I have been masturbating regularly for the last 42 years, except for the one-year period immediately after my marriage.
My early sexual experience started at age 5 or 6 with my girl playmates, both of them sisters and one or two years older than me. We used to play in the backyard, and the girls taught me to play what we called "father-mother play." That is, one of the girls and I would sit face-to-face with her skirt lifted and my shorts lowered, and I would rub my penis on her. I would keep it pressed for some time and change over to the other girl alternately. How the hell at that age we played that game, I am still wondering. Was it built into our genes?
I started masturbating at age 13. It happened on a day when all of my family members were away and I had some privacy. I was playing with my penis and some white sticky stuff came out, with unknown pleasure running along my body. And bang, I was initiated to the pleasurable world of masturbation, which continues to today.
Initially I had problems finding privacy from my crowded, 17-member combined family. My escape was to go to nearby fields or coconut grooves and find privacy to release twice or thrice in a week. On one such occasion I had a minor encounter with a grown-up man. On spotting me masturbating, he came near and offered help. As an adolescent boy I didn't know what to do; I got frightened and ran away from the scene.
Later years, after moving to a college hostel (I had a single room) I had free access to porn literature distributed among the boys — both in vernacular and English. This enhanced the regular routine of masturbation, and I could do it anytime I felt like it. Erection was assured like at the touch of a button, and I'd go into the act in a matter of minutes and get done with a good release. Sometimes I would get perturbed with my daily masturbation frequency, afraid I was spoiling my health. But I'd recover from that fast, and I'd be back on the job on hand — though maybe at a reduced rate for a while.
I married at age 27, and we had two lovely children, a daughter and a son. With regular sex available after marriage, I stopped masturbating for a year. Later the practice came back automatically, maybe due to inadequate regular sex, or the fact that I wanted to change my routine of weekly sex. And even today I supplement regular sex with good masturbation. The frequency pattern now has settled to weekend regular sex and a mid-week supplement dose of masturbation. Of course, my wife doesn't know about the masturbation, although she might have guessed due to my occasional over-staying in the bathroom or locking the bedroom door. She has never complained or mentioned it, though.
When I first started masturbating I could do it anytime, anywhere, my bare hands being the only requirement. I'd just wash it off or wipe it off with some old cloth. As the years have passed I've had to go through some rituals of getting into a horny mood by going through some porn material. I also need undisturbed privacy for a few hours. I lie down on a soft bed, preferably the room made darker if it is daytime. I keep a good lubricant ready and reachable near my bed (my preferred formula is coconut oil and cooking oil in the right mix). After a good masturbation session, my body needs complete rest. It cannot be hurried up.
Some 20 years back, I happened to read some books by Nancy Friday. Her books initiated me into the world of fantasy. It greatly enhanced my masturbation sessions with vivid fantasies which in real life I could not achieve. Fantasies of having sex with a variety of partners — young, old, rich, and poor, and in different situations — help give me a prolonged session ending with a tremendous ejaculation, sometimes much more satisfying than regular sex.
In the last 4 or 5 years, the Internet has brought more color to my masturbation practices with the freely available, high-quality porn material. And I give my thanks to JackinWorld, which has given me many tips to try different techniques, as well as make accessories using simple material available around the house. Two years back I bought a soft material sleeve at an adult store; I use it occasionally as an alternative to my hands. It gives a near-sex sensation.
Thanks for the opportunity to put down my thoughts on my favorite hobby, which is an wonderful gift of God to humans.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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Father-mother play
Gender:
Male