought it or not, but she never mentioned it again. I was able to finish with a great orgasm with the thought that she knew what I was up to. The other close call came when my wife came home early one day. I was interrupted when I heard the back door open and her yelling, "Hey, I am home." It just so happened I was in the middle of a good phone-sex masturbation session and had to run to the bathroom, clothes in tow and being in a very excited state. I didn't get to finish the call or my session, which left me somewhat frustrated until later that night, when I was alone and could finish what I had started earlier. That ended up being one of my poorer masturbation sessions.

I really enjoy phone sex with the right girl who can lead the fantasy and you can share your orgasm. Phone sex is not for everyone, but it is one of the stimuli forms that works for me. I especially like it when I have done it with someone I have met via the Internet and we both are truly masturbating, instead of a phone actress — but other times the actress is just what the doctor ordered. My wife also masturbates, but not with the frequency I do — at least I don't think she does, and I have never "caught her" in the act. She has admitted to masturbating if I am gone on business and inquires if I masturbated while gone, which is usually a yes. We have incorporated masturbation into our sex lives. We don't masturbate each other much, but there are many times when we just take turns masturbating ourselves while the other watches. I find it very erotic to watch a woman masturbate and to be watched while I am doing it. This also is a learning experience — seeing how the other likes to be touched — since who knows better than that person?

Being watched can be quite a turn-on. You are concentrating on what you are doing, fantasies running through your mind, and you know someone else is watching this all play out. Having someone watch can also help if they are willing to lend a hand and touch other areas that are being neglected, since I have only two hands.

I really enjoy watching, too. I have even gone into those fantasy booths in the adult book stores where for $20 the girl will undress and talk to you while you masturbate. This is where I first tasted my own "pre-cum," on her request. I have incorporated that into most of my extended masturbation sessions. When I have a long time to really enjoy some self-foreplay, I go for extended time periods without ever touching my penis — just rubbing my nipples and testicles, which produces a lot of "pre-cum," and then licking it off my finger. While I have tasted my own semen, it is not something I enjoy as much. I have found that the amount of pre-cum that is there prior to ejaculation is directly proportional to the ensuing orgasm's intensity.

On the subject of eating my ejaculation, while I have done this a couple of times, for some reason it makes me feel guilty about my masturbation, so I have since stopped. The very first time I did it, though, I was very excited and thought it was awesome. I don't recall why I thought of doing it, but I was in the middle of a great masturbation session and thought why not. I was using the Stop & Go technique, and when I felt I could take no more, I rolled my legs and feet over my head, almost as if trying to orally pleasure myself, and ejaculated into my open mouth. I did that a couple of other times, but I ended up spitting out the semen instead of swallowing like the first two times. I have never told that story before and actually forgot about it until now.

It's funny how many techniques I have used over the years to masturbate. I hope I continue to find new reasons and techniques, with JackinWorld's help, to further my masturbation experiences. Masturbation truly can be life-long experience and one I will always continue.