My cousin and I used to masturbate in front of each other and masturbate each other. It all started innocently with sleepovers; he always turned away when he was undressing for bed, so I made fun of him and dared him to turn around. When he finally did, it was like, "Whoa!" — he was pretty big. We began talking about sex, masturbation, etc., and we found our boners poking through our boxers, so we dared each other to take them out. We did and eventually began to masturbate. From there we progressed to doing each other. I could always ejaculate further than him. We were (and still are) straight, but I always used to wonder if other straight guys did this. Where was JackinWorld then? I know now that many guys, gay and straight, have experimented with another guy.
- age 29, Tennessee
I once walked in on my roommate, and he had his eyes closed so he didn't see me coming in. He was lying on the bed naked, masturbating. He seemed to really be into it, and afterwards when he noticed me there, he really didn't seem to care.
- age 26, Pennsylvania
Yes — my friends and I masturbate once and a while. I'm not gay, but it's cool to see other guys my age get off.
- age 17, Idaho
A friend and I get to get together about once or twice a week, and we enjoy masturbating together. We like to lie in my bed and watch a video and then masturbate. We've been doing this since we were in 5th grade. It's funny to think back at the different ways we used to masturbate and the things we did. I think it has brought us closer together as friends.
- age 16, Missouri
A friend and I were in New Mexico on a school trip. At about 2 AM we were getting ready for bed; my friend dared me to masturbate in front of him, and I said I would if he would do it too — so we both ended up masturbating in front of each other.
- age 14, Massachusetts
In all my years of existence, I have never seen a person beat off in my life. It is disgusting even to hear about it.
- age 24, California
Yes, a number of times. When I was about 9, I peeked through a crack in my older brother's door. He was just sitting at his desk, reading a magazine. He had no idea I was there — but then again I had no idea what he was doing! Then when I was about 11, I slept over my friend's house. He got up and said he was going to take a shower. While he was in there, I had to go to the bathroom, so I figured I'd just go in real quick and use the toilet — he won't mind. But when I opened the door, there he was sitting on the toilet masturbating away. He wasn't embarrassed, and he asked me to join him — but I declined, so he said I could just watch, and I did.
- age 15, New Jersey
My friends and I, usually no more than 3 at a time, get together, watch a video, pass around the Lubriderm lotion, and masturbate. There's nothing wrong with it — we just consider it a mutual release of sexual energy. Look at it this way: you can consider masturbation a "guy" thing. Most girls don't understand, right? So when you get together and masturbate, think of it as a bonding experience. If you look at someone else's penis while they masturbate, that's fine too! You can learn how they like to do it, or just enjoy the experience.
- age 17, Oklahoma
I once saw my older brother and his friends masturbating. I was peeking in through the door, and I stayed there until they finished. I was kind of surprised.
- age 15, Washington
Yes, my girlfriend — and she's watched me. It's great, although in a different way than I would have expected: masturbating together is by far the most reliable way for us to achieve simultaneous orgasm (which is really magnificent if you can manage it). I've also seen a few friends touch their penises, but I haven't seen them actually masturbate.
- age 20, Vermont
I've watched my friend ejaculate a lot. Actually, he was the one who taught me to masturbate. I had gone over to his house once and we were having a sleepover. He showed me some dirty magazines and asked how they made me feel. Then he asked if I wanted to know how to feel even better, and he took out his penis and showed me how to masturbate. I've also watched my roommate masturbate; he's pretty open about it, and he'll start masturbating whenever, even if I'm right there. I've also done "the group thing" once.
- age 19, New York
Not exactly, but one time I went into a bathroom at school and a guy was masturbating while standing at the toilet. He didn't know I was there for about 30 seconds, and he was going to town. When he saw me there, he zipped up really quickly and left. I see him in the hallway once in a while and I just smile at him. He smiles back, so I know he knows I saw him. If I had the guts, I'd ask him if he would like to do it with me sometime, but I don't dare — yet.
- age 17, Nevada
I noticed that my older brother (20 years old) would go into the bathroom for a long time and I wouldn't hear anything. I always wondered if he masturbated, but I never thought he did. So I investigated — I watched him from outside the bathroom window, and he did masturbate, into the sink. This gave me good ideas. I realized masturbation is a very personal, private thing, and that I shouldn't have intruded into his privacy — but on the other hand, I'm glad I now know my brother is only human, like the rest of us.
- age 18, Ohio
When I was 14 I watched my best friend humping the pillow through his bedroom window. It surprised and kind of embarrassed me. That was exactly how I did it back then, but he didn't see me, and I was too shy to bring it up.
- age 44, Arkansas
I was at my friend's house watching pornos. It was the first time I had ever seen one, and I had a raging erection. I was mesmerized by the TV, until I heard a weird sound next to me. There was my pal, spanking it in plain view. I was kind of shocked, but I didn't say anything. It hasn't happened again since then, but I wouldn't mind if it did. (It kind of helps me realize masturbation is normal.)
- age 18, Pennsylvania
I once saw my friend do it. We were about 13. His penis was much larger than the ones I had seen in the school locker room; he said it measured about 7". Then he asked if I wanted to fist it if he could fist me. I said I wasn't into that and left. Since then we have not spoken.
- age 18, Canada
When I was about 11, my best friend's older cousin showed my friend how to masturbate. My friend related how he watched his cousin ejaculate; after much coaxing, my friend showed me what his cousin did. My friend and I masturbated together fairly regularly for the next couple of years. At about age 13, masturbation and penis size were frequent topics among several of my friends. I masturbated with three of them. One of them was a lot more mature; I was intrigued by his (seemingly) huge penis, and he shot giant loads, too. As an adult I have masturbated for and with several of my girlfriends. I have also watched and been watched my a couple of other men. Although I consider myself to be heterosexual, I enjoy seeing other men masturbate and enjoy being watched.
- age 50, California
A friend of mine and I were both about 15; I walked into his room when I was staying over. He did not hear me, so I stayed and watched. It was very erotic (in hindsight) to see the technique and dopey look on his face and the amount of semen he expelled. This sight kept me masturbating for some time after that!
- age 31, Australia
Once I caught my dad using the fist grip in his bathroom. He was so embarrassed he started yelling, and he told me I was grounded for a week. Then I said, "So, how do I explain to Mom why I was grounded?" He took back the punishment!
- age 16, Massachusetts
My best friend would spy on his older brother, and I saw his brother, too. My friend would masturbate in bed or in the shower and not really think too much of it. I often heard guys masturbating during the night on class trips or sports tournaments when we were crammed into motel rooms. And sometimes you could see them even in the dark. Same thing for my college dorm roommates.
- age 25, Georgia
My friend and I used to play truth or dare when we slept over at each other's houses, and that used to be a frequent one: "I dare you to masturbate in front of me." That happened several times. I also once saw another friend get a handjob from his girlfriend.
- age 16, New York
Whenever I go over to a friend's house we watch a video. We each get a sheet and cover ourselves and pump away. I think it's so much fun. I can see the outline of his penis and his hand going up and down. Now, let me get one thing straight — I'm not gay! But I don't know why but I get excited by just watching him. I wish we could just forget the sheets!
- age 15, Oklahoma
One time a friend of mine and I were experimenting when I was about 13. We wanted to know what it was like to have sex — so we both got hard and practiced getting on top of each other and imagined what it would be like to have sex with a girl. Then I asked my friend if he wanted to masturbate together; he said he didn't know how (he was a few years younger than me). So I showed him how I ejaculated by rubbing my penis between my thighs (not very experienced at that time), and then he did the same thing in front of me. It was great!
- age 42, New York
A friend of mine was staying over for the summer, and we had nothing better to do — so we went in the closet, and he told me how to masturbate. We did it together, and it was quite fun — until my mother caught us when I was just about to ejaculate. We just pulled our shirts over our penises (we still had our clothes on) and pretended to be cleaning out the closet! She never suspected anything.
- age 16, Texas
My neighbor and I used to enjoy masturbating together while surfing the Net. I'm not gay; it was just more arousing to do it with someone else, and it also let me know I wasn't the only one in the world that didn't have a huge penis. Now we both have girlfriends who take care of that kind of stuff for us, so we don't do it together anymore. But it was fun, and I don't regret it at all.
- age 16, Pennsylvania
I watched my girlfriend finger herself while I masturbated. It's really safe sex.
- age 14, Massachusetts
As a kid, I was sitting in our front yard by the fence that separated the front yard from the back yard. I heard a noise in the back yard and looked through the slats of the fence. There, in a heated-up frenzy, was my younger brother, doing what we all like to do. When I mentioned it to him later, he denied it — but then said he had once seen me do the same thing. Oh well!
- age 41, California
I've watched three friends masturbate, all separately, and they've watched me while I did it too. Usually we do it together while we read magazines, but I really like to watch the way they do it. I love to see the look on their face when they orgasm. I think most boys would like to watch someone else masturbate. It's a great way to learn more techniques!
- age 15, United Kingdom
At the end of 6th grade, a friend of mine had a party. He had just gotten a new hot tub, so the four of us got in. Someone discovered that the water jets were great for stimulating our penises. Pretty soon we were all doing it! A couple years later I was at the same friend's house; we were watching a movie in which two lesbians were making love to each other. I noticed he was rubbing his penis through his pants. I was already hard from seeing the naked chicks, but it really turned me on. Pretty soon he started masturbating under his pants. I pretended not to notice, but pretty soon I joined in. Luckily we finished a couple of minutes before his mom got home.
- age 15, Colorado
I watched my brother. I came home from school and entered my room and found my brother lying on his bed with his pants around his ankles. I went in quietly and sat on my bed and watched. After he hit orgasm, he opened his eyes and saw me sitting there, and he said next time either to knock or to join in.
- age 18, Wisconsin
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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HAVE YOU EVER WATCHED SOMEONE ELSE MASTURBATE?
[Note: About two-thirds of the people who responded to this question said yes; the rest said no. Of those who said no and made a comment, a surprising amount — at least 80% — said they'd like to. A few said no and weren't interested. Most of these selections are from those who answered yes.]