Flashes and bolts of images blast through my head – there one instant and gone the next, a different one each time. One instant my world is filled with the physical sensations of masturbation, and the next there's an image of my girlfriend. As a Christian I try to avoid fantasies and lust, so I manage if I just focus back on the physical sensation (needless to say, it's awesome). Still, images do pop into my head when I get aroused. My girlfriend and our dates are often part of it, but sometimes non-sexual things seem suddenly very erotic.
- age 25, Minnesota
This Week's Wackiest Response:
My fantasies change a lot, even as I'm masturbating. One that comes back from time to time is where I remember imagining that I am the person that I am penetrating. It's like giving sex to myself inside my mind! That's one of the weirdest, but it sure feels good!
- age 32, Brazil
I have gotten into such a habit of masturbating with pornographic videos as stimulation that I seem to have lost my ability to use sexual fantasy as an arousal mechanism. I guess I've succumbed to the modern "short attention span" syndrome, and I can't keep my concentration going long enough to sustain a masturbation session.
- age 37, Florida
My fantasies vary. Sometimes I think about my girlfriend; other times, friends of mine – mostly female, but sometimes also male. I also like to look at porn when I masturbate.
- age 21, New York
My fantasies are usually composed of the same basic elements: sexy girls I saw recently, mostly at public places like showers or changing rooms. I like to fantasize about girls from my school taking showers and us having sex there. I particularly like showers, though I don't know why. Water turns me on. Having sex in water, like a pool or a river, is like the sexiest thing I can imagine.
- age 14, Israel
Usually I use the same fantasy of one or another of my ex-boyfriends. I close my eyes and tip my head back into the divot of my pillow. Then I believe that my hands are his. Each movement is a bit rougher than usual. Mostly, I remain silent because of people in the other room, and to keep the illusion from breaking.
- age 20, Kentucky (female)
To be honest, I really don't fantasize when I masturbate – not that I don't try. I just can't seem to get into it. Or if I do, my mind starts to wander very quickly. Instead I try to concentrate intently on myself and what I'm feeling (it's selfish, I know). It's similar to the fact that I also make no sound whatsoever – making noise is something I almost feel that I *should* do, but I can't make myself do it. I'd feel silly. So, my fantasies are consistent – they consist of nothing.
- age 17, United Kingdom
My fantasies vary a lot. Sometimes I fantasize about me masturbating in a public place. Other times it's me making it with my girlfriend. I also fantasize about other people having sex. At times I fantasize about gay sex – either myself or other guys. I fantasize about all kinds of sex – intercourse, oral, anal, masturbation.
- age 18, California
I have a "library" of maybe a dozen fantasies that relate mostly to my actual experiences or missed opportunities in the past. It's a bit like playing CDs – a favorite fantasy tends to dominate my masturbation sessions for a while, and then I move on to the next one. Variety, as they say, is the spice of life!
- age 45, United Kingdom
When I masturbate, my thoughts seem to revolve around the same thing – one of my friends. He's a guy. That may seem a little weird, but it doesn't bother me. I would probably welcome it if he wanted to do stuff together.
- age 14, Massachusetts
My fantasies are pretty much the same, with one variation: I *always* think about watching a female masturbate. But I think about different people.
- age 39, Ohio
I masturbate with only one fantasy – the thought of seeing my best friend naked. About 6 months ago I saw him naked for the first and only time – for only for a couple of seconds while he was coming out of the showers at school. He is over a year younger than I am; I thought surely he would not have grown any pubic hair at his age, but to my surprise, he had an enormous amount of very fair hair around his penis. I was even more surprised to see that his penis was already significantly longer than mine, and his testes also seemed well developed. When he saw me staring at his groin, he covered it with both hands. I think it is only because I got such a short glimpse of his beautiful body that I can fantasize so much about it. If I think hard about this event, I can easily reach full orgasm in 10 or 20 seconds.
- age 13, United Kingdom
My dreams while masturbating vary in what happens, but they always have the same location. I am always in a public place where other people are watching. It really turns me on that someone can see everything I am doing.
- age 21, Texas
They're generally pretty consistent. They differ only in variations of the same thing. Occasionally I fantasize about something new for variety.
- age 16, Michigan
I have a repertory of fantasies that I know work to get me aroused and keep me that way, so I usually draw from whichever fantasy appeals to me that day. Often I'll have a run of several masturbation sessions with the same fantasy, and sometimes I'll vary it daily. They're all similar in that they are all gay fantasies and involve nudity, group masturbation, and almost always, public sex. However, the scenarios (college dorm, nudist resort, shared apartment, etc.) change fairly frequently.
- age 44, Tennessee
I usually fantasize about older women, like my friends' moms. Whenever I masturbate, one will pop into my head. They are usually what bring me to orgasm.
- age 16, New Mexico
I always fantasize about my girlfriend. What we are doing in that fantasy varies every time.
- age 25, Netherlands
My fantasies usually involve anal sex, so when I masturbate it comes into play one way or another. However, I do have those sessions every few weeks where it gets old and I revert back to every man's fantasy, the "threesome."
- age 16, Maryland
I don't really have any fantasies when I masturbate. I focus more on the feelings I am having and the ones I would like to feel. But usually if I have sexual fantasies, they are about me and this one girl I'd like to be with.
- age 20, California
They're very consistent. I always fantasize about making love to another woman, something I did a fair amount of before I was married. Now, when I'm pleasuring myself, I close my eyes and imagine a girlfriend walking in on me when I'm masturbating. She asks if she can join me. This leads to us kissing, and well, other pleasant activities.
- age 40, California (female)
Most of my fantasies involve an elegantly tattooed and pierced woman sliding herself up and down on my multiple-pierced penis. Occasionally, I fantasize about anal sex with another man or a woman wearing a strap-on. They are tattooed also. Good tattoo work can be such a turn-on.
- age 21, Missouri
I have six or seven fantasies, all involving girls or women with whom I have had sex in the past. I usually switch from one fantasy to another while masturbating, making up new variations as well as remembering what actually happened. At some point, a fantasy gets so exciting I stick with it until I ejaculate.
- age 71, Spain
I use basically the same fantasy: A beautiful girl is having sex with a well-endowed man, with the girl on top, riding him like a horse. Sometimes I add a little bondage, but that's only when I'm feeling frisky.
- age 19, Massachusetts (female)
There is a girl at my church who also goes to my school; I usually masturbate thinking about her doing me (her on top). I also have another method of fantasizing – I think about school. For a while, I think about all of the hot girls in my first class and pretend they are having sex with me. I move from girl to girl. Then I think about my second class, and so on. Sometimes I like to pretend the girls masturbate for me.
- age 15, Utah
It depends – during a relaxed but spontaneous session, my fantasies usually relate to a recent sexual experience or something else that has just turned me on. However, when I masturbate in the shower (which I almost always do) and need to get it over with, I usually fantasize about one of the same few things: the time I caught my brother and his best friend masturbating when I was about 15 and they were 12 (I joined them), a college roommate that I used to masturbate with regularly, or a friend I used to experiment with in high school. The memory of these real experiences produces a quick and intense orgasm.
- age 31, Texas
I always fantasize about the best times I had sex with my boyfriend. (Well, now he's my ex-boyfriend.) It's not always the same fantasy because, we did it so much, but the theme is always the same.
- age 14, Canada (female)
I've recently been fantasizing about having my best male friend masturbate me or give me oral sex. But most of the time, I fantasize about my best female friend having intercourse with me in the park out on the open, where everyone can see us – and if they want to, join us. With these fantasies, I achieve the greatest orgasms I've ever had.
- age 20, Australia
I generally think about teenage girls or women; however, since around age 55, I have started thinking more and more about mutually masturbating with men. It has become a fantasy to the extent that I guess I'd have to classify myself as bisexual. Talking to a fair number of men about my age, it seems this might be common.
- age 61, Washington
I don't consider myself gay. I *love* women, but when I'm masturbating, I usually think of men's penises and their sizes.
- age 18, Texas
When I was 14, my best friend lost his virginity to one of his older sister's friends. She was 16 or 17 and seduced him in his own bedroom when no one else was home. Of course, my friend told me all about it in graphic detail. I still like to masturbate to the fantasy of a young teen boy experiencing his very first intercourse with a very attractive teen girl who has come on to him.
- age 40, Ohio
My fantasies vary. There is one recurring fantasy though. I usually imagine being in for a massage, and the masseur just begins to brush against my scrotum lightly, which of course gets me hard. I make no comment, so he becomes more deliberate about it, and then finally, when he hears my soft moans, turns me over and masturbates me to orgasm completing the most extraordinary and relaxing massage ever.
- age 47, Nevada
I usually (oddly enough) fantasize about guys masturbating. Most often it's just one, but I have a favorite fantasy that I'm teaching a group of guys the importance of masturbation and require them to practice along. Or sometimes I'm showing them how women do it and they can't control themselves.
- age 23, Illinois (female)
My fantasies vary in situation, but most involve my best friend. Things usually tend more toward romantic situations than purely sexual. The fantasies involve expressions of love and so on.
- age 35, Florida
Every time I masturbate I use the same idea in my fantasies, but I change the scenarios. The idea is for me to be not in control. The fantasies vary from being forced by my friend's hot mom, or by an old lady, or even by men sometimes.
- age 16, Connecticut
Since age 13 I have always fantasized about other men when I masturbate. I learned how to masturbate by a demonstration from my patrol leader when I was in the Boy Scouts. To this day, I can remember exactly where we were and who was there. We never touched each other. Masturbating together became a ritual for our patrol, and we always joked that there should be a merit badge for this activity. We shared techniques, fantasies, and really bonded on a male level.
- age 51, New York
I tend to vary my fantasies. It might be about a close female friend and me hooking up at a party – or I might connect with a complete stranger. It might be about hooking up with many people at once and having some fun that way. At other times, I might be having different types of sex.
- age 17, Canada
I leave my mind blank and then start to wander freely. I fantasize more about sensations than clear images of people or places – it's all a question of mood. At peak, I can see flares of color, smell favorite odors, or even sense music! It is never the same, but mostly good!
- age 51, Israel (female)