Where I grew up, in a very conservative state, things like masturbation were not even talked about. It seems to me that Idaho might be a bit on the homophobic side. Also, for some reason, some people have the unhealthy attitude that if you masturbate you are gay, when obviously as many straight people masturbate as gays do. At least in southeastern Idaho, that is the attitude. I never did have shower experiences with other guys because no one ever took a shower in P.E. I don't know how other people pulled it off without smelling horrible, because I had a terrible time with B.O. I'm pretty sure that the unsaid notion about the showers was that if you took a shower naked in front of other guys, you were gay.
My first masturbation experience is a blur to me now, but I think I recall that it happened after a bath. As a little kid that was one of the things I loved; I remember always playing with the toys, like boats and ducks and stuff. Then one day I remember touching my penis and getting an erection. I hadn't had any sex education yet, and when I touched it and it got bigger, it was the coolest thing. My penis soon became my best toy. I remember that it stayed big for quite some time, and I had the urge to rub myself against the tub. While this was an awkward position it still gave me joy. My first true masturbation experience didn't happen until about 6 months later, when after I got into bed, I thought about my penis getting bigger in the bathtub, and that was enough to start the blood flowing. Probably about 10 minutes later I felt my penis tense up, and this white goo flowed out of my penis. The feeling as we all know blew me away. I was hooked ever after. My method of masturbation for at least a year since that first orgasm involved mainly humping the bed, and trying to do it silently, lest anyone suspect what I was doing.
This pre-sex-ed humping actually made me think that sex somehow involved rubbing back and forth. It wasn't until I read a book my dad gave me, The Growing Up Book for Boys, that I learned about the insertion of the penis into the vagina. Then it finally clicked for me about how babies were made. Some people would say it's obvious, but to a little kid in a very conservative state, it wasn't. Like many other boys, all throughout growing up, after doing the deed I always felt dirty and shameful. I made many resolutions to quit masturbating. The longest I went was two months. I will say, though, that there's a fine line between a good habit and addiction. While masturbation rocks, it's not the only thing in life. A common attitude about addiction for addicts is that they know what they are doing is wrong, but they keep doing it. The first step toward a healthy masturbation life is to admit that it's human and it's cool. The masturbation myths said that horrible side-effects would occur; such things are not true, and believe it or not, masturbating is healthy for you. I like to use it to relieve stress.
As for attitudes about masturbation among some of my friends — I honestly don't know. Recently I told my best friend about it, and that in itself was hard to do. Growing up I had always wanted to ask him to find out if I was normal or some mixed-up freak. I really had this need to talk to other people about it; I just never found the chance to do it. One reason I never told my friends was because I was afraid I might lose their friendship. The predominant religion in my area teaches against masturbation. That causes some people to close their mind to other ways of thinking.
It's been only 6 months since I've been able to convince myself that masturbation is a normal activity. For years after doing it I would feel like slime. One of the reasons I never talked about it to my family was because I had found, through reading some books and other publications, that the Catholic Church was against masturbation. I was always resentful of being baptized in the first place, and then learning this I just decided to keep my masturbation sessions private. I'm currently going to be moving out soon and will be looking for a roommate. I have a couple of not-real-close friends, but people I hang out with sometimes, and would like to ask one of them. I know some are all right with violent and sexy movies, and I think they probably do masturbate, too. Honestly, though, it scares me to bring up the topic. I'm going to do it, though, because if you're going to live with another person you need to be comfortable with that person. I have always masturbated in private but wouldn't mind doing it with another guy if the situation arose.
One book that has really helped me elevate my masturbation sessions is the book Solo Sex by Dr. Harold Litten. It has helped me realize that the whole body is a sex organ. For many years the pleasure seemed to be concentrated on only my penis and balls and attaining that few seconds of ecstasy. The buildup to orgasm always felt good, but in my mind I had not allowed myself to enjoy it with my whole body. So my advice to other fellow masturbaters is let go of your inhibitions enjoy being male to its fullest extent. To this day I still enjoy the bed-humping method the most. I also like to use the "never-ending vagina," where I lube up real good and insert my penis into my hand and slide it down with the other on top and keep on repeating this action. For some time I think I had a mental block about masturbating lying on my back, because I could never achieve orgasm until I flipped over and humped. It would usually take only a few seconds. This only proves that the mind is really where it's all at. As far as my sex life goes, I haven't really had one yet, but I am looking for a girlfriend who enjoys masturbating as much as I do.
Regarding porn: I've watched it and masturbated to it many times and probably always will, but I always keep in mind that it is porno. I'm straight and so I like women to be treated with respect, and this is not always the case in these movies. So I am on the fence about porn. Some people have the attitude that they need to go full-throttle every time, and I just disagree. Whether you ejaculate or not, it's fun, so enjoy it. Porn often does create maximum arousal, but it's okay if you're not at maximum. I just enjoy it now with or without porn.
I've had only one really embarrassing moment. I was at the dorm in a college for one semester and my roommate walked in. (I had locked the door because he supposedly was going clubbing and wouldn't be back for like 5 hours.) I guess he forgot something, and I only had time to grab a blanket. Anyway, the smell gave it away, but he quickly left while I pretended to be asleep. (Yeah, right, with my heart pounding away in my chest.) I never did discuss it with him, and I tried to stay awake and be quiet and see if I might "catch" him, but I never did. So I never brought it up. I regret that now, but oh well.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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