Many guys like to compare anatomy with other males. However, this seems to be a guy thing; there were no comparable responses from gals. People involved in relationships tend to visualize their significant other masturbating as they masturbate. This was true of most of the females who reported thinking of others masturbating.
Some men continue to masturbate after marriage. A few guys, even though they define themselves as straight, continue to enjoy masturbating with other men after they are married. Thoughts of these activities fuel later solo masturbation sessions.]
I *constantly* think of others masturbating. Although heterosexual, I masturbated with other males when I was a teenager. I wonder about how others do it, what techniques they use, whether they still do it even after marriage. When do they do it, and how often? I have probably thought of just about every possible question about people masturbating either before I indulge or after!
- age 46, Texas
All the time! In fact, one of my favorite things about dating is getting the boyfriend to tell me (in graphic detail) all about how and when he does it. Eventually I can get him to do it in front of me. This has been my obsession ever since puberty – and I've never had a guy refuse to "perform" for me.
- age 27, Louisiana (female)
I think about girls masturbating. I find it very arousing to think girls are horny enough to give themselves pleasure.
- age 14, New York
Nearly every time. It may be my girlfriend pleasuring herself, her doing it with me, or one of my male friends and me masturbating together (which I have done several times in real life). I like to compare penises and techniques and see each other shoot our semen. Masturbation is such a powerful and personal experience that even the thought of sharing in a friend's self-pleasure is awesome!
- age 28, South Carolina
All the time! I like to think about my girlfriend fingering herself, and I like to think about other guys masturbating also. It just turns me on. Although I'm not gay, I also love to compare the length and width of my penis, amount of pubic hair, and techniques, with my friends. So I can't help but think about it because I have seen it. I usually think about my girlfriend, though. I love to see her masturbate!
- age 16, Connecticut
I like to think about my lover masturbating when he thinks about me or remembers being with me. He's masturbated in front of me and vice versa, so it's not a difficult image to conjure. Plus, he's told me that when we're apart he remembers my face and masturbates. This turns me on.
- age 25, California (female)
Although I don't consider myself gay, I think about other guys masturbating almost every time. Sometimes I even think about other guys masturbating me, or vice versa. This is the only time I think of guys in a sexual way.
- age 14, Tennessee
At least 3 or 4 times a day. I sit in class and wonder if I'm the only one there who's masturbating. While my legs are at work, I stare at the girls around me and wonder if they are thinking the same thing. It really gets me off.
- age 20, New Jersey (female)
Let's just put it this way: If I didn't think about other people masturbating, I would almost never be able to masturbate myself because I could never get hard enough!
- age 18, Iowa
Every once in a while I wonder if my friends still masturbate. Then I realize how stupid that question is. Unless they lost their penis in an accident, why wouldn't they still masturbate?
- age 36, New York
I often think about women masturbating, but never other men.
- age 18, Australia
I think about other guys masturbating all the time. I try to listen when guys go into the bathroom. I heard my cousin masturbating once, and it made me masturbate. I do the same at work.
- age 30, North Carolina
I often think about my brother masturbating (he's 13), because lately I have heard that familiar slapping sound followed by a sigh or heavy breathing. So I've been thinking about how he does it.
- age 16, Canada
Every day. And I imagine what they (males) look like when they do it.
- age 22, North Carolina (female)
Occasionally. I visualize a few of my female classmates doing it – it's quite arousing. Maybe I should ask them someday if they'd do it for me.
- age 16, Minnesota
Maybe half the time. Sometimes I think about women I would like to be with. Most of the time it isn't really sexual; I think about their bodies, but not really doing anything with them. Sometimes I think about guys, but just that I am imagining masturbating with them, and "comparing notes" while we do it – nothing more. The other half of the time I am so caught up in how incredibly awesome masturbation feels, I don't think of anything except my own penis.
- age 21, Canada
Occasionally I think of my best friend masturbating. Just the thought of him playing with his penis gets me off fairly quickly.
- age 17, Texas
I would say about 40% of my fantasies include someone masturbating – more often females than males. I usually think of masturbating with them, or of them sitting alone and pleasuring themselves.
- age 26, Massachusetts
Once or twice a week while I masturbate, I think about my uncle doing it. I once walked in on him while he was doing it. He is the only one I have ever seen, and that image sticks in my head.
- age 15, Texas
I think about my girlfriend masturbating herself. She tells me she enjoys it when she is alone, so then I think about it when I'm alone. I can see her pleasuring herself while I watch her secretly. Sometimes she knows I'm watching. I also love to think about my boyfriend's uncircumcised penis, with all the fleshy foreskin rolling back and forth over the head of his penis as he strokes it.
- age 35, Oklahoma (female)
I usually think of other guys masturbating. When I was 14 I would always think of women doing it, but after a while it got to where I wouldn't get an erection. So I tried something different and thought of a guy doing it, and I found myself getting an erection again. Now it's almost a necessity. I don't consider myself gay – just ready for some new thoughts.
- age 15, California
I think about my 22-year-old cousin all the time – the expressions on his face and the sounds he makes as he ejaculates. I'd love to masturbate him because we are such good friends, and I'm sure I could use some techniques that would drive him wild. He's such a good and deserving friend that I'd love to masturbate him just once – but I'm too afraid that he might respond negatively to such a request, so I don't ask. I only hope that someday he might ask me.
- age 35, Maryland
Practically all the time. I think that about almost everyone I see. I also imagine them doing it. But when I masturbate, it's my time alone – except for maybe a few hot girls from school.
- age 16, Puerto Rico
It's one of the things I fantasize about most. I like to think about women I know (and sometimes celebrities) – how they might do it: on their back, on their front, with their fingers, riding a pillow. And of course, I try to imagine what they look like when they climax!
- age 26, Florida
I often think about my boyfriend masturbating, as it turns me on. The only other time is when I see an attractive guy in the street or at a party. If I find him attractive, I visualize him masturbating.
- age 17, Australia (female)
Whenever I'm away from home, I think about my wife masturbating. Sometimes we have had phone sex, and that is even better. Recently we bought a Sybian and a Venus 2000 [sex toys], and that has increased our sexual activity when we are not with each other. I fantasize much more about her with the Sybian.
- age 45, Colorado
I think about other people every time I masturbate, which is 3 times a day. I always think about my neighbor. She is also 14 and has a well-developed chest. One day I say her nude in her back yard, and I have masturbated to that vision ever since!
- age 14, Indiana
I frequently find it very erotic to think of other guys masturbating. Photos and videos of such male activity intrigue me even more. What I think about or see in others reflects my own experience. While such thinking or visualizing serves as some sort of psychic mirror, it always includes something more, new, and memorable. During orgasm, the erect penis reaches its full potential. I especially revel in observing the ecstasy on a man's face as he reaches orgasm. All this is captivating, beautiful, wonderful, and mysterious – with cosmic significance.
- age 63, Pennsylvania
I think about my friends and me masturbating together when we were in junior high. I remember watching their pubic hair and their sperm shoot out. It still gets me to orgasm thinking about those past days of early puberty with my friends.
- age 19, North Carolina
I don't, really. I know that everyone (or just about everyone) masturbates, but it's not something that takes up any of my gray matter. Sometimes I wonder how often my husband masturbates, but I don't want to ask him in case it turns out to be more than I do it!
- age 28, California (female)
I think about guys masturbating all the time. I'm a very sexual gay male. I think about them masturbating right in front of me.
- age 17, Indiana
I wonder quite often about others masturbating. When I see another guy, particularly if he's married, I find myself wondering if and how he masturbates. But never while I'm masturbating myself – I'm usually too caught up my own pleasure. I think it's pretty normal to want to know these things – to want to know for sure you aren't the only one who masturbates regularly.
- age 46, Nevada