Many answers suggest that the forbidden nature of a fantasy fuels more powerful orgasms – similar to people experiencing heightened orgasms when they masturbate with the risk of being discovered. Further, some answers stated a belief that fantasy can;t harm the object of the fantasy as long as they don't know about it. Yet other answers mentioned how, when someone "uses" another person in a fantasy, they later feel (and act?) strangely if they are around that person soon after masturbating.]
If any of you have ever heard the song "Oh What a Night" by The Four Seasons, my fantasy will probably sound familiar. It begins with me walking on the beach late at night. I see a house with a light on and a beautiful, older woman looking out the window. She sees me staring and tells me to come inside. We drink wine and engage in foreplay. Then, we proceed into her bedroom. Without even telling me her name, she makes love to me all through the night. I have always found this song and the idea of making love to a nameless older woman incredibly erotic. What makes me feel guilty about this is that once I have found a woman I truly love, I would feel guilty about having given my virginity in fantasy to a woman other then my one true love. But the song "Oh What a Night" will always fill me with great pleasure, desire, and endless fantasies.
- age 17, California
This Week's Wackiest Response:
My guilty pleasure, like many other guys, is participating in a spelling bee against members of the telephone company while masturbating in the basement of a shack made of tacos. Snappy the turtle is usually the judge, unless the gang of garden equipment shows up and throws him into the pool of donuts and hotdogs.
- age 16, Ohio
I've always fantasized about first taking a shower with a girl and, while showering, shaving her pubic hair. Then, after she's shaven, I would give her oral sex.
- age 19, Ohio
Sometimes I masturbate to thoughts of my cousin (a girl). I enjoy it very much, but I feel quite guilty and ashamed afterwards. I also feel bad after I fantasize about some female teachers at my college. It doesn't stop me, though.
- age 16, United Kingdom
Gravy! (It's good with mashed potatoes.)
- age 60, Florida
Sometimes my fantasies about mutual masturbation get carried away and include sucking another guy's penis and having it in my anus. I am into anal stimulation on occasion and enjoy it. But when I imagine some uncut guy's penis there, I feel tremendously guilty immediately after I climax. Then, I feel the need to clean up as quickly as possible. Sometimes I think that if I had an opportunity to participate in mutual masturbation, that would satisfy my libido and curiosity and stop the occasional "what if" scenario from titillating and then scaring me. I wish I could speak frankly about this with another man my age.
- age 45, Virginia
Unfortunately, yes. Even though I consider myself straight, there's something about pictures of guys in boxers that always gets me erect. That and guys masturbating, which I've heard a lot of straight guys like, so I don't feel that weird about that. But it's strange, because I don't like seeing guys having any sexual relations with each other, but somehow guys on their own in their underwear or naked gets to me. I think it has to do with the whole taboo of it.
- age 15, Maryland
I do everything I can to avoid fantasies. As a Christian, I believe it's wrong to use other people selfishly, even if it's only in my head. Yeah, I'm human, and as I get closer to an orgasm it gets a little hard to resist. Maybe it's fair to say that for me, every fantasy is a guilty pleasure fantasy.
- age 26, Ohio
Sometimes, but not often, I have fantasies – but I don't exactly feel guilty about them.
- age 15, New Zealand
A fantasy I sometimes have is to temporarily clone myself, so I can masturbate myself, and orally pleasure myself. When I'm done, I just throw the clone away. Sort of a disposable clone.
- age 36, Wisconsin
I often fantasize about having sex with my sister. It's a real turn-on for me, but I don't know why. I would never act on my fantasies, and I have a loving girlfriend – but it does give me a mind-blowing orgasm.
- age 15, Idaho
I have some wild fantasies, but I know I would never act on them in real life, so I have no real guilt about them. There's a difference between real guilt and false guilt. Too many people suffer from false guilt, and there's no reason for it. So don't be too hard on yourselves, brothers. Relax and enjoy your fantasies – look on a good solo masturbation session as a place where you can safely "go crazy" once a day (or more).
- age 68, Vermont
I like to picture myself being taken advantage of by a giant gorilla that has a big penis.
- age 14, New York (female)
I am fascinated with she-males. One of my favorite fantasies is to think of an attractive girl I know and imagine her as a she-male. Usually the fantasy involves "her" taking advantage of me for her own sexual pleasure. Then at the climactic point of the fantasy, I perform oral sex on "her." This completely puts me over the top.
- age 18, Virginia
I am a married man – straight, and have never had any sexual feelings toward the same sex. But for some reason, when I masturbate, I tend to fantasize about other men masturbating. I have seen some pictures on the Net of males masturbating, and I find them highly erotic. I have often thought it would be very exciting to masturbate in the presence of another male friend while he also was masturbating.
- age 40, California
When I'm very aroused I occasionally fantasize about teaching my 13-year-old stepbrother the wonders of sex. Then I come to my senses and run to the bathroom to throw up!
- age 17, Australia (female)
I have fantasies about fooling around with my sister, who is 21. We used to get naked in front of each other and fool around a little when we were younger, but I would love to masturbate with her now. I feel bad when I think about it, but it really turns me on to think of us pleasing each other.
- age 19, New Jersey
Sometimes I imagine that I have a hot stepbrother who comes into my room and we start going at it.
- age 17, Kansas (female)
My best fantasy would probably be to have sex with a teacher. There are a few hot ones at my school, and they dress so conservatively, it just plays with my mind.
- age 14, Minnesota
I sometimes feel guilty when I fantasize about younger guys. I am gay, a senior in high school, and am on the football team. Although I would never act on my feelings, I very often find myself falling in love with the body of a sophomore teammate. I don't think I am a pedophile, because these guys are only a few years younger than I am. But I can't help feeling a little guilty.
- age 18, Illinois
I often find myself fantasizing about some combination of my sister and my cousins in sexual situations with me. I guess it's because it's something risky and the taboo excites me, but I would never pursue it. I don't even find my sister very attractive. It just so happened that one night I had a "wet dream," and in the dream, I was having sex with my sister.
- age 21, Pennsylvania
I walked in on my best friend (female) when she was masturbating in one of our school's soundproof music-practice rooms. She was lying on the floor with her shirt and bra unbuttoned, and her panties and pants were off in the corner. She was so into what she was doing that she didn't notice me. After that, I left and locked the door behind me so no one else would see it. Within the next couple minutes, I ended up fantasizing about her as I masturbated in the next practice room. She's very sexy, but I felt really guilty because I didn't knock before I went in and I never should have seen her without her clothes on. I fantasize about this experience often and always feel guilty after my orgasm.
- age 17, Iowa
I'm straight and married, yet my most persistent masturbation fantasies are about a male friend of mine. I'm sure gay fantasies are common for straight men, but in this case the friend is considerably younger than I am (not a child, but still, younger). I am sort of a big-brother/mentor figure for him. I will not ever act on these fantasies – they are nothing more than fantasies – but the fact that they exist does cause me some guilt. And yet, when I start masturbating, I absolutely allow – maybe even encourage – the fantasies to play out in my mind.
- age 22, Maine
This is definitely a *guilty* pleasure. When I touch myself, I always fantasize about pleasuring my sister. I think she has a gorgeous face and a stunning body, but the most erotic part of it for me is the closeness we have shared since we were little girls. I have the most intense orgasms when I fantasize about touching and kissing her breasts and giving her oral pleasure. I always feel guilty about it afterwards, but it is a definite turn-on for me.
- age 25, New York (female)
My guilty-pleasure fantasy is that my best friend and I have sex. She is a "she" and I know that doesn't sound so unusual or exciting – except that I'm gay. I don't know why I fantasize about her, but I do. I guess I feel a little guilty, because she is my best friend and it freaks me out because I'm gay. I mean, I shouldn't be having *any* fantasies about women, especially my best friend.
- age 16, Canada
I often remember when I was younger and my cousin and I, or a friend and I, would masturbate together. It's very stimulating, but I feel guilty about it because I don't believe that what we did was right. I guess it's my upbringing. At the time, I was at that age where "if it feels good, do it" reigned. Now I am older, and although I still masturbate, I more enjoy thinking of the times my wife and I have had sex and masturbated each other.
- age 29, Maine
I like to imagine some girls at my school while I masturbate. But afterwards, I am not too happy about it. I think that's just wrong – because its kind of like seeing them naked without them knowing.
- age 12, Texas
I feel guilty about fantasizing about being gang-banged by a bunch of guys with huge penises – also, about having sex with a hermaphrodite.
- age 30, New York (female)
I pretend I'm turning into a stallion. I look at sites with drawings of people turning into animals.
- age 14, Texas
There is a scene in "Queer as Folk" [the British version] where Nathan masturbates a dubiously straight school classmate in the sports changing room when there is nobody else there. I can recall my school changing room, shower, and swimming pool experiences when this almost occurred to me. Indeed, we often got as far as the erection stage, looking at and feeling each other, but then got hurried along to get changed by some interloper.
- age 54, United Kingdom
One of my favorite fantasies is for me to receive oral sex from a girl in my class. It's very stimulating, but I can't look at her afterwards without feeling guilty. The problem is that she's really nice and would never do anything like that. I hate myself afterwards, but why stop? It's not like she'll ever find out – I hope.
- age 14, Canada
My fantasy is to have sex with an older woman. A woman anywhere from her 30s up to her early 50s would be great – one who has experience in different sexual activities so that she could teach me something I don't already know. The reason I feel guilty about this fantasy is that my girlfriend provides me with great sex. Even though we have sex two or three times a week, sometimes I fantasize while having sex with my girlfriend about doing it with the older woman of my dreams.
- age 20, California
For some reason, I always hate to picture a girl – that on its own makes me feel really guilty. I hate it!
- age 16, United Kingdom
Although I am straight, I have extremely exciting fantasies that make me feel uncomfortable sometimes. In my early teens, I engaged in mutual masturbation with a male friend and his younger brother. I remember how exciting it was to touch another penis and the incredible feeling of their hands on me. Later on, I masturbated to erotic magazines with at least a half-dozen different friends, and I loved watching their penises. This did not involve any touching, but I asked them if they were willing. These are some of the most powerful events to fantasize about, but the male-to-male aspect makes me feel strange.
- age 38, Rhode Island
Many of you may call me sick, even though you might have thought about this at one time or another in your life but don't want to admit it. I've had fantasies about my *mom*, and it helps me get off better than any other fantasy. But I feel guilty, because it's a fantasy about my own mom!
- age 17, California
I fantasize about being out in the dunes, sunbathing naked, and having anonymous, anal intercourse with a stranger whose face I don't see.
- age 20, Massachusetts (female)
Experiencing mutual masturbation with strange, attractive women.
- age 52, Tennessee
I love my girlfriend, and I'd never want to hurt her, but sometimes I really get off on thinking about spanking her rump and turning it red while having sex with her. I'd never actually do this if it caused pain, but it sure turns me on thinking about it! I can't help feeling guilty about it, though.
- age 17, California
Yeah – the thought of having sex with a dog, young horse, calf, etc., really gets me going. I also love watching animals having sex.
- age 48, Australia
Since I first visited JackinWorld, all my guilt about masturbation is GONE! When I masturbate, I think mostly about the other guys on my swim and soccer teams at school. I try to concentrate really hard, like I'm back there in the showers with them. After showering with them, well.... Now that I've visited JackinWorld, I know they probably go home and do just as I do. I don't feel guilty, but just hope that someday my dream will come true!
- age 16, Massachusetts
One of my favorite fantasies is about my girlfriend's mother. I cannot help it; she is very nice-looking, personable, and has absolutely killer legs. This is one I greatly enjoy; however, I feel very guilty after having it. I also get a strange feeling the next time I talk to her – like something really *has* happened between us.
- age 21, Missouri
I like to think about pregnant and lactating women.
- age 15, Colorado
I often fantasize about having sex with my girlfriend's sisters when I masturbate.
- age 23, North Carolina
My guilty fantasy concerns my best friend's mom. She's in her mid 30s and Latin (I love Latin women). She's also not very modest, as she often walks around in her panties and bra while I'm at my friend's house. And she says things like if she were younger she'd go after me. These things get me erect. Often when I masturbate, I fantasize about her and feel guilty.
- age 15, New Jersey
I feel guilty when I fantasize about cross-dressing with a man and a woman.
- age 34, North Carolina
This is horrible, but I think about doing it with my English teacher. He's only 27, and a hunk. But that's against the law. Whenever he comes close to help me with my work, I get all nervous and weird. But in my imagination, he's good at much more than just paragraph structures!
- age 15, California (female)
One of my fantasies is to sit outside, butt-naked, and masturbate before a storm comes – to see if I can have an orgasm the same time that the storm comes.
- age 22, Missouri (female)
I go to an all-boy boarding school, and some older boys taught me to masturbate when I first started boarding in 8th grade. When I masturbate now, I sometimes fantasize about teaching the new boys how to masturbate. Even though this is how I learned, I don't really think it's right. It seems wrong somehow for older guys to teach younger guys to masturbate. So I keep it as a fantasy and enjoy it when I masturbate.
- age 17, United Kingdom
I think about having sex with my girlfriend's mother or masturbating in public where people can see me.
- age 27, Washington
One time I had a dream that my dad walked in on me as I was masturbating. Ever since then, I sometimes masturbate with the thought he would walk in on me, be shocked at first, and then join in. Even though I don't live at home anymore, I still fantasize about a little father-and-son "quality time." Afterwards I feel guilty about even thinking that – especially when I see him soon after one of these sessions.
- age 22, California
If I were asked this question a year ago, I would have said that everything associated with masturbation made me feel guilty. Since I discovered this site, the guilt is gone. The articles and the responses to questions have dispelled any sense of guilt or wrongdoing I once had. Whether it is the tasteful (non-pornographic) pictures of nude women that I find on naturist sites to fantasize about, or your own JackinWorld Biographies that inspire my own sessions, I am free of guilt. I now masturbate far more often, ejaculate more and farther than I have in years, and feel totally at peace with myself. Thanks to JackinWorld, I can truthfully answer this question with a big NO! Fantasies don't make me feel guilty.
- age 60, Michigan