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I explained masturbation honestly with my son when he was 10 and showed him how it would be done. He was surprised to see what happens when I orgasmed. He started regularly masturbating after that and experienced many "dry orgasms" until he was 12, when he shot his first load.
I'll just keep very open feelings about sex and masturbation with my children and allow them to ask me any questions. I will answer them with my own experiences and always emphasize safe practices. I want to do this because my parents' attitudes were like this and have made me very comfortable.
Location: Houston, Tx Age: 17
Well, my parents never discussed sex or masturbation with me at all! I learnt most of the "the birds and the bees" subject from Sex Ed at school a year or so ago, and when you're in high school you tend to pick it up fairly quickly with all the older kids around! I can honestly say that after my first year of high school, I knew pretty much all there is to know about sex etc!
As for discussing it with my children later in life....I'm not really sure how I'm going to handle it! I know I definitely should be open and discuss it in depth with them but I think it will be really embarassing and awkward for them just as much as me!
I would really like to be one of those parents that's really open and whose kids could talk to them about anything but I don't really think this will ever happen! But I suppose I will cross that bridge when I come to it and see which opportunities present themselves at the time.
Location: UK Age: 15
masturbate with them
I'm going to make sure my kids are comfortable talking to me about anything like my parents have. When I started wondering what masturbating was and how it happened I went to my dad and he shamelessly explained everything to me. I feel if you have an open heart with your kids it shouldn't be a hard or awkward conversation.
Location: reno,nv Age: 21
first, i would try to catch my kids masturbating. Either by barging in randomly, or 10 minutes after they go to bed. Then i would talk about it etc... If they didnt do it i would bring it up by having the "talk" and gradually in the conversation bringing it up casually. Good luck!
Location: idaho Age: 44
Well I would start with have you ever masturbated or played with your self ? If no.... I would say well it is when you play with your penis. When you stroke it up and down making you fill a great filling when you climax. Which ether have cum with is white or clear stuff that comes out of the penis, or you just fill like a sensation . Depending on the age of your son. I have spoke with my 10 yr old about it all ready and he said "dad i all ready do that " He had found this site with out me telling him about it...
Location: Houston Tx Age: 27
I'm not sure, exactly. First of all, it's almost a given that my children would be adopted (I'm gay), but that might not actually be a factor. I've had virtually no talk with my parents about masturbation, but I doubt they care; they accepted my coming-out very well. Anyway, coming from my own experience, I might let them come to me if they had questions, and I would give them the best answer that I could. Of course, despite being an awkward situation, when I know they're going through puberty, and I notice the signs, I might approach them and tell them that it's a perfectly healthy thing to do, and give them the honest truth about it. Either way, I would never discourage them from masturbating.
Location: Montana Age: 16
I am circumcised. When i was 13 I asked my parents if I could get my penis circumcised and they were alright with it. honestly I think that its the right thing to do. I love having it circumcised, the feeling of jacking off with it cut is the best feeling in the world. After talking to my younger brother about it he got it done also. He said that jacking off is so much better too. My girlfriend said the sex is good too.
I am circumcised. When i was 13 I asked my parents if I could get my penis circumcised and they were alright with it. honestly I think that its the right thing to do. I love having it circumcised, the feeling of jacking off with it cut is the best feeling in the world. After talking to my younger brother about it he got it done also. He said that jacking off is so much better too. My girlfriend said the sex is good too.
yes when they get old enough i will teach them in a secure way
Age: 14 Location: oregon, usa
I will probebly just wait till I suspect something and explain to them that it's perfectly natural and something that should be done in private. Then right after that will come the dreaded "sex" talk. Haha. Lol
Location: Georgia Age: 16
If and when I have children I'll talk to them about it. I'd tell them it's ok, normal, everyone does it, I did/do it, daddy does/did it too (I'm gay). We're happy and nothing to be frightened of. If they had any questions to ask, maybe show them (especially if it was a boy, a girl would just be awkward to explain it too) how, etc. I'd also be very open with my body because I see nothing wrong with the human body. It's a beatiful thing. Though I'd tell them there are a time and place for everything and explain when appropriate.
Location: Texas Age: 21
most likely yes, if i have the opertunity to have a boy, if its a girl ill leave it up thier mom
Location: NM Age: 13
Yes,I am male and have fantasized of laying on the bed watching TV and my mom would come over and sit on the edge of the bed and ask me if I was feeling OK while starting to caress me on the belly and cock,then pulls it out and sucks me off.Ihave an incredible orgasm to this.I have also replaced mom with my older sister.I have a friend who is black that I would love to suck off,that may still happen.When I cum I usually eat it,the thought of eating it whuile masturbating is a real turn on.I have also masturbated i have also masturbated our male dog and tasted his sperm,it tastes suprisingly the same as mine
I plan on simply telling my child what it is and if I do realize that they are or I walk in on them then I would leave them alone and speak to them another time about it and if they confessed I would tell them that its normal and that used to so they don't feel alienated
Location: Reading,England Age: 19
I Plan on telling my Child/children about it because i want them to know its ok and that its perfectly normal
Location: Chicago Age: 15
I plan on sitting down with him when he starts to go throught puberty or if i notice him doing it at a younger age and tell him that it is natural and tell him about the changes he is going through
Age: 17 Location: Texas
As a healthy and normal thing that should be done in private. I wouldn't approve of porn, but I'd be a hypocrite if I had a problem with them letting off some steam.
Location: USA Age: 27
It is in my opinion to be truthful to my child. From the beginning I think all questions should be answered. I do not believe 2 – 6 year old child should be given the complete details but given an answer that he or she may understand in a simple way. As the child becomes older more detail can be given. As far as masturbation the child should be told that it is a private thing to do and should not be done in public. That it is ok in their own room or the bathroom. It is my believe, if you are honest and open with your child all other avenues will be open for them to ask for advise later in life and not feel inhibited to ask anything.
Location: Texas Age: 50
My parents never talked to me about masturbation so I had many unanswered questions when I was younger. Because of that, I want to be able to talk openly with my kids about masturbation, and provide them with the materials they might need.
Location: California Age: 16
I plan to encourage it in private, and to maybe bring it up, but not to pressure him or her into it.
Age: 14 Location: United States
great question. i dont have kids but... i know for me it was self-discovery. so parents can keep in mind if they don't discuss it - its going to happen sooner or later. perhaps include masturbation in with their birds & bees talk.
Location: california Age: 55
I will never discuss my children about masturbationg
Location: Egypt Age: 21
I won't. They'll find out the same way I did, when someone decides to mention it when the school starts teaching sex ed.
Location: Canada Age: 17
Yes, and most likely at an early age. My parents never discussed it with me, they did give me the birds and the bees talk, much to my fathers dismay. All though middle school I heard guys talking about masturbation, but never took much interest. Then one day I decided to try, so I went in to the bathroom and did it. I was dissapointed that it took me this long to discover this wonderful practice. So I definately want my sons to be aware of masturbation as soon as they begin to take interest in things like sex.
Location: Texas Age: 15
I plan to talk to them when they get to middle school and let them know it's okay and nothing to be ashamed of and tar everyone, even thier own father, does it.
Location: Novi, Mi Age: 16
Although I dont plan on having kids, I would probably discuss how masturbation is perfectly normal and healthy when they turn 10 or eleven during the so called "birds and the bees" talk. However if I caught them masturbating at an earlier age I would probably discuss it with them at that point in time.
Location: Washington State Age: 23
Don't they'll figure it out
Location: Orlando Age: 24
Yes I plan on discussing masturbation with my male children not my daughters I I have any I'll let the wife handle that. I will sit them down at around the age of 11 ish and let them ask me questions about it and show them how and if they asked, we would masturbate together and maybe even eachother. I don't want them to feel awkward around me like how it is with my father... He never told me anything about puberty and I had to find it all put from some of my friends when they would ask me to mutually masturbate with them and I didn't know what that was.
Location: Las Vegas, NV Age: 15
Well,if I have boys I would tell them how to masturbate,probaly when they are 11 or 12,I will give them tissue and lubricant,and tell them if they ever need condoms,lube etc,they can ask me to get it for them.If I have girls I would probaly have my wife talk to them about it.
Location: Texas Age: 14
If I know they are doing it probably show them this site so they know what they are doing and don't get the wrong information.
Location: Nebraska Age: 13
I talked to my son about sex and masturbation as he would ask questions. When he was at the age of 10 I was going to tell him more. One day around the age of 10 he walked in on me masturbating and wanted to know what I was doing, so I told him. After that it was easy to talk about it. I always made sure he had lube.
Location: NC Age: 55
I plan on just letting my child know that its ok to do it and completely normal and to not stress over it.
Location: South Carolina Age: 15
I don't plan on having kids, but if I do I would definitely like a boy. I would tell him about it, and if he needed anything would help him out. I wouldn't make it like the birds and the bees talking. I would just be cool about it, and not make it awkward.
Location: Brockville, Ontario, Canada Age: 15
My dad never talked to me about masturbation or sex, but I am defiantly going to have that talk with my son. (if I have one) Probably somewhere around his 13-14th birthday when he begins puberty, I'll tell him that when he wants to be alone, he wont be bothered, a closed door means absolute privacy, masturbation is completely normal, and everyone does it. I will also do the one thing my dad did to me which was give me a package of condoms to eliminate the nervousness of going into the store to buy them.
Location: Michigan Age: 17
Ill break out the KY lube and show him how its done. Then i can demonstrate on him and make him cum.
Location: New York Age: 18
I don't have children, but if I did I would discuss masturbation with them roughly the same way as my parents discussed it with me. It was my mother who mentioned it. She had a "quiet word" with me one day after school (this was when I was about 13 and before I had started masturbating). She said that now I was growing up I might find I sometimes wet the bed. She told me this was normal and I was not to be embarrased about it, and she wouldn't mind. As time went by I started to wet the bed occasionally with wet dreams, and then about a year later I started it masturbating myself, and that wetted the bed too. My mother was as good as her word - she never batted an eyelid or even said anything ever about the stains on my sheets pyjamas. So you see as a result of the way my mother told me and what she said, I never felt embarrased about masturbating and I regarded it as perfectly normal and healthy... which is a pretty good way to feel about masturbation.
Location: N.W. London Age: 25+
I am not a parent, but this is something that my parents never discussed with me even though they knew I did it. I'm pretty sure I would NOT have even felt comfortable discussing it. However, I think that if a situation occurred where the parent caught the child that that would be a perfect opportunity to let the child know that it is a normal and natural thing. Of course, the parent would step away and allow the child privacy and time to finish. For me, masturbation was, and still is, a very important part of my life. I can truly say that masturbation kept me out of trouble (e.g. promiscuity) and relieved my sexual energy. I don't think parents should be judgmental or discourage it. Allow the child privacy and let them know that they are there if they have any questions.
Location: Plano, TX Age: 45
If i had a boy i would approach him the way i would have liked to have been approached at his age
If he was between 13 and upwards i would put a site like this in bookmarks or on fav's on his computer and leave a note on the link with some kind of explanation as to why the link is there. That way he could learn for himself and not feel too embarrassed.Also if he had any question's he would know he could ask since i put that link there in the first place.
If he was younger i would explain masturbating to him the same way i would explain puberty, that its a part of growing up and explain why he does it and why its a good thing not a bad thing, i would stress to him at any age that it was natural to be masturbating but i would try hard not to embarrass him by going into any detail.
If it were a girl i have no idea, do girls even have an interest in Masturbating at a young age?
I would probably try a similar approach just with a few differences.
Location: Scotland Age: 16
I'll hope that they figure it out on their own, but if I have to, I wish to point them to this website, and leave them some "helpful" items if they so choose.
Location: NC Age: 16
I dont have kids yet but I'd like to to think I'd do what my dad did, when I was 12 he gave me some sex manuals, some porn magazines, some lube and he put a lock on my bedroom door.
He said that everbody did it and I should have fun and that if I had any questions I could always ask.
Personally the manuals were the best bit because they covered everything, which helped me with my own sexuallity.
Location: uk Age: 30
I do not plan to have any myself, but I can still have an opinion, can't I? Anyway, I think I would probably let them discover by accident, since that's what usually happens. I think I would focus more on not discouraging it to be honest, to make sure they knew it was a healthy thing to not, and not to be ashamed of.
Location: Plymouth Age: 18
My mother gave me a book which said masturbating was okay, just don't overdo it. But when she saw me doing it one night when I didn't realize I was, she pulled the cover off me and said, "I thought that's what you were doing!" After I knew what it was, I asked my father what circumcision was just to get him to talk, and he went around in circles and didn't even show his uncircumcision which I'd seen while changing at a swimming pool. I didn't want to raise my sons that way. One was not cut; the other was because I really didn't know how bad it was. Anyhow, guess I should have used a broomstick or something, but actually showed them how to put a condom(rubber in those days) on, told them I hoped they'd wait until they were married for sex as I had, but okay to masturbate and if I came in the room when they were doing it, don't stop, just keep going. Anyhow, I told them if they just couldn't wait, to be sure to use a rubber. This all started when I saw them looking at a machine in a restroom that sold them while on a trip.Our state evidently didn't allow that. My wife was upset when she saw our older son's billfold with a rubber in it. I told her I'd carried one when I was his age, never used it,or needed to,until we married, just made me feel grown up.grown
Age: 74 Location: KY
He discussed it with us.
Location: USA Age: 46
I have no children. In that way the question does not apply. But, a few times I stumbled on boys going at it. I'd back off immediately and tell them later (this is the hard part due to embarrassment) it was OK, and he was normal, and I wasn't going to blab. It was very awkward each time.
Location: MN in the US Age: 65
I intend to have a good environment to talk about difficult subjects, like masturbation and sex. Though I don't intend to have children ANY time soon.
Age: 16 Location: Texas
I would have a frank discussion about masturbation when he/she is at least 9-10 years old. That is the age in which a child needs about, not only masturbation, but sex in general in my opinion.
Location: Atlanta, Ga Age: 19
My son is 8 years old and I recently caught him playing with himself. He was kind of scared, but I told him it's okay as long as it's something he does in private. I assured him that it's a normal thing for boys to do, and that virtually every boy does it...especially after he hits puberty.
Location: Las Vegas, NV Age: 36
I will not discuss it. But I will do everything needed to point to the direction of this site and any information that I deem useful to elicit their fantasy. The Joy of masturbation is also in doing it for the first time as your own discovery. I personally find perversion in discussing it. However an open conversation about life in general should promote healthy habits, sex included.
Location: Montreal Age: 33
I plan on telling them how to do it when I have kids. I am now 13 and my dad still hasn't said anything about it, I have been jacking off for 2 years now.
Location: Colorado Age: 13
I use Liquid Silk Water Base Lub Love it
I don't think it's really needed... my parents never discussed it with me, most people figure it out on their own.
Location: Chicago Age: 18
I will most likely discuss masturbation with my children. Masturbation is a normal and healthy aspect of the human body. Masturbation should not be a taboo subject, just because it's sexual in nature. I masturbate at least twice a day, and I don't feel ashamed about it at all.
Location: Raleigh, N Age: Aaron
I suppose it depends in part on how many children I have. Allow me to explain: when I was 10, my older sister taught me how to masturbate (actually, she gave me my first orgasm), and a few years later I passed on the tradition to my younger sister. This...really brought us closer together, and if I had more than one daughter (or son, for that matter, in which case I'd let my husband do the talking) I might instruct, or at least explain the principles of masturbation to the eldest, and suggest that she should teach her sister if she was comfortable doing so. I think that is a much better idea than what my parents did with myself and my siblings, which was just assume everything was being covered in school (it was not, but thankfully we learned more than well enough on our own).
Location: Chicago Age: 23
I plan on having a great relationship with my children this way issues like this wont be so awkward. I plan on just being blunt with him and telling him what it is and how to go about it and that it is a normal thing. Now if I have a daughter that all going to be on her mother!
Location: Chapel Hill, NC Age: 19
I plan on "misplacing" a link to JackinWorld on my son's bed.
Location: Colorado Age: 34
Yes, of course I'll tell them. i kind of wish Mum and Dad had with me. But I wont tell them all awkward and such 'This is your penis. When you rub the penis, it may feel pleasurable.' I'd rather sit them down and talk to 'em like my mates. Just say 'Look, if you want to peel your banana, s'alright with me. Just as long as you dont do it in public I couldn't care less. You want some lube I'll head to the market. But from now on you're washing your own sheets!"
Hell, I'll even tell my daughter. 'Hey, you wanna dig a trench, fine by me. Just go somewhere where I wont see you, and no one else will.'
Age: 13 Location: Aurora, CO
i don't, my parents never talked with me about it and im just fine
Location: jay oklahoma Age: 16
I'm not sure that I plan on discussing it with my children. It depends on who my children are and what their personalities are like. I think I'll focus more on having them be open individuals who enjoy their bodies—hopefully healthy sexual habits, including ideas about masturbation, will stem from that.
Location: Canada Age: 20
Yes I do, but only with the boys. I do not feel it appropriate, nor do I feel qualified, to speak with a daughter about self-pleasure. Sometimes I wish my dad would've talked with me specifically about jerking off. I know he did not approve as our family was raised strictly to believe this is wrong...but he was a male afterall and probably knew it would happen anyway; so he split the difference and never mentioned it to me. As for me, I hope I can tell my son(s) all the reasons people think it is wrong and then be fairly honest about my own masturbation habits so he can make up his own mind and know that no matter what, he is not alone in whatever opinions/habits he forms. I also plan to be very open with communal nudity between any sons I have b/c my father was and this helped me feel a bond as a male with my father that let me know I was man enough (although this was in retrospect...as a young teen I was not so sure). I hope my son is always comfortable being nude around me (when necessary) or even other men b/c I was not okay around other males nor my dad ever since around age 10 and I think he felt hurt that I had something to hide from him like I was a shy little girl. Really it was because I thought I had a smaller penis (well I kind of do) and I didn't want him to be ashamed of me. I am fine now, but I regret being so sensitive that I would not even let him in the bathroom if I was in the shower. All my other brothers were fine around each other and my dad nude (as far as I can remember) and in an odd way I felt left out. Thankfully, remembering his modeling how a man should be fine to be nude around other men with no sexual connotation has helped me grow out of my irrational anxiety (that and the military). Now I am open despite being below average. I also have no problem discussing beating off with anyone who is of like mind b/c every guy does it.
Location: PA Age: 31
I think I wont explain to my children about masturbation and let them find out on their own and let them enjoy it like i do. I think once you know a parent knows what you do you might feel guilty and not enjoy as much as you should.
Location: Virginia Age: 15
i already have.. they're both boys.. one is 21, other is 15. I told them that it's normal for a guy to "jerk off" and I didn't have a problem w/that as long as i didn't find the evidence anywhere.
Location: NYS Age: 46
I plan on telling them when they are 12 that they may feel urges which are completely fine to explore. Everyone does it and its a natural part of life. I will tell him that he shouldn't let it rule his life though since it can create bad practices in life, which I have gone through. Hopefully ill teach him that its fine and he shouldn't be ashamed but to just be careful. I don't care, his mother, if shes around, won't care and its just some good old fashion fun. He will learn about the dangers of pornography though and ill hopefully instill in him the belief that he shouldn't watch pornography until later when he can understand it better.
Hope this makes sense. I'd just want the best for my kid and to have him know more than i did at that time.
Location: Oklahoma Age: 18
I don't think that I'll ever truly sit down and talk about it with them. It seems like such an awkward topic to really discuss in detail-and I know I wouldn't have wanted my dad (or my mom) to talk about masturbation with me when I was eleven or twelve. I'll probably buy them a book on puberty/sexuality that contains a section on masturbation, and hope that they get the hint.
tell them about jackinworld because i dont think any kid enjoys (the talk)from there parents so if they find it out them selves i think it would be bette nd say to them if you have any questions ask
Location: new york Age: 16
I will probably tell them it is okay. There is nothing wrong with it.
Location: Colorado USA Age: 14
I don't think that I'll ever truly sit down and talk about it with them. It seems like such an awkward topic to really discuss in detail-and I know I wouldn't have wanted my dad (or my mom) to talk about masturbation with me when I was eleven or twelve. I'll probably buy them a book on puberty/sexuality that contains a section on masturbation, and hope that they get the hint.
I do plan on telling my Boys about the wonders of Masturbation, I might even go as far as showing em how but It would be my first son who i show and let him show it to his younger siblings.
Location: California Age: 16
I plan on discussing it openly. If it keeps them from having intercourse, what is the problem?
Although, it might be awkward to talk to a daughter about that. I'll leave that to my wife.
I'm sure there will be several sexual talks from my kids, if and when I have them. I haven't yet had any sort of sex talk from my parents.
Discussion would probably start as soon as they start asking questions, or I notice that they are masturbating, or catch in the act.
If one of those three started happening, I would first ask any questions that they had, and talk about all of the relevant stuff. Although, depending on age, it would probably stay strictly on the specific subject of sexuality, and not venture to other places, until later.
At around age 9 or 10, I would have no problem sitting sons down and talking about masturbation, and how it is an "okay" thing to do. I would probably refer them to this website.
In any-case, keep jackin!
Location: USA Age: 14
Already did. There wasn't a planned date, time and place. When the situation or context was right, either I brought up the topic or the kids did. The discussions were kept light and non-judgmental. The discussions usually spent the most time on inviting friends to engage in or responding to friend's invitations. And does mutual masturbation with same sex friends mean you're gay or they're gay. The kids all survived and went on to raise families of their own. Had THE discussion with some of the grandchildren and great-grandchildren, but left it to their parents unless the kids brought up the subject.
Location: Kansas Age: 70
If I have girls, a positive female influence in their life will have to tell them. If I have a boy or two, I will set them down around the age of 11 or 12 and explain the changes they're going through and tell them about masturbation and that it's very healthy and normal. If it's still around (hopefully!) I will also show them JackinWorld! My Dad was very open to talking about masturbation with me and bought me lube until I was like 18. Haha. Good Dad! I'll do the same for my boys.
Location: Illinois Age: 23
Probably when I have kids, I'll go over the whole "SEX" thing to them once their old enough. In depth, so nothing would be confusing. And if they started learning on their own and I found out, I'd just explain what was going on.
Location: Ohio Age: 17
Yes. I feel that my children should know that it is okay to be able to masturbate and not feel like it is a crime to do only in secret. Of course, it will help gain trust to because I will respect their privacy too. My parents kind of seemed to look down on that sort of thing so I do it in secret. Don't want my kids to feel the same way.
Location: Missouri Age: 18
I would Just tell them that it fine that they do it and that its totally fine for you and its a faze your going through and id say that i did it when i was his age.
Age: 15 Location: usa
I told my kids. I have 2 sons, That is was perfectly alright and nomal to masturbate. I gave them the talk after I caught both of them masturbating. They thought they were in trouble. I told them "No you are not in trouble, did it feel good" They responded yes. Then I said "Why would you get in trouble for something that feels good" "All boys and men do it and it is natural and healthy. They asked "Do you do it dad" I responded yes and you don't have to be ashamed or embarrassed."
Location: Ohio Age: 37
I don't think we need to. We have one very adventurous 13 year old boy we know knows more about sex and sexual acts than me and my wife! A 14 year old boy who we have seen in the act at least 7 times and has explained to me that it was healthy and showed me this site (ah, they grow up so fast) and a seventeen year old girl who basically told us she masturbates. We're set, good luck to all the parents out there who have these talks!
Location: Ireland Age: 44
Talking to them about it.
Location: USA Age: 18
We'll cross that bridge when we come to it.
Location: NI Age: 31
If I ever have children, I will have the mother explain masturbation to the girl(s) and I will explain masturbation to the boy(s). I believe its an important way for everyone to get rid of their urges.
Location: Seattle, WA Age: 18
I'm gonna be open about it and tell them not to be guilty and to do it whenever, just clean up.
Location: West Virginia, USA Age: 13
Im Not
Location: Canada Age: 25
By being completely honest. Telling them everyone does it or will do it and that they will too. I will probably tell them how you do it, where and how to clean up afterwards. I will tell them nothing is wrong with doing and that I even approve of their using pornography (because they will anyway). I will also explain not to choke yourself and that fantasies are just fantasies and that even straight guys think about other guys sometimes. Then I will answer any questions they have.
Location: Kentucky Age: 14
Yes, because they should know what we know. That masterbating is perfectly fine and normal thing to do.
Location: Addison Age: 15
I suppose part of the fun of masturbation is discovering it yourself, so I'll let them do just that. But if they have any questions further in, I'll be sure to answer them as best I can, and be completely tolerent and open about it.
Age: 13 Location: Texas
Let me get back to you on this one after I find a spouse, marry, and have children. Given my age, I'd better get started immediately.
Location: Somewhere in Time Age: 69
We have had several conversations about my sons sexuality, and how natural it all is, that it is not something to be ashamed of nor feel guilty at and over when used appropriately (no unwanted touching, respect for themselves and their friends, etc) - just like anything else in their lives.
No big deal.
I did make one big mistake though. During a trip to an island, I failed to tell them to make sure they took a good shower before taking care of needs. They survived, although there were a few days of discomfort and, uhm, chastity :-) Cannot tell your kids everything, about each and every situation and circumstance, gotta leave much for them to live and learn - certainly I did not do it on purpose, didn't even think about it. Oh well, they are okay :-)
Location: USA Age: 40
I plan on being very open in talking about puberty and masturbation and listen to any questions they would have and respond to the best of my abilities. I hope to have a really open relationship with them.
Location: Canada Age: 15
I'd let them find out on their own but if they ask me about it i'll give them a straight forward answer
'Cus there aeint no shame in the game
Location: Haw River north carolina Age: 14
if they ask then ill tell them anything they want to know
Location: New Zealand Age: 15
I will tell them that everyone does it and it is a perfectly natural thing yo do.
Location: Texas Age: 22
I plan to keep my sons uncircumsised, so that they can make their own choice of what they want. I want to start off by answering any questions he has about how babies are made, or anything really, so that we have a very open line of communication. I also plan to spend a lot of time with him going camping and shooting hoops, so we have a bond. When he tells me, or I notice that he is changing, I will talk to him about masturbation. I will give him basic techniques and what to expect. Maybe when he is older, I will give him a condom to try, even though I will clearly state that sex before marriage is prohibited. I will give him lube too, and give him any advice he wants.
Location: Ohio Age: 15
I BETTER not have any children! LMAO
Actually, 25 years ago he brought up how "good" it felt when he cleaned himself (he has his foreskin). We figured that was as good of a time as any for "the talk". After that he kept lotion and tissues in his bedroom. No big deal.
Location: Montana USA Age: 56
Honestly. I imagine that, like most children, they will be highly interested in all things sexual. Positive sexuality is really the only way to go, so I might as well just tell them about masturbation. 'Son, your penis is your friend. Play with it whenever you want to. Just not in public.' (for a daughter I'd just replace penis with clitoris...and probably let my wife cover that speech.). I've noticed that uncircumcised boys seem to be more sexually involved (with themselves) at an earlier age, and since my children would definitely be uncircumcised (growing up with a foreskin had its drawbacks, but those are totally cancelled out by the amazingness of having one in adulthood), I'd expect them to be equally interested in the wonderful things and feelings their bodies can produce. I'd probably buy various sex-education manuals (and just masturbation manuals, sex-help books, etc) and leave those in places where they could find them. And of course answer any questions they asked.
Location: Indiana Age: 24
Honestly, I don't. My parents never had that talk with me and I figured everything out just fine. Personally, I don't understand why it's even a talk you need to have. Safe sex, that's a talk I understand. Don't do drugs, no drinking and driving - that all makes sense. Masturbation talk not so much...
Location: USA Age: 18
eplain that its normal and most people do it including me.
Location: england Age: 29
I will drop my pants snd show them!
I would tell them that it's normal, safe, and nothing to feel guilty about. I would also tell them that some kids like to experiment with friends, which is nothing to be ashamed of.
Location: Pennsylvania, USA Age: 20
I'd say "I Do it too, it's fine, funner with friends on women if you try."
Location: Minnesota Age: 14
i plan on being very open with them about it, let them now its a natural thing, but it should be done in private. basically i want to let them know that there will be an open door and they can come to me about anything, even if they need a thing of lube or a quick talk. plus i will let them know about this website!
Location: Syracuse, New York Age: 16
I think that I'll do the same thing that my parents did: give me a book explaining puberty that includes a part about masturbation.
Location: United States Age: 16
A matter-of-fact approach is a good start. When 99% of kids masturbate (boys at least, maybe a LITTLE less for girls), anything else would be like trying to claim there's something wrong with the sun coming up everyone morning.
Location: US Age: Old!
When they are old enough, I plan to sit them down and talk about it openly. Its healthy and i wouldn't want them to think that it is wrong. I want them to understand that masturbating isn't wrong and that they can always come to me if they have questions.
Location: Toronto, Ontario Age: 16
I don't plan on disscusing masturbation with my kids. I plan to let them figure it out on their own, and if I catch them I will tell them how moderation is key to masturbation. I will also introduce them to this site so they can learn how to masturbate the right way and the fun way.
Age: 17 Location: Poughkeepsie, NY
I will show them this site!
Location: England Age: 44
I am beyond the age of child raising and had girls and no boys.But my father's approach to this question with me as a boy may provide an interesting if unorthodox slant on it. My mother died in a car crash when I was 10 leaving my father with me the only child. My reaction to her death was one of deep insecurity and the added impact of starting early puberty that summer (before my 11th birthday) made matters only worse. An intact foreskin led me into masturbation in early boyhood (maybe as young as 4)and with advent of hair and the change starting in my. genitals masturbation reached new levels of pleasure and frequency especially with onset of ejaclations soon after first sight of my pubic hair.And the object I masturbated to from the very start were occasional glimpses I'd had of my father naked and particularly of his large penis,heavy scrotum and thick pubes.The highlight of those events was the image of him emerging from a shower with a massive boned erection - wildly vivid LIVING PORN etched in my boy mind! Well, of course the obvious of all this was my father catching me in the midst of one of those masturbations.He stood behind me in the door of my room for sometime I guess but interrpted just as it was getting close to one of my new ejaculations.My heart leaped into my mouth but he simply said "excuse me - finish what you've started" and he left.Of course I was shocked out of my erection let alone finishing and when I'd put my underpants I went out on my way to the kitchen. There sat my father in his bathrobe at the kitchen table.He spoke of puberty and all the changes and feelings I was experiencing and said the act of masturbation was a natural part of it all.He simply said I was free to do it as I wanted but to keep it privately at home. He asked if I had finished it and I said no. He said I should not suppress it and could go right ahead and finish.I said but I now get messy white stuff when I do. He explained about semen and sperm and how clean and pure it really is and that it was almost pure protein.He said if it made me feel better since my mother died he had also begun to masturbate again and saw no reason why we should hide from each other when we did.He asked what I thought about that. My heart was back in my mouth and I told him that seeing him naked was the image in my mind when I did it and he laughed and let his robe slide open and said let's do it together then. He got up and took a large beach towel from the hall closet and spread it out on the living room sofa; took off his robe and sat down naked and invited me over.His penis was trobbing erect and the large scrotum rested on the towel under him. Naked too I sat next to him, thighs touching with my erection stiffer than it had ever been and before I'd hardly begun to manipulate the foreskin over and back off the head my little ejaculation popped out on my belly.In absolute awe I sat there and watched my father expertly demonstrate the technique of masturbating his over-sized (9+)uncircumcied penis,prolonging the masturbation and building the ejaculation by edging and manipulating scrotum and perinium.Getting up finally he took me by the hand into the bathroom and standing over the basin with me watching at his side, ejaculated with enormous force and.volume burying the stopped drain under a final pool of cloudy white semen.
Location: Maryland Age: middle age
Show them how its done!
of course i will if i have a son. but if i have a daughter, my future wife will have to discuss it with her. maybe they will be directed to jackinworld if its still around.
Location: Ohio Age: 13
yes. i think that children should be encouraged to masturbate or know about masturbation. it is a healthy thing to do and i will for sure talk to my kids about it. why not?
Location: Maryland Age: 18
I plan on showing them on myself. I wish my dad had done this for me.
Location: Nebraska Age: 14
I plan on telling them everything they will need to know at age 12. I'll tell my son about masturbation and show him how to do it and maybe even provide him with lube. I'll tell them that they can come to me with any question they might have and not to be ashamed of masturbation that it's completely normal.
Location: Louisiana Age: 14
Maaybe? I'm not entirely sure. I'll...mention it probably. Subtly when they're old enough to understand, and sort of just prod them in the way of thinking it's perfectly normal and okay. I'm not sure if I'd have the guts to actually discuss it. This is all assuming I have a son. If I have a daughter, it's my wife's job. Haha!
But I might re-consider. Later. As of right now, I can only see myself making jokes about it, and hinting (super obvious hinting) that I did it/do it, and that it's fine. If they approach me first (I hope) then of course I could totally have a discussion about it. I'm hoping to be the dad, my kids aren't afraid to come to about things. Even if it is about sex or Masturbation. Maybe then they'll ask me, personally, and I can explain, or help them out.
Location: Texas Age: 17
i will definatley just come out and talk about it. it will not be a big deal.
Age: 14 Location: kansas
That there is nothing wrong with it, and its normal.
Location: colorado Age: 27
I will fuck them so they dont fuck other people
I don't have any children at the moment (and don't plan on it any time soon) but, when I do, I will provide answers to any of the questions that they may have about masturbation.
Location: NS, Canada Age: 17
as soon as they turn 13, i plan on putting it perfectly clear and making it as comfortable as possible
Location: USA Age: 15
First, I'd only talk about it with my son(s) and let the wifey talk to the girl(s). I'd be open about it from the get-go, before he even has a chance to discover it on his own. Coming from a conservative family, I felt very stifled in my personal development. I don't want my kids to feel the same way. So I'll tell him it's natural, that all his friends do it too, but not to carried away with it.
Location: US Age: 24
No. If I catch them I'll act like I didn't know what they were doing. I don't wanna make them feel worse then they already do.
Age: 18 Location: WI
I don't think I will every really tell them, unless they specifically ask me (what my dad did). Though if asked I will just talk about how it is natural, but you shouldn't do it constatntly (could chafe!)
Location: Canada Age: 18
Just tell them that what they are doing is OK so long as they don't do it in public.
Location: Somewhere Age: 17
well i would tell them that its alright and if they ever need a condom and a room just ask
Location: so cal Age: 15
I have never really thought about that, but I guess when I feel they are old enough, either my wife or myself (depending on the gender) will discuss it openly. I want my kids to have open lines of communication with me.
Location: Wisconsin Age: 16
I dont know really, I will probably tell them its a normal, healthy, thing to do and that i did it when i was their age,
Location: USA Age: 18
I'll be pointing my future children to this site and others (Jill Diddler perhaps if it's ever finished and when I have a daughter). Teaching the facts and health benefits and urging them to ignore close-minded people. Then I'll wish them luck and fun and instruct them to close their doors and engage in this joy responsibly and courteously to those around them.
Location: Detroit, MI Age: 21
I think that talking about masturbation with your children is one of the "duties" of fatherhood, so I'll be glad to discuss it with my son when he'll ask me about it. I'll explain him what it is, tell him it's alright, answer all his questions, and talk about my own experience if he'll want to know. I'm sure it's the right thing to do, because my father never ever talked about it with me while I was growing up, and I think he should have had
Location: Italy Age: 21
i wud be very open about it and wudnt care if he did it cuz every guy does it when there a teen so why pretend to not know
Location: Ca Age: 16
I plan on telling them (well, my son/s...my wife can deal with our daughter/s if she wants to!) the basics of masturbation, when they are about 8-10 years old. This includes what it is, why you should do it, how to do it, and when (or when not to!) do it.
Location: New York Age: 16
just being straight forward about what to do
Location: California Age: 14
I have 5 boys. At the onset of puberty I say each one down and discussed what masturbation is, the stupid stories they might hear and encouraged them to enjoy themselves knowing that it was normal, good exercise and felt good. I suspect that they had already discovered masturbation but waited until they had the ability to understand - and enjoy - the pleasure they could receive.
Location: Arizona Age: 65
In a positive light, so they have no negative feelings associated with it. Early on too, but not too early. Maybe just before puberty starts, approximately, of course.
Location: Oregon Age: 17
I am not sure but really anxious to see what others are going to do.
Location: NE Age: 35
Subtly pointing them in the right direction!
Location: US Age: 33
I plan on telling my male children that it's normal and that most guys do it. My dad never did any of that with me so when i started doing it i felt guilty and i want to prevent that for my children in the future.
Location: USA Age: 14
When my kids are old enough to start learning about sex and sexual activities, about 12 or so, I'm just going to bring it up with them. If I have sons perhaps i'll just show them a short, short, porn movie when they're that age and ask them how it made them feel and what they want to do / if they have ever done anything about it. And if they tell me they have done it before, i'll tell them it's fine and if they want to talk about it we can, if they don't want to talk about it i'll tell them not to be ashamed and just put a sock on their door everytime they're going to masturbate, or tell me when they're going to so I know. If they've never really done it before but maybe tried it once or twice I'll explain to them that it's fine and perfectly naturally, and perhaps show them this site or a few moves I myself know. I don't want them to feel ashamed or have to keep it secret, so if they ask me for a male sex toy or something i'll gladly get them one. It's not wrong a a human to want to pleasure them self. If I have a daughter i'm going to have to make my wife handle that one.
Location: Florida Age: 18
well to start I will Absolutely talk about masturbation, I hated growing up with no input, or mention of the word. I would probably first tell them what it is, and even show them how, I mean I got to remind my oldest son who still has the biggest dick in the house. But after that I would probably send them to Jackinworld they taught me how to enjoy myself!
Age: 16 Location: NY
I'd probably wait until they're about 11 1/2 then leave a book about it all on their bed. But one that praises and teaches masturbation. If it were a boy I'd write in the JackinWorld website address on the cover.
Location: Australia Age: 14
I plan on telling my children that it's a completely normal and healthy activity that you shouldn't be ashamed of. If they have any questions regarding masturbation, I will be happy to answer all of them (as long as I know them obviously).
I plan on telling my children that it's a completely normal and healthy activity that you shouldn't be ashamed of. If they have any questions regarding masturbation, I will be happy to answer all of them (as long as I know them obviously).
Location: Ohio Age: 17
Because my father was terrible about teaching me about sex and masturbation, I will make sure that I will not repeat his actions (or lack there of). I will try to teach my children (hopefully sons) about sex and masturbation as soon as possible, telling them that it is perfectly natural and normal. When I do get married, hopefully my wife will also help me explain this subject if we have a girl. But I will explain to my children how much masturbation has played a role in my life, and also how I still masturbate (being pretty sure I will still masturbate at that age).
Location: Colorado Age: 15
when i have any kids and they ask me about it ill tell if its a boy that is if its a girl leave it to ma girl freind lol
Location: UK Age: 17
Well i will wait for them to find out on their own.
Location: Alabama Age: 70
I think all the truth from the begining like my parents did with me and not try to stop them but tell them there is a place and time... then I figured out what the heck they were talking about! NOW I'M on it. :}
Location: oregon Age: 14
Well, when the time was right I would tell them that masturbation is normal and that everyone masturbates sometimes. Also, if they had any questions about masturbation, I would try to answer them the best I could. Generally, I would try to be as open as possible about it, unlike my parents who told me practically nothing.
Location: Finland Age: 34