For the past few months whenever I engage in any kind of pre-sexual activity with a female (sometimes something as simple as kissing), I involuntarily ejaculate. Even more odd is the fact that 90% of the time I'm not erect at all. I'm aware that premature ejaculation supposedly disappears with age, but would masturbating more or less frequently help to stop it?
You have an extreme case of premature ejaculation, and for that there isn't much I can recommend, except to try masturbating before you're expecting to have an encounter. In such extreme cases some kind of sexual counseling or even medical assistance may be necessary. The condition will probably improve with age, but it could take years. In the mean time I would just try to go really, really slowly, and find a girl who understands what you're going through and is willing to help.
For those of you who have the simpler, more common problem of just getting to orgasm too quickly once intercourse has begun, here's something to try: When you masturbate, pay close attention to your pelvic feelings. By now you probably have a good sense of when you're getting close to orgasm, so when you feel that happening, back off a little – both physically (slow down) and mentally (cool your fantasy jets a little). You don't have to throw ice water on yourself and think of old nuns – just back off a little so you're almost there but not quite, and continue. I like to call this "working the throttle." When you have sex, you can do the same kinds of things to delay your ejaculation.
A bonus of "working the throttle" is it causes an increase in seminal-fluid secretion, so when you do ejaculate there will be more semen – and the orgasm will be more powerful.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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