More notable were the reasons people gave for wanting to watch their preference masturbate. Some saw it as an opportunity to turn on and share in the sexual arousal (perhaps even the masturbation itself). Others saw it as a chance to learn new techniques, or learn how to masturbate. Still others saw it as a time of shared intimacy and trust. Many males reported being interested in comparing their own genitals and performance with males (stroking techniques, amount and distance ejaculated). However, comparing "equipment" and performance seems to be exclusively a guy thing — no females mentioned this interest.]
I'm afraid it's really a matter of how sexually attractive the person is. While I have never desired a gay relationship, I enjoy watching women and/or good-looking, athletic young men masturbating. Also, the aesthetic aspect is important — I would like to watch anyone of either sex masturbate "gracefully" — say, on a bed with sunlight playing over their body, rather than having a quick one behind the garage with their underwear around their ankles.
- age 43, United Kingdom
This is my ultimate fantasy: I love independent women, and I cannot think of a better way for a lady to declare her independence than to have orgasm after orgasm without the help of a male!
- age 38, Ohio
I really like to watch males masturbate. I've been with a girl and we masturbated together, but nothing has come close to masturbating with another male. It's so intense! The only thing better is when another male masturbates me. I still consider myself straight, but something about another male helping me masturbate really turns me on. I guess he would know best how and what feels good.
- age 16, Michigan
Nothing in the world is better than holding my dear boy in my lap and watching him pleasure himself. He loves to be rubbed and cuddled while he masturbates, and he always falls asleep in my arms afterwards. We love it.
- age 22, Canada (female)
I am a straight male and I would rather watch another male masturbate to see how he does it. Another reason is that I would rather have sexual intercourse with the girl, with *me* pleasuring her, not her pleasuring herself — get what I'm saying?
- age 15, Kansas
It's a pretty tough call. On one hand, I would enjoy seeing another guy aroused and watch his technique compared to mine. But on the other hand, I would enjoy the chance to study a gal's sexual response, watching her get wet and tremble by her own hand. What I would really be interested in would be watching someone of either sex masturbate for their first time, and see the wonder on their faces as they discover the pleasure they can give themselves.
- age 24, Illinois
It would be most interesting to watch a male masturbate because it excites you lots more. I think we men are lots more fun when it comes to masturbation. We have a sort of rhythm, and it's nice to see that when you do something. Something comes out. But what would be even better is to see a woman masturbate a man.
- age 18, Spain
I really like the sound a woman makes when she masturbates. I also can see how she likes to be touched and held. You'd be surprised to see how much she likes it when you know exactly what to do to make her feel good.
- age 15, South Carolina
I think I would be more interested in watching a male masturbate, because I might learn a technique I have not tried. Until I found this Web site, masturbation was a subject I could not discuss freely. I learned the technique I use now from watching a friend masturbate. Thank you, JackinWorld.
- age 30, Indiana
I think it would be more interesting to watch a guy masturbate, because guys tend to be loud and rough, and they really get into it.
- age 16, Illinois (female)
I'd rather watch a male. I have a web cam and regularly masturbate with another guy. It's interesting to see how he treats his penis and how his body reacts. Every man does different things. I'm not gay, I just like to watch a guy masturbate because "it's a man thing."
- age 15, United Kingdom
I'd like to see both at the same time.
- age 31, District of Columbia
It depends on what kind of mood I am in. If I am really turned on I tend to think of a guy sometimes. But when I am more mellowed out, I always think of a girl. I guess it is because I have only been with a guy.
- age 16, Kentucky
As a girl, I'd like to watch boys masturbate. I think masturbation is really a private "boy" thing to do. For a boy to let you watch him masturbate is like letting you into his private world and showing he really trusts you as a friend. Also I think a man never is more a "man" than when he is aroused, especially when he is having an orgasm. So I think a man masturbating and having an orgasm looks really beautiful. When I see pictures of a man masturbating I just want to give him a big hug and tell him how beautiful he is.
- age 14, Ireland (female)
I would rather see a male masturbate; I would like to see the different techniques, and also the looks on their faces. I watched several of my friends masturbate in the years before my marriage (happy for 16 years so far). Each one had a different technique. One lay on his back with his knees raised and spread, rubbing his penis first quickly with one hand, then slowly with the other, alternating until he reached orgasm. A second stood up, pointed his penis straight out, and stroked it. A third, while soft, sat on the bed and flopped his penis from side to side with one hand until he had an erection. A fourth simply squeezed the head of his penis until he had achieved his goal. I have thought of these experiences often and still find them stimulating.
- age 42, Rhode Island
I have always wanted to watch my girlfriend masturbate (yes, I am bisexual). I've heard her before, but I really want to see her. I want to know what makes her moan and scream. I think I would like to see a girl masturbate rather than a guy because it is well known that guys masturbate, but not so much for girls.
- age 13, Michigan (female)
I would definitely rather see a female masturbate. Female masturbation is still not talked about so openly, so it has that extra air of mystery. Also, being allowed to watch a woman masturbate (and I have seen several) is the ultimate expression of their trust in me, and their willingness to share and be open. To me, *that* is the ultimate turn-on.
- age 30, United Kingdom
Of course I would like to watch a female masturbate — but not just any female. I've always fantasized about my female friends. Something turns me on about watching someone I know do this.
- age 16, Virginia
I'd rather watch a woman masturbate, because the men I've watched are so focused on their orgasms, while women take their time and *enjoy the ride*! However, I'd rather bring a man to orgasm through masturbation than a woman because they seem more surprised by the ride I give them.
- age 27, Kansas (female)
I'd much rather watch a female masturbate. Other than the fact that I'm attracted to females, it would be a change. I know what it's like for a guy to masturbate, but not a woman.
- age 16, Pennsylvania
This isn't an easy question for me to answer because I am a gay male. I have seen films of women masturbating, but any intended effect was wasted on me (no disrespect intended). There's no visible way to tell orgasm was real. Despite my innate attraction to other males, I think the natural hard-wired process a man's body moves through as we climax is always beautiful, interesting, and obvious of purpose, since the result — ejaculation — can be seen. So having just said that, how would I feel watching a man masturbate who could not visibly ejaculate? I probably would not enjoy it if I were looking only to be physically stimulated. But if he were someone I really cared about, I probably would.
- age 51, New York
Watching girls masturbate is much more enjoyable because you're playing with yourself while she masturbates, and it seems like you both want to climax so badly. Mutual masturbation is great to do with a girlfriend.
- age 16, California
Even though preference doesn't matter for me (I'm bi), I'd like to see a male masturbate. Someone around my age — no one over, like, 30 (then it gets just a little weird). I think I'd get pointers and see things from a different point of view. But my penis would also want the male, because a girl masturbating that close to me would just be taunting it!
- age 15, New Jersey
I would definitely prefer to watch a female masturbate. I have watched my male cousin masturbate a few times (without him knowing). Also, I have walked in on my next-door neighbor's son when I was babysitting. Neither situation did much for me. I have seen my little sister do it when she was in the shower (she is 16), and for some strange reason, I could not stop watching. I was so turned on that I played with myself from behind the door. I would definitely rather watch a female!
- age 20, New York (female)
It would be more interesting to watch another guy masturbate. Living in Utah, you never get to experiment with your friends because they are all Mormon, and their laws do not allow masturbation. I would like to teach one of my Mormon guy-friends to masturbate, since he probably has never done it before.
- age 16, Utah
I have always had a fantasy to watch a male masturbating. I think it's really sexy, and I've never been able to explain why. The facial expressions and noises and heavy breathing really get to me for some reason.
- age 16, New Jersey (female)
I had always wanted to see another guy masturbate. When I was on vacation last year, I saw a guy masturbating in the shower, and it was nice. I don't consider myself gay; I was just interested in seeing another guy's technique. Since then, I have had no desire to see it again.
- age 20, Tennessee
I would like to see a female because it would be a learning experience for me. I am neither lesbian nor bi, but women are beautiful, and I also masturbate, myself. So by seeing how someone else does it, I would get new ideas and could masturbate more successfully. No offense, guys — I love you naked — but the thought of seeing another woman just sounds too great.
- age 16, Michigan (female)
I would love to watch a man masturbate. I am bi and prefer men. Even when they have sex, they still have to act manly for their partner. But when they masturbate, they are so vulnerable — they really let themselves go.
- age 18, Texas
I would definitely want to watch a guy masturbate rather than a girl. For one, I am gay. And besides that, I think girls' parts are nasty — they are all slimy and gross. A guy's penis is clean and easy to use — plus, I have one myself, so I'd be cruisin' in charted territories. And girls would take forever! A guy can have an orgasm in minutes or hours, whichever he chooses.
- age 16, Illinois
I don't want to sound "gay" or anything, but watching a male masturbate is so intense. I watched my friend masturbate about 2 weeks ago. At first I said I would never do it, but it was so incredible! I think it was because he was naked, and I was naked watching him — I just got so aroused. After he finished, I masturbated in front of him, and the orgasm was thrilling. Now we masturbate together all the time. Almost every time we masturbate, we see each other — and if this is gay, then so what, because it is amazing. Girls attract me, but men arouse me, too. And, I am going to continue to masturbate with my friend, because it makes me feel so incredible.
- age 14, Pennsylvania
I love to watch men masturbate — especially my boyfriend. He makes the cutest facial expressions when he is about to ejaculate. But I have always been curious about how other women do it, because I've always considered my "style" rather weird. So I would have to go out on a limb here and say that I would love to watch another woman masturbate.
- age 16, Australia (female)
Even though I am a straight male, I have always wanted to masturbate with another guy (look, but don't touch). I have never been very turned on by female genitalia, and I like so much the way penises look. I think that it would be a huge turn-on on to see how other guys masturbate, especially those without a foreskin. I've never seen a circumcised man masturbate. I am uncut. As well, I would love to compare myself to the other male, such as who ejaculates more semen, who ejaculates farther, penis size, and masturbation techniques. Further, the thought of another guy focusing so much on my penis to compare is a huge turn-on.
- age 17, Canada
I've always wanted to watch an uncircumcised male masturbate in front of me. I'm circumcised, so it would be interesting to see the act done by somebody with more skin.
- age 19, Ontario, Canada
I'd rather watch a male masturbate. For some reason, that turns me on. But sometimes when I masturbate, I do enjoy thinking of a female touching herself. I'm not a lesbian — that just gets me a little more "riled up."
- age 16, Michigan (female)
I'd rather see a man, because being a man and watching another man in a state that's supposed to be very private — that is something incredibly intimate. It also shows that the man masturbating trusts you more than anyone. That is incredibly erotic.
- age 20, Ohio
