Boys whose genitals are slightly larger than average and girls whose breasts are well developed but not too big appear to be the most fortunate of those who responded. They take comfort in the compliments they receive about this or that aspect of their bodies. The rest are left to agonize over why they aren't more normal. And those who are complimented often worry about the sincerity of the compliments.
Some of us find sexual partners who can sincerely compliment us, not just flatter us. We discover that giving and receiving love and affection is the stuff of beauty even more than physical appearance. Many of us learn how to honor and celebrate a lover through giving and receiving sexual pleasure at the same time. We break through physical-appearance obsession to see and love the spirit of our special other – to honor their soul, to celebrate life with them. Some of us learn this from the example of another; others find it somewhere deep within their private resources.
Men can learn to get past the obstacles of a penis that is "too small" or "too large" by discovering the sexual positions that will accommodate their peculiarity. Women can learn to overcome the feeling that they are ugly "down there" or inside when they find a lover who worships their spirit. And all of us can learn to celebrate our unique beauty by exploring the fascinating variety of human experience and characteristics on forums such as JackinWorld.]
My girlfriend compliments me on my small penis. Her last boyfriend was so huge they often could not finish intercourse because it caused her so much pain. She says that with my smaller model, we can try different positions that many other couples don't have the pleasure of experiencing.
- age 21, Kentucky
People comment about my penis even though they've never seen it. They accuse me of being "small."
- age 13, Michigan
Whew! Talk about personal questions! All my life my penis has been less than, shall we say, average. Every male thinks he is smaller than most – but in my case it is all too real. Several times I have avoided intimate relationships because of what they might say about my size. It took me several years to figure out it didn't matter what other people thought. It did matter what I thought about myself and that it works just as it should!
- age 46, Texas
Several times I have gotten comments on my butt – even by one of the hottest girls in school, though it was not to my face. I overheard her from behind me. That was a proud day for me.
- age 17, Maryland
I am often complimented on my penis. I'm told it's big and "nice" and it feels good. Mostly this happens in a sexual situation, but I also belong to a naturist group (or nudist, or whatever you want to call it) and have also been complimented there.
- age 29, Minnesota
I used to hate the way my genitals looked – how ugly the female sex organs are. I was shy the first time I was physically intimate with my boyfriend because I thought they would repulse him. I wouldn't let him see me in good light. But after a while he told me, "I love your genitals, because they give you so much pleasure." It was such a sweet and unselfish thing to say. I haven't been shy since.
- age 18, Tennessee (female)
A friend and I were masturbating together (ourselves, not each other) for the first time and he joked that he wished his penis was as big as mine so it wouldn't get lost in his pubic hair. I don't think I have a big penis, but it was funny.
- age 14, California
One of my dorm roommates said I had a nice ass. This was while we were undressing after a night of partying and were both feeling no pain. It somewhat excited me that a guy (who was pretty cute) would think that, but alas, nothing ever happened between us. I really regret that. I did masturbate a few times thinking about "what could have been."
- age 36, Ohio
I had gone to a party with some guy friends of mine. None of us had ever been naked in front of each other. We ended up playing strip-UNO. I was the first to be naked, and they were all shocked – my penis is large when it is flaccid [soft]. Even though I got some jokes about it for the next couple of weeks, I know they were impressed!
- age 20, New Jersey
My friends constantly compliment me on my hairy body, especially my chest. The guys see my chest through an open shirt and sometimes even try to touch it and pull my hair.
- age 17, Malaysia
I was 12 and in the changing rooms at school, getting ready to swim. We were all naked as we got into our togs – a few ashamed of their penises. The guys all stared and laughed at me because I had pubic hair and considerably larger genitalia (not a boast). They called me names and made fun of my deeper voice. So I asked why their testicles hadn't "dropped," why they were bald, and why they talked like girls. Boy, that shut 'em up! Anyway, news of my endowment spread, and the girls started to show interest in me. I must say the experience had a *very* positive effect!
- age 15, New Zealand
My boyfriend has nicknames for my labia, clitoris, vagina, and breasts. I really enjoy him talking to me that way when we're alone and having sex. However, I hate it when he mentions one of those names in public, even though I'm the only one who knows what he means. I get embarrassed and sometimes obviously aroused in the most inappropriate social settings.
- age 29, Colorado (female)
Everyone – boys and girls – says I have a perfect butt.
- age 14, Texas
My girlfriend complains that my small penis restricts our lovemaking, so I must perform oral sex to give her an orgasm. She first said something when I kept slipping out of her vagina as we made love one night. Our relationship has become stale since then; we don't have sex anymore because of my size. Occasionally she masturbates me to orgasm, but very rarely is she willing to do anything else. Because of this, I think we will split up soon. I have heard of operations and other methods that would enlarge my penis, but I am reluctant to do this. I would prefer to find a person who is comfortable with me rather than stay with someone who is not.
- age 17, United Kingdom
When I was in high school it seemed everyone laughed at me about my body. I was really growing fast, had acne, and had difficulty putting on weight. I was over 6 feet tall and weighed only 150 pounds. The guys in the locker room gave me hell and pushed me around – and even worse, very few girls talked to me. I never took showers after gym class. I don't know how I put up with the remarks they made, except to keep to myself and play individual sports such as golf. I finally topped out at 6'4" and 185 pounds. I still have a hard time believing in myself, but I am a lot better than I was. I think focusing on golf and my education has helped my self-esteem the most.
- age 22, Washington
Just about the most embarrassing moment in my whole life happened when I was an exchange student in the United States. I overheard a conversation between my "guest brother" and his real brother saying I was "hung like a donkey." I had no clue what that meant, and I was afraid it might mean I was "dumb like a donkey." So I asked my guest mother. Thank God she was relatively cool! She blushed a little and then mumbled that it was a "compliment of sorts." Later that evening she told my guest brother I had asked. He laughed for half an hour and then explained it to me – oh, the shame!
- age 17, Germany
I had a boyfriend say my breasts are "almost too big." I am a large woman (big and beautiful, according to cyber-terminology), and I've always been self-conscious about it. I'll get on my little soapbox now: The human body is beautiful in all its forms. The beauty comes from the fact that we are human. Being nude with others takes courage and trust, and any breach of that trust is damaging. And it can be damaging when we turn our partners into objects. Historically, women have been held to unattainable standards by society, and men are learning more and more about this with the new buff models on the scene.
- age 22, Indiana (female)
It was when I was first beginning to ejaculate. This girl and I lived near one another and knew each other quite well, so I told her I had been masturbating. She said she wanted to watch, so she came over one time when my parents weren't home and I showed her. When I finished, she said that was really cool and asked if she could try. That was the best orgasm of my life. Since then we have done many things together. (We haven't had sex yet; she wants to wait until marriage for that.)
- age 14, New York
I have been complimented on my body many times. I always thought I had a rather plain, average body, but many girls have mentioned how much they like it. One thing that really interests them is how soft my skin is and the fact that I have very little body hair. I always thought I had an average-size penis, but they also have mentioned how big it is.
- age 20, Maryland
I had just finished swimming one day and was off to the showers. My penis showed clearly through my trunks. One of the older guys noticed it and looked at me and said, "Laki ng titi mo ah," which means "Cool penis, man!"
- age 14, Philippines
I guess I have great labia, although I had never thought about it. Labia majora are thick and medium pink, labia minora are very thin and *very* pale pink. Recently [my partner and I] were in the middle of oral sex when he told me they were the greatest he'd ever seen – great color and texture. Because my "little lips" are so small, my clitoris isn't really "hooded," and he loved to be able to see it stand up. He'd never actually seen a clitoris work like a penis before!
- age 56, Canada (female)
No one has ever tormented me about the size of my genitals, but I do torment myself. My penis is only about 2.5 inches flaccid and only about 3.7 inches erect. I am very worried that my penis won't grow very big, so I guess the only tormentor is me.
- age 12, Canada
I'm not circumcised, and I get stares and comments from other guys in gym class and in the bathrooms at school. They say I am different, dirty, weird – stuff like that. Someone told me girls don't want to have sex with guys with foreskins, but I don't think that's true.
- age 18, Texas
I am on the swim team at my high school, and one day before practice when we were changing, my best friend commented on my build and said he wished he was as muscular as I am. It caught me off guard because no guy had ever said anything like that to me before.
- age 15, Pennsylvania
My wife once asked me how my penis could be small one minute and so large the next. At the time she was giving me oral sex and said she loved to feel it swell up in her mouth.
- age 64, West Virginia
I was in the school shower about a week ago and a younger kid was staring at my penis. He asked how I felt about being circumcised and sai he hoped his penis looked like mine when he was older. At first I thought this was unusual. Then he said he was happy to see that another person had a circumcision scar, since he had one as well (he was also circumcised). Having someone stare at my penis and comment on how it looks made me feel proud.
- age 18, Australia
My twin brother used to make fun of my penis because it curves downward when it's erect. This has caused me a lot of anguish, and I still am very self-conscious about it. He used to call me banana boy.
- age 40, Florida
A few weeks ago I was masturbating in my room, and I stopped to rest for a minute. When I opened my eyes I saw my mom in my room. She said, "You've surely outgrown your father, and you're only 14!" and then left. I guess I should be proud of myself.
- age 14, Illinois
I'm in my college computer lab right now, and there's this guy sitting next to me. We were reading JackinWorld, and he decided for the sake of this question that he would comment on my body as I type. At the moment he's telling me my skin is an interesting beige color and that my hair is shiny. Does this count?
- age 18, North Carolina (female)
People always comment on the size of my testicles. My penis is average, but my testicles are really big. Sometimes this is cool, but often it's a big pain because they can really get in my way.
- age 23, United Kingdom
Last year I was camping with my uncle and my cousins. One night we were showering in the bathhouse. My uncle said to me, "Your bush is coming in nicely. Your cousin is gonna be a late bloomer, like me. I didn't get a bush till I was 15, but my penis got big first." Then he told my older cousin not to worry – that boys go through puberty at different times. After that, we weren't nervous about being naked in front of adults.
- age 14, Massachusetts
I've got a pretty big penis; quite a few people have commented on it. I've been known to get an erection in the shower and locker room at my gym. Some guys just look, while others say, "Dude, nice one!" I'm pretty proud of my size, so I like to show it off. I guess I like the comments!
- age 19, New York
A girl once told me my penis is small, but she had had a boyfriend who was quite well endowed. I don't think I'm small at all – I'm 7 inches, above average. However, the person I am with now doesn't care that much about size.
- age 15, Mississippi
When I was a freshman in college, my two best friends (both female) were always interested in seeing my genitalia. So one evening after drinking heavily, I decided to show them. They both said I had "a perfect penis" – not too big, not too small, just right. It made me feel good to get an honest outside opinion on it.
- age 19, Massachusetts
Every girl I've been with (only three) has commented extensively on my breasts. I never found anything out of the ordinary about them – just regular 36C's. But people have often told me (outside of the bedroom) I have a "great set," "great rack," etc. Also, I've been told my body was "designed for female love" (that's an exact quote).
- age 17, California (female)
It's a little sad that when I was 15, an older man seduced me by being complimentary of my youthful development, gushing over my size and beauty. Unfortunately, at that time of my life, those were the things I most wanted to hear, although I probably was no more endowed or perfect than the next guy. As a result, I have always felt guilty about being "used" then as a result of mere flattery. Thanks to this forum, I can express these guilt feelings and be more comfortable with my sexuality quite a bit later in my life.
- age 55, Connecticut
My girlfriend once commented on how she prefers an uncircumcised penis to masturbate because a circumcised penis (like mine) doesn't have enough skin to "play" with.
- age 18, North Carolina
My best friend and I sometimes masturbate together. One time he said he thought my penis is cool because it goes straight out instead of curving up.
- age 15, Virginia
I'm different! I have a "hooded penis" – only half a foreskin. I always thought the comments were degrading until I met the woman who is now my wife. She loves it and tells me all the wonderful things it does for her!
- age 26, Pennsylvania
My girlfriend often compliments me on the size of my penis (just under 8 inches). She seems endlessly fascinated with it. Who am I to complain?
- age 17, Canada