Circumcision found some mention as well. Some men were happy to have been circumcised, even as adults, while thers were happy they had not been circumcised, citing the sensitivity of their "intact" penises. Finally, some people mentioned shaving their pubic areas – again, because it heightened their sensitivity.]
The best thing to happen to my genitals was when I introduced them to my hand.
- age 21, Maryland
I discovered that slow and soft is the best technique. Stroke slowly – and ever so softly. Feel your penis grow harder and harder, and then feel the wonderful orgasm that follows. After years of hard-and-fast masturbation, this is without a doubt the best thing that has happened to my genitals. It took me 40 years to figure it out. I think I'll keep it up for another 40.
- age 51, Washington
It must be the first time I masturbated myself to orgasm. Nothing has surpassed that feeling for me – not even when I lot my virginity
- age 20, United Kingdom
My best things are my "firsts." In my first sexual dream, I was naked in a tub and had an erection harder than I'd ever had. The feelings were so intense I think it led to my first orgasm, although at age 7 it was dry. The first time my best friend and I played with our penises together as kids; my surprise at the first signs of pubic hair and how quickly my penis grew in size shortly thereafter; my first ejaculation and the feeling of pride that I was finally a man. I remember the first time I had sex with a woman – I wished the night would never end. She slowed things down and this made it all the more enjoyable. I remember each of these as if it were yesterday. Man, I love my penis!
- age 41, Washington
My genitalia were slathered in chocolate pudding and licked completely clean. The pudding was more orgasmic than the licking, almost – it was cool!
- age 16, California
My husband and I often enjoy mutual masturbation – sometimes instead of intercourse. I masturbate alone quite frequently, usually by reading erotic stories and rubbing my clitoris. He knows this and knows how much I enjoy it. One night during sex my husband flipped me over onto my side while keeping his penis inside of me, and he used one hand to rub my clitoris and the other to tease my anus. He then leaned over and began to suck and gently bite one of my nipples. In no time at all I was immersed in an earth-shattering orgasm which seemed to last forever. Having my nipples, anus, clitoris, and vagina stimulated all at once was definitely the best thing that's ever happened to my genitals!
- age 28, North Carolina (female)
I was 16 and a virgin. A friend and I were at the beach and were approached by a female who lived there. She might have been in her early 20s. She came over and lay down beside us in the sand. After a while, she invited us into her apartment for ice tea. Her interests soon became apparent – she treated both of us virgins to our first sexual intercourse. Our ejaculations were tremendous! It was great to lose my virginity along with my best buddy.
- age 19, California
I had experienced women with control of their vaginal muscles before this night, but the woman I met in a bar and took home had muscular control beyond my wildest fantasies. She actually masturbated me with her muscles while I remained still. She had me achieve orgasm in this manner several times over the next few hours. Although that was the only time I spent with her, and it was over 40 years ago, she still rates as the best sexual encounter of my life!
- age 64, New York
Oh, wow – it would have to be a very intense orgasm I had as I was dreaming one night. I dreamed a man whom I love dearly was stroking me and was getting aroused because my nipples were getting erect. When I woke up, I was the one doing the stroking. What was so unusual about it is I have never met this man in person – I've met him only online. But I have fantasized about him for a long time, although he's pretty much out of my life now. How ironic that the best orgasm of my life should be caused by someone whom I had never even laid eyes (or anything else) on.
- age 39, Mississippi (female)
It would definitely be the times my girlfriend and I shared simultaneous oral sex ("69") together. She is about my height (5-11), and we each could savor the other's genitals abundantly. When we lay together, my penis would rub against her breasts, and I stimulated her clitoris for her pleasure. I have had my strongest orgasms in this position, and these have had to be the most intimate experiences of my life.
- age 21, New York
I like to shave my scrotum and base of the penis shaft. When you use a water-based lubricant to masturbate, the feeling is very sensual and erotic, especially if you put the lubricant on both your penis and scrotum. Also, I was circumcised later in life (at age 23), so I have experienced masturbation with a foreskin and without. I much prefer being circumcised when it comes to sex or masturbation – much more sensitive!
- age 51, Missouri
One day I made oral sex with myself. That was the greatest thing in the world, and my ejaculation was immediate.
- age 12, Denmark
Definitely my circumcision 8 years ago. Masturbation as well as sex feels much better without my foreskin. And, I particularly like the feeling of my bare knob rubbing against my undies. It makes me so extremely horny that I need to ejaculate at least once a day.
- age 28, Belgium
The first time I ejaculated – I was almost 12 – it was so magical I still remember the feelings. It was as though I'd discovered the coolest secret. The first time I received oral sex from my girlfriend was last week, and I don't think I'll ever forget that experience, either. She tells me that while I was ejaculating my whole body was twitching, and she swears I cried. All I remember of my orgasm is the warmth of her mouth on my penis and a visual sensation like a bright, white light. The feeling after that was mellow and intense at the same time. She swears it was the first time she gave a guy oral sex, and she's not a good liar! Now she's anxious about doing it again, because she thinks she won't be able to get me to react the same way as that first time. I hope I can be half as good with her as she was with me.
- age 18, California
Nothing can beat or replicate oral sex – the physical sensation of a warm, wet tongue in delicate places, as well as the emotional intimacy of drawing a person's face down into the most private region of my body. Even if it's not accompanied by orgasm, it's still the most wonderful feeling and one of the rare activities that allows me to relax completely.
- age 23, Maryland (female)
Viagra. I have had diabetes for 15 years and seen the gradual loss of sexual appetite and erectile ability that is one of the gradual results of this disease. Before Viagra was introduced, I would have sex with my wife once every couple of weeks and then "enjoy" an orgasm with a half-erect penis that had to be assisted with lots of stroking. It still felt good, I was grateful for what I had, and I was comforted to learn that yes, in the proper position and with the assistance of one's hand, you can put a half-erect penis into a vagina. But when I popped that first Viagra and felt the resurgence of a tight erection such as I had not known since my teens, I realized what I had been missing. I have seen the positive effects spread into other areas of our relationship. As intelligent and philosophical as we have tried to be about my waning sexuality, my wife and I both have felt the resurgence of that warm glow that marks a happy marriage with good sex at its core.
- age 58, New Jersey
I think the best thing was finally finding a man who knows to use his fingers while he is using his mouth. Just because you are licking away doesn't mean you can't be touching, too. You would think this is something men would just know – common sense – but the ones who actually do it are few and far between. Go figure....
- age 20, California (female)
I think the best thing was getting my pubic hair when I was 13. I felt I was a man then, and no longer a boy.
- age 44, Scotland
Switching to boxer shorts. I always felt constricted, and I would never want to masturbate when I wore briefs, because they rubbed against my genitals. I tried a bigger waist size, but then the briefs wouldn't stay up. Since my switch to boxers, the increased freedom helps me have better sensation "down there" since I'm not always rubbing against fabric all day.
- age 21, Florida
Having a baby was tops, but don't try it until you're good and ready, because it lasts for at least 18 years! Sexually, I guess learning to masturbate to orgasm was the first big thing (on a chair arm!) – but the best was either learning to have orgasms with a penis moving inside me (this took time) or learning to masturbate to the same intense heights as a non-virgin later in life. Which one you choose is really a point-of-view thing – they're both very cool.
- age 37, Missouri (female)
Receiving oral sex from a member of the same sex when we were early teens. He was and still is my best friend. It was so good because the two of us, although we mutually enjoyed the experience, each discovered our sexuality. We realized having sex with another male was not what we wanted for the rest of our lives. It was physically pleasurable, but mentally awkward and uncomfortable. Still, it was the first time my genitals were stimulated by another person, which made it unforgettable and pleasurable.
- age 24, Connecticut
I was divorced at age 31 and single (between wives). I started dating a heavy-set "BBW" (Big Beautiful Woman). She was fantastic in bed and taught me many lovemaking techniques that drove me just plain nuts with passion. My favorite was: We would perform 69 until she had an orgasm, which would not take long because she was very quick and loud. Then she would lie on her back and I would sit over her face. She would take my scrotum in her mouth and masturbate me all over her huge breasts as she sucked my scrotum with gusto. WOW! After a short break, and as soon as she gave me another erection, we would make love in every imaginable position until we each had another orgasm. We usually ended up with her swallowing my last ejaculation. I miss her very much and cannot think of one logical reason why I did not beg her to marry me!
- age 51, New Hampshire
The best thing I can remember was swimming naked in a cold lake. It feels wonderful when water flows gently around my penis. I have done it many times, and it has always made me crazy!
- age 16, Spain
My fiancé (now my husband) once took a condom, filled it with warm applesauce, and then inserted it into me. He then let most of the applesauce spill out onto my vagina, and proceeded to lick me until I climaxed completely 5 times! It was incredible. Also, when I was a teen, I would put large marbles in my vagina, one at a time, and then push them out (but only when I was very wet!). It would hurt if I did it dry, but when I was wet, I had screaming orgasms.
- age 24, Wisconsin (female)
When I was 14, my very tight foreskin suddenly became retractable, and I was able to enjoy the pleasures of a full range of penis use. I still enjoy watching it slide back to expose the head.
- age 38, Canada
I couldn't decide between two experiences, so I guess it's a tie. One was the first time a penis came into my vagina. The second time, equally pleasant, was the first time I felt a woman's tongue on my genitals.
- age 39, California (female)
I recently discovered the two-hour erection – amazing! I have erectile dysfunction due to diabetes. My urologist made several suggestions. For me, the best was the subcavernous injection, and boy, does it work! It's amazing what I can do in two hours with a "woody." [Subcavernous injection is one way of dealing with erectile dysfunction that involves a man injecting a medicine directly into one of the two big tubes of erectile tissue that run along the top of his penis, the corpus cavernosa. The medicine affects blood vessels and valves in the penis, letting blood flow into the penis and thus causing erection. The needles are tiny and the injections quick and nearly painless. -Ed.]
- age 57, Canada
My genitals found their counterparts on my buddy two years ago, and everybody's genitals have been having a great time ever since!
- age 19, California
My circumcision last year was the best thing that ever happened to me. I had had phimosis for several years and did not want to go to the doctor, since I knew I would have to be circumcised. In Sweden circumcision is considered more or less to be an amputation of the penis – at least, that's what I thought. Last year I had to have it done because I got a paraphimosis during an erection so I didn't have a choice. Since then, sex has been much better. I don't see how circumcision could have been invented as a method of preventing masturbation; I have never masturbated as much as I do today. When it comes to the appearance of my new fellow, I like the "ready-to-go looks" of my bare glans and only wish I had done it earlier. [Phimosis is a condition where a male's foreskin has a tight band of skin, called a phimotic ring, just behind its end that makes retraction over the glans either difficult or impossible. Paraphimosis is a condition where a phimotic foreskin has been retracted behind the glans and the phimotic ring then works as a tourniquet so that the glans stays swollen and distended. Traditionally, paraphimosis has been treated as a medical emergency requiring immediate circumcision. -Ed.]
- age 24, Sweden
When I was younger the best thing for me was when I was swimming to go up to the water inlet of the pool. I would put my arms up on the deck and shove my crotch right up against that hole. I loved feeling the water pushing and moving my genitals around. I've often ejaculated when doing this, and for some reason it's the best feeling in the world.
- age 15, New York
This is a hard question. I guess it was having an orgasm when someone else was masturbating me. I am not gay; in fact, I am married and have two kids. But when I was 16, my good friend and I thought we'd see what it was like to masturbate each other. It was quite weird at first – but then when I ejaculated, it was very intense. I guess the thought of a guy – who knows what it feels like – causing me to ejaculate just sent me over the edge. That orgasm was incredible.
- age 28, Texas
The second time I shaved my pubic hair before masturbation and intercourse was my best experience. The first time, I didn't know what I was in for, and the stimulation was a little too intense. But a few months later, I tried it again a little more gently and discovered I could achieve the most intense orgasms of my life – both by myself and with my boyfriend!
- age 20, Iowa (female)
When I discovered masturbation. I didn't know what it was at the time – I was only about 6 years old. But I knew it felt wonderful. I discovered it while climbing a tree. As I reached up to a higher branch to pull myself up, I experienced the most wonderful sensation in my penis, like I was about to urinate. As I pulled myself up further, the sensation increased. I found myself climbing that particular tree quite a lot after that. Later on, as I discovered manual stimulation, I learned what it was all about and have enjoyed masturbating often ever since.
- age 41, North Carolina
Besides the obvious (the day he met a vagina – hello?), I often think about the circumcision issue. For most of my life I was really glad I'd been circumcised, and would probably name that as the best thing that ever happened to my genitals. Now... Well, it's not that I no longer like being circumcised; I just wonder more about whether it was really necessary, whether my sensitivity was affected, whether the grass is greener on the other side. While I'm not upset – I like the way my penis looks, acts, and feels – I don't think I'll let my sons be circumcised. I'm beginning to think it might be better just to leave nature alone.
- age 23, Ontario, Canada
One time I went to the hospital to get a CAT scan. The machine made my genitals feel really warm. It felt so good I ejaculated. I hope the machine didn't pick that up!
- age 15, Pennsylvania
It happened about 4 years ago, when I shaved myself smooth for a vasectomy. I loved the look and feel so much that I've kept my penis and scrotum smooth ever since, and I trim my pubic bush regularly. To me, nothing looks better than a nice haircut! I notice in the gym lockerroom a lot of guys steal an extra-long glance at my penis. It's okay by me – I love looking at other men and women who keep their hair trimmed or removed.
- age 36, Arizona
It was when I had been masturbating in the bathroom to a magazine, and I started to ejaculate. Just as the initial orgasm began to fade, my penis started to have another, separate orgasm where there was a new "stall feeling" of inevitability, and I had another orgasm where more semen came out – sort of a double orgasm. I've never been able to repeat that, although I wish I could.
- age 24, New Jersey
Wow! This is kind of a difficult question, but I think the best thing is that with all the time spent "practicing," through masturbation, I can now give the ultimate, non-selfish, pleasure to my partner. With self-control and the inspiration of true love, I can now ensure that my wife and I both experience the same pleasurable feeling of climaxing together as one! That, I believe, is the very best thing that can happen to our genitals – linking them to our hearts!
- age 34, Indiana