– but I even get them when I play with 11-year-old my son. A while back, my wife and I brought the subject out in the open with him, so to speak. I told him that it's something that happens to me, but that he shouldn't worry about it. Although I don't think he does, it bugs me down to my soul. More than anything, I want to feel normal about it. I'm wondering if it's a common thing that guys just don't talk about, or if I'm some kind of a freak who really needs help.
Erection response in men is highly variable. Some guys have trouble obtaining and maintaining an erection even with strong erotic stimulation, while others, like you, have spontaneous (or at least very facile) erections even well into adulthood. It is entirely normal to get erections during nonsexual physical contact with others, including children and even animals. Similarly, many mothers have reported feelings of sexual arousal while breastfeeding. While such reflexes may seem "bad" and may make us ashamed (especially in a society that's both hyper-sexualized and uptight about anything sexual), there's really no reason to feel this way, so long as you know and understand that it's only a reflex. Remember, just because you get erections at "inappropriate" times, it doesn't make you a bad person.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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