Different from what I would actually do? Of course not! The very nature of my fantasies stems from plausible situations, even if somewhat unlikely, in real life. When I fantasize, I usually imagine a realistic scenario, such as playing a game of truth-or-dare or accidentally walking in on another guy (or girl) going at it in the pool showers. For me, fantasizing about outlandish things (such as a mass-party masturbation fest) isn't a turn-on at all. It's complete nonsense. Putting myself into a situation where I can honestly see myself "reacting" in real-life is the only way to get my groove on. That is, *if* I use my imagination!
- age 19, Florida
This Week's Wackiest Response:
I figure it doesn't matter what I write here, since it won't be published. So, chickens like to go bathe naked in the river across from the old gorilla's castle while eating Kentucky Fried Chicken. That's a little cannibalistic, don't you think?
- age 14, California
When I masturbate, I love to fantasize about giving my wife long, slow oral sex *after* we have had regular sex. I think about what she will taste and smell like once my juices have mixed with hers. I think of what it will do to her and how she will have orgasm after orgasm. As I think of what her orgasm must feel like, I have a huge one of my own. It is such an intense orgasm for me with just the fantasy, I cannot imagine what the real thing would be like! Someday maybe I'll try it for real and find out.
- age 45, Missouri
I often masturbate over sexual experiences of the past. Masturbating and thinking about a girl who has masturbated me in the same way turns me on a lot.
- age 17, Wisconsin
My fantasies are *way* kinkier than what I'd actually do. I have many gay fantasies. And I fantasize a lot about having girls use a strap-on dildo on me. As well, I fantasize about young girls who have just a few pubic hairs and whose breasts are just starting to develop, even though I'd never act on that fantasy.
- age 22, Texas
My fantasies often include things I would not and even could not do in reality. I often fantasize about a world in which nudity is commonplace and people can masturbate and even have sex publicly. Of course, this bears no resemblance to the world as we know it. I'm also more open to sex with a variety of partners, group sex, and other activities I probably wouldn't do in real life. And of course, I can usually keep an erection longer in fantasy than in reality, too!
- age 45, Tennessee
Most of my fantasies are actual events that either have occurred, or that I would like to occur. Seldom do I fantasize about something that is unlikely or impossible. That may seem rather boring, but hey! I'm a boring kind of guy.
- age 17, Indiana
Since I am married and faithful, masturbation fantasies are usually about something I have never done and probably never will do. But they have to be believable to be arousing, so they are usually not too outlandish – for instance, sex in a public place or masturbating with somebody other than my wife.
- age 39, New Jersey
I would really like to be able to masturbate with my best friend, but I'm too embarrassed to ask him. I don't even know if he masturbates. But I think about doing it with him when I masturbate, and it makes for a great session. I also think about having oral sex with him. I've read about oral sex, but I don't know what it feels like. However, I'd like to find out. When I think about having oral sex with him, *wow*!
- age 14, California
I usually think of things that not only would I not do, but things that I *cannot* do. I usually fantasize about girls from anime, a form of cartoon usually made in Japan.
- age 18, Australia
Usually I fantasize about the porno I am watching or the pictures I am looking at on the Internet. However, I have done things I had previously fantasized about. And you know what? It was almost hotter fantasizing about it! I love masturbating – it's almost better than being with someone else.
- age 21, Texas
I don't fantasize about anything. I am out to get off, and that's all I care about.
- age 19, New Mexico (female)
When I masturbate, I usually think of two people having sex. Sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I think of people having sex, but those are usually the only times I think of it. I would not actually have sex at my age – not until I am married.
- age 12, California
As a person who can focus on the sheer pleasure of masturbating, I rarely fantasize. My vocalizations consist of how wonderful my lubed penis feels in my hands, or how much fun I am having. When I ejaculate, I hum, giggle, and moan. If I fantasize, it is about masturbating at a secluded beach with friends, male or female. Since "good boys" would never do anything like that, my rare fantasies (alas) remain totally separated from my real life.
- age 61, Michigan
I have a girlfriend to whom I am completely devoted, and we are not in any way sexually active. I fantasize about a lot of people, from my choir teacher to my childhood babysitter. The only fantasies I have about my girlfriend are more emotional – about our first time together, which will be years from now on our honeymoon. I could never do the things that happen in my sexual fantasies because I love my girlfriend so much. In the meantime, my fantasies about my choir director keep me satisfied until my girlfriend and I are in some tropical paradise as a married couple.
- age 17, Iowa
When I masturbate, I think of things that have happened in my life with men I have slept with or things in a porn movie that have really turned me on. Reality is much more of a turn-on for me than thinking of something that would probably never happen. As my fantasies revolve around my boyfriend or previous sexual partners, all of them are either something I will do or something I have already done. The joy is having a boyfriend who will listen to and share in my fantasies!
- age 32, Germany (female)
For some reason, many of my best masturbation sessions come as I fantasize about masturbating with a group of guys, people I would like to masturbate with, but haven't yet. Even more so, I like to fantasize about mutual and group masturbation with these same people. For some reason, this is a greater turn-on than remembering things I have done, such as having sex with my girlfriends.
- age 18, Illinois
It's a nice mixture. Sometimes I think about events that have happened, sometimes events that might well have happened but didn't, sometimes things that might yet happen. These are all possible scenarios and amount to about half my fantasies. The other half is fantasies in the true sense – they deal with events that in real life I couldn't or wouldn't participate in.
- age 47, United Kingdom
My masturbation fantasies are mostly just that – fantasies. Occasionally, I think of things I have done. Remembering a masturbation session that was incredible can be enough to get me off, but thinking about a guy I want is usually what is on my mind. I am a virgin, so *everything* is a fantasy! My most common fantasy is being the guest of honor at an orgy with all my favorite guys. Now that is something I would never do, as I am too shy. I think fantasy is good. We can do things we would never do, and some things are better as fantasy than reality.
- age 16, Sweden
I try not to fantasize when I masturbate, because of my religious beliefs. Believe it or not, I pray a lot instead of fantasizing while I'm masturbating, mostly for sexual purity and that sort of thing. I guess the biggest difference in that is that I pray to keep my thought life pure, and in real life, I don't manage to do it. Sorry if it's not exciting – it's just where I'm at.
- age 26, Ohio
I think my fantasies are good for me because they keep me from doing things that in real life could get me into trouble. They are a good way of venting desire to do these things.
- age 16, Canada
My fantasies tend to be reality-based. I think only of women I know and who attract me. I do think of doing things with them I would not normally do (random sexual encounters, sex in public places), and things I'd love to do but probably will never have the opportunity (such as threesomes). Typically, it ends up being just an attractive girl and me in bed together.
- age 21, California
For quickies, I just think about random images of naked chicks or having sex. But when the session is longer, I actually have to build up the situation as though it's real, down to the last detail (such as why I'm at the place, when it is, and why the person is there). It just doesn't work as well when I imagine something like being in a hot tub with lots of naked chicks, unless I realistically built up why I was doing this. Strange, I know.
- age 15, Arizona
My fantasies are generally about things I would *like* to do but have never done. Maybe I will still get the chance. I enjoy fantasizing about masturbating with another guy I've known for many years. We would masturbate together and each other in various situations – outdoors, at home when one of our wives is out, or in the shower.
- age 46, Massachusetts
My fantasies vary, depending on my mood. Actually, they've changed over the years. What's weird is, I very rarely reach orgasm thinking about a girl. I'm not homosexual and don't like to think I'm bisexual, but the thought of getting off with a guy turns me on more than thinking about having sex with a woman. There's something arousing about the masculinity and aggressiveness of sharing an experience with a guy. However, I'd never have intercourse with a male. I'd actually be more comfortable sharing an intimate, personal, somewhat sexual situation with a woman – but as for masturbation and satisfying "needs," guys usually come to mind.
- age 19, Washington
While I'm masturbating, I think about having sex with one or two (or three?) of my school friends, or even of the fact that in real life I'm going out with girls. Sometimes I fantasize about having sex in the shower at a pubic swimming pool or in a hotel room.
- age 15, Spain
My fantasies tend to be things that I would be uncomfortable doing in reality. For instance, I fantasize about rough sex with a complete stranger, but I would never act on this, and I really don't think I'd enjoy it if it were to happen. That's what separates fantasy from reality. Imagination keeps life from becoming too dull.
- age 23, Delaware (female)
I fantasize over things I am going to do. Mostly, I fantasize about my girlfriend and me doing different things, especially having oral sex. This is something we plan to do very soon, and when I think about it, the climax comes quickly!
- age 13, Alabama
My fantasies are very different from my real life. I'm shy around boys, and I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. However, my fantasies often include me being the person who initiates sex. Or I just accept it. Sometimes, I even fantasize about several guys around me at once. Although it's far from reality, when I fantasize, I like to imagine myself as a very sexually loose person.
- age 18, Ohio (female)
When I masturbate, I don't usually fantasize. I just enjoy the way it feels. I concentrate solely on what I'm doing. So I don't feel obligated to focus on anything but me, because after all, that's what masturbation is all about.
- age 20, California
My fantasies are totally different from real life. I have never had sex and I've kissed a girl only once – but when I masturbate, I think of almost every girl, and a few boys, that I know!
- age 13, Florida
My fantasies always consist of things I have done in the past or experienced. They are usually more intense because I tend to complete or "upgrade" the situation based on how horny I am.
- age 42, Oklahoma
My fantasy life revolves completely around the girls I see everyday and what I'd like to do with them. I never stray out of the ordinary and begin to fantasize about things that maybe I wouldn't be so keen to do in real life. It simply doesn't turn me on.
- age 16, United Kingdom
I'm not totally sure I would *never* do them, but my masturbation fantasies are generally further out there then I have actually ever been. I really enjoy leather scenes in videos, and that has driven some fantasies lately, even though I have never and probably wouldn't enjoy them in real life.
- age 31, Texas
Because I am bisexual, many of my fantasies involve other guys. I would definitely try the things I fantasize about, but later in life. High school is not the most accepting environment for sexual differences (an understatement!), and I don't feel it's a safe place to be open about my sexuality. Right now, I probably wouldn't consider doing these things. I can wait a few years.
- age 17, Washington
My sexual fantasies are pretty close to what I have done, currently do, or would like to do in real life. What would be the point of fantasies about things I wouldn't like? By the way, when I'm actually masturbating (or having intercourse for that matter), I do not waste my attention on fantasy, but I try to concentrate on what is actually happening. Ah, well...I might occasionally have thought while masturbating, "This would be nice to do with this or that woman" – but nothing more specific than that.
- age 55, Denmark