Having an orgasm is always "heaven" for me, but I have had some that were so good they were far beyond "heaven." I am 44, and somebody told me orgasm intensity goes down as you get older, and that the most intense orgasms are felt by boys of around 16 years of age. Is that true?
Not necessarily; it's certainly not true for everyone. I've heard from readers who say their orgasms have gotten less intense over the years, but I've also heard from readers in their 40s and 50s who say they're currently experiencing their best orgasms ever. The intensity of any particular orgasm depends on the following factors:
- The person's body – physiology and nervous system. It seems some people's "average" orgasm is simply more intense than others'.
- The amount of time since the last orgasm. The longer you wait, the more intense an orgasm tends to be.
- The duration and intensity of the stimulation received. When you're physically stimulated, your body produces seminal fluids and "gears up" for ejaculation. It's like winding a spring – the longer you stimulate, the greater the tension and the more dramatic the release.
- Biorhythms – On some days we just feel more sexual than on others. All else being equal, orgasms on these "sexual peak" days tend to be more intense than on other days.
- Frame of mind – For some people, being relaxed is more conducive to a great orgasm; for others, tension and stress can heighten an orgasm. These may depend on personality type, on your body, or both.
- Setting – Similarly, for some people a calm environment with plenty of time and privacy yields the best orgasms; for others, the best orgasms are had in "dangerous" places where they might be "caught."
There are probably other factors as well. It appears orgasms – and the factors that go into their intensity – are too complex to make broad generalizations.